We are young and have not experienced many things, so we seldom think about life and seriously consider the future. I think you must think about one thing carefully now, which is very important to you, and that is: what is the significance of what you are doing now? What are you studying for? In order to complete the task given by parents or teachers? Of course you won't. I think it's probably for your future (but not enough to form a sense of responsibility for yourself).
Can the word "future" have a clear concept in your mind? Why is the future associated with going to college? As a person who is about to leave the university, I want to talk to you about my experience.
In fact, the real university is likely to be very different from what you think. I used to think that when I entered the university, I could relax and live a relaxed and chic life. I thought that after staying here for four years, I would naturally have the ability to live on it. After coming in, I soon knew that I was wrong. Although you don't have to immerse yourself in the sea of books every day, the pressure is not as small as before. The teacher is not as powerful as I thought (I am a good teacher, but the teaching method is still similar to that of high school), and the course is much deeper than that of high school. Learning a real skill is not as simple as I thought. More than two years have passed, not only me, but almost everyone around me feels that time flies. I have not learned anything at all, and I have not made much progress than before.
In fact, the real meaning of the university is only to provide us with a platform. Starting from this higher starting point than others, you must understand what you want to do, know how to use the resources around you, and how to arrange your time. Moreover, in order to complete the transformation from a student to a social person in college, there are too many things waiting for us to experience and too many reasons waiting for us to understand. Therefore, college is not easier than high school. You will gradually understand many things and be responsible for yourself. Now, there are no teachers or parents around to tell me what to do next every day. Everything depends on yourself.
Sooner or later, you have to face life alone, so from now on, you are responsible for yourself. Why do you study? Why do you have to do those annoying questions? Is to accumulate capital for your own life. Every effort you make is meaningful. You are realizing your dream! Knowing this, will you still have no motivation and be tempted by some dispensable things in life? I hope my words can make you think a little.
Finally, I hope you can get into the state as soon as possible. At the same time, I wish you can ride the wind and waves and cut through thorns in your later life. I wish you fly higher and farther.
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How to improve self-control? Here are some suggestions for the landlord's reference:
1? Strengthen ideological cultivation. People's self-control depends on their own ideological quality to a certain extent. Generally speaking, people with lofty ideals and ambitions will never have bad behavior because of trivial matters. Therefore, the most fundamental way to improve self-control is to establish a correct outlook on life and the world, and maintain an optimistic and healthy mood.
2? Improve cultural literacy. Generally speaking, a person's cultural accomplishment is directly proportional to his tolerance and self-control. People with higher cultural quality can often understand things comprehensively and correctly, understand their relationship with others, and consciously control and improve themselves.
3? Stabilize your mood. Use reasonable methods such as venting, diverting attention and transferring environment to vent and release emotions that will trigger impulsiveness, maintain emotional stability and avoid impulsiveness.
4? Strengthen self-awareness. When things happen, be calm, use your own brain, eliminate external interference or hints, and learn to make your own decisions. We should completely get rid of dependence on others, overcome inferiority, and cultivate self-confidence and independence.
5? It is necessary to strengthen practical exercise. On the one hand, we should strengthen study, accumulate knowledge, broaden our horizons, arm and enrich ourselves with knowledge, improve the level of analyzing and solving problems, and expand our ability to decide things by learning from other people's experience; On the other hand, we should actively participate in the practice of army life, exercise hard, constantly enrich our experience and improve our adaptability.
6? We should strengthen our willpower. We should cultivate the good quality of independent will in our own personality. Be highly aware of what you are striving for. As long as you find something through your own practice, you should go on without hesitation and strive to achieve the expected goal. You don't have to pursue perfection in everything, you don't have to demand that you don't fail at all, and you don't have to care too much about what others say about you.
7? Adjust the required structure. When demands cannot be considered at the same time, suppress some impossible demands. The ancients said, "You can't have your cake and eat it. I take bear's paw instead of fish. "
8? We should strengthen positive thinking. As the saying goes, "everything is established in advance, and it is abolished without advance." Usually pay attention to thinking about problems frequently, enhance foresight, and make timely, decisive and accurate choices at critical moments.
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You can exercise during the holidays, such as doing something you really want to do (watching TV and so on), doing it for ten minutes (planning the time in advance) and then stopping suddenly.
You can also make a bet with yourself. If I can't help it, then I'll ... although I bet with myself, I can't break my word.
Or, when you can't help it, imagine what the result is, the more exaggerated the better, and sometimes you have to think about it yourself.
What's more, once a plan is made, how much time to study and how much time to rest, once a person works for a long time, the self-control in the wall cannot be restrained. Work and rest!
Studying in a good atmosphere, such as studying with good classmates, will help you get better.
All of the above are very effective. That's how I got here. it wont hurt you to try it Well, finally, I wish you a smooth senior year and a smooth college entrance examination!
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