Question 2: The boss is a villain, and I have to get along with him. What should I do? It is rare for a man to be like a man. In what way is he a villain? It is necessary to prescribe the right medicine. Now that he has come, let's say a few words first.
My idea may be immature, depending on how old he is. If he can't help but ignore it, then have confidence in him. When you meet him, try to keep yourself calm and confident, and speak to him in a clear voice. If possible, collect some shady stories about him, and then give some hints at special opportunities. Tell him I'm not easy to mess with. Try to create opportunities to get on well with the boss's boss. You can scare him if necessary (don't do it if you have difficulties, try to avoid confrontation, but don't overdo it, he will be more mean. Do it when you have to.
Question 3: How to get along with villains at work! As the saying goes, one meter raises a hundred kinds of people. When a newcomer arrives at a new unit, it is impossible to meet a gentleman who is United, friendly and helpful. Basically, everyone will meet a kind of people at work-the little people in the office. This kind of person has a * * * characteristic, small skill and big face. He can rely on his work, and he can bully anyone who comes here. There's something to watch. There's nothing to stir up. When a newcomer arrives at a unit, it is this kind of person who should be most vigilant. Such people have done enough.
What do you mean, not enough? Losing is more than enough. In popular folk language, sugar is not sweet, but acetic acid. It may not help if he speaks well of you in front of the boss, but if he speaks ill of you in front of the boss, it will definitely affect the boss's opinion of you, that's all.
Newcomers may not be able to distinguish such people. There is the easiest way: see who has an unusual attitude towards the new couple. In my experience, such people will go to two extremes in treating new people: excessive enthusiasm or excessive indifference. Relatively speaking, colleagues who are always polite when dealing with new people are ordinary good people. Without conflicts of interest, ordinary good people are basically harmless.
So what about office villains? First of all, we must put our minds right. This mentality is not an enemy, and there are ways to cover it up. You know, such people are not the most important enemies in your work. If we regard work as a battle, our enemies are bosses and competitors, and they usually have no future-otherwise, we can have fun playing tricks on people! Opposing such people is pure self-mockery. Besides, there are no undead in a war. You should know that if you hurt the enemy 1000, you will lose 800 yourself. If someone encourages you to fight against such a villain, then the person who encourages you is the most insidious enemy. Many newcomers have the painful experience of being used as guns, that is, being poisoned by more insidious tricks.
If you want to overcome this, it's easy. Serious daily work is the best way to fight, also known as nip in the bud. Flies don't bite seamless eggs. There are always two people in the office who dare not bully. Learn from such ancestors.
There will be various specific problems in the work. Then analyze the specific problems. For example, he always asks you to do things for him. It is never tiring to do things, and it is also experience to have time to do more. Especially for many people, it is trivial work without technical content, and it is beneficial and harmless for newcomers to do more. However, if this can be stopped. What kind of enough is enough? Just don't let the boss misunderstand that you are idle all day or don't do your own thing well and mind other people's business. In addition, don't let colleagues in the office think that you are easy to bully, and all bad style will be your responsibility in the future. It's up to you to help or not. Arrange the work plan at hand as soon as possible, and the slower the better. In this way, the work at hand will become a reasonable shield for you not to help. If you feel that you can't keep it in the office, you should immediately ask the boss for a job, temporarily make up the working hours you just promised, and then hand over the promised job.
I had such colleagues when I was in the company. As long as I finish my work quickly and economically, I have to help others. Even if I don't ask you, the project manager will ask. There are many such things in the firm. This kind of help, white tired, still have to bear the responsibility. Later, I learned a lesson and grasped the progress, and handed in the paper just one minute earlier than the leader expected. Then drink some water and go to the bathroom.
Finally, remind the newcomer that if someone in the office has a conflict with such a person, don't involve yourself, even if you are angry with him on weekdays.
Why do you say that? First of all, some people do it and some people watch it. A person's quality depends on his attitude towards strangers, enemies and vulnerable groups. What kind of person is a villain? The boss knows very well that such people will not win if they quarrel. Hate is hate, but ignoring it shows a person's tolerance and tolerance. A valuable person, this moment will never beat Reservoir Dogs.
When I first started to work, I hated being in power by villains, and even doubted whether there was anything wrong with my belief in dealing with people. Later, when I was old, I realized that even a villain couldn't help eating. For another example, treacherous court officials are also very useful to the emperor. Only a traitor can be a loyal minister. Loyalists must be extra loyal and cautious to avoid * *. Treacherous court officials played another role of encouragement and warning. The villain is to the leader, and the traitor is to the emperor. The roles of the two are basically the same. ...& gt& gt
Question 4: How to get along with villains? Villains are everywhere. Usually, villains are not very kind and often use bad means to achieve their goals. Get along with the villain, a little careless, you will suffer a big loss; It is important to learn to distinguish villains.
Their words and deeds have the following characteristics:
1. Like to spread rumors and cause trouble: usually there is another conspiracy purpose, not just for fun; Sometimes, in order to get promoted, I will set off my own Excellence and vilify my opponents. They are afraid of chaos in the world and are used to making sentences by "listening", distorting the facts and making things out of nothing.
2. Like to sow discord: divide colleagues' feelings, create disputes and troubles, fight with each other, and the fisherman benefits. They are eloquent and good at clearing their responsibilities; Afterwards, he acted as a peacemaker and a double-faced spy, which is called "double-edged sword ghost" in Min language.
3. Like flattery: "Praise and encouragement" is different from "flattery and flattery". The latter is full of tricks, full of enthusiasm and sweet mouth, which makes people feel confused and at a loss in Tao Tao. They are more deliberately close to their superiors, and often wait for opportunities and have nothing to fear.
4. I like to obey Yin and Yang: In my work, my words and deeds are different. I am good at superficial kung fu and I am also good at taking the opportunity to take credit. When it comes to dealing with people, they are both two-faced. Sometimes they will praise you for telling your secret in front of you, but betray you behind your back.
5. I like have it both ways: whoever gains power will be attached to him, and whoever loses power will give up. Watermelon is close to the big side. They use the power of others to improve their position. Those who have no use value, they don't want to get close, at most they put on airs.
6. Step on other people's blood and climb on other people's shoulders: you plant trees and he enjoys the cool; Use you to open the way for them, and when they succeed, they will not repay you; Spindle turns your face and mercilessly erases you; How can they be grateful when they take advantage of others and take it for granted?
7. Like to hit a person when he is down: as long as someone falls or fails, they will catch up and make up for it; For example, exaggerating that person "deserved it" and so on. They are also wise after the event, and often make sarcastic remarks of schadenfreude.
8. I like to find scapegoats: I know that my words and deeds are wrong, but I refuse to admit it. I have to find a big head (soft persimmon) to take the blame. They are eloquent, dare to swear, and can mislead everyone. After a long time, people will be eager for money. Sometimes the "truth" sinks into the sea and is always blinded by twists and turns. In fact, the characteristics of villains are not limited to these. Anyone who despises the law, despises the truth, is mean and heartless, immoral, mercenary, selfish at the expense of others, and easily obsessed with ghosts ... usually has the character of a villain.
The ancients said that it is difficult to paint a tiger's skin but a tiger's bone ... They also said that when you meet someone, you can't throw all your words in my heart ... They also said that you can't hurt people's hearts and prevent them ... They also said that you can't judge people by their appearances, but the sea can't measure them ... They also said that an open gun is easy to hide, but an open arrow is difficult to guard against ... These are all teaching children.
When you see who the villain is, you should know how to get along with the villain. ~ To put it simply:
1. Don't offend the villain: never expose him alone because of his sense of justice ... Villains never consider themselves treacherous and unfriendly, they are highly sensitive, have sharp eyes and sharp tongues ... You are definitely no match.
2. Stay away from them: keep an unremarkable superficial relationship and never be as close as friends, because the villains are sweet-mouthed and ruthless, which makes you unprepared and at a loss. ....
3. Speak cautiously and politely: if you criticize or talk about other people's privacy, it will definitely become a handle for them to make waves or as a bargaining chip for revenge in the future; If they criticize or talk about other people's privacy, you should stop immediately and don't listen to a word, because they will definitely set you up anyway ... especially when they talk on the phone and often record your voice! Don't doubt ~ Are they that happy? Why are you so tired? This is the villain mentality!
4. Don't be interesting. They are sociable and engage in small circles. They look lively and have many benefits ... but you must never rely on them to get benefits, because they will definitely ask for double returns, and you will definitely lose more because of small things.
5. It doesn't matter to eat a small loss: because you are not only hard to get justice, but even more hateful; They are narrow-minded, cruel, endless with you, and you are more tired; The ancients said: endure a calm moment; Take a step back and broaden the horizon. You should take it as a practical lesson, so that you can grow up and win more respect. Besides, justice lies in people's hearts ~ who dares to be friends with villains? ...& gt& gt
Question 5: How to get along with the leaders of the villains, and you need to pay attention to getting along with others:
1, help each other and nourish feelings. Sometimes asking for help can show your trust, harmonious relationship and deepening feelings.
2. The balance relationship is not close. There are several people working together. Try to keep a balance when getting along, and don't be particularly close or distant from someone.
3. Colleagues don't ask about privacy. If you like to pry, even if you have no purpose, people will avoid you for three points
4. Diligent "upward" is annoying. It's right to respect leaders, but don't be too concerned.
We often say that "as you sow, you reap", which is reflected in interpersonal communication: if you want to be cared for, then you must first care for others.
Question 6: How to get along with the "little people" in the company? Therefore, it is very important to have a good relationship with colleagues of such small people. There are "little people" everywhere in real life. If you don't handle the relationship with the "villain", then you will suffer and your career development will be hindered. Some people may ask: so what is a "little person"? How should we get along with them? In fact, from the appearance alone, "little people" have no special appearance. The word "little people" is not written on their faces, but they can be distinguished from their behavior. Generally speaking, a "villain" is a person who does not follow the right path and often uses evil means to achieve his personal goals. Their words and deeds have the following characteristics: they like to spread rumors and cause trouble. They have ulterior motives in spreading rumors and making trouble, and they don't just enjoy spreading rumors and making trouble. ? Likes to sow discord. For a certain purpose, they can sow discord among their colleagues, make them not harmonious and profit from it. ? Likes to kiss up. Although such people are not necessarily villains, they are easily spoiled by superiors and speak ill of others in front of them. ? I like to obey Yin and Yang. This kind of behavior represents the style of people like them, so it may be different for you. It is also a kind of villain behavior. ? Just like the "fence-sitter", whoever gains power depends on who, and whoever loses power will abandon who. ? I like stepping on other people's blood. Is that they use you to open the way for them and don't care about your sacrifice. ? Like to hit people when they're down. As long as someone falls, they will kick hard in the back. ? Like to find scapegoats. I know I was wrong, but I won't admit it. I insist on finding someone to take the blame. In fact, the characteristics of "little people" are not limited to these, but in a word, anyone who doesn't care about the law, family and morality has the style of "little people". After recognizing the style of these "little people", we should consider how to deal with it. So, how should we properly handle the relationship with the "little people"?
The following principles can be used for reference. Don't offend them. As the saying goes, "It is better to offend ten gentlemen than one villain." Generally speaking, "villains" are more sensitive than "gentlemen" and feel inferior inside, so you should not * * * them in words, nor offend them in interests, especially don't expose them for the sake of "justice", which will only harm yourself. Since ancient times, gentlemen can't beat villains, so villains are evil. You don't have to worry about it, let someone with strength handle it. ? Keep your distance. Don't get too close to young people, just keep a dull relationship with colleagues, but don't be too distant, as if you don't care about them, or they will think, "What's so great about you?" At this time, you may be in trouble. ? Watch your language. Just say something like "it's a beautiful day today". If you talk about other people's privacy, say other people's faults, or make some complaints in front of him, then these words will definitely become their information to make waves and fool you. ? It has nothing to do with interests. Villains often form gangs and form forces. You must not rely on them to get benefits, because once you get benefits, they will definitely ask for considerable returns, and even cling to you, and it is impossible to get away. ? There's no harm in eating a small loss. "Little people" sometimes hurt you because of unintentional mistakes. If it's a small loss, forget it, because you can't get justice from them, but you will have bigger enemies and may suffer even greater losses in the future, so forgive them for the time being!
Using the above principles, can you get along well with colleagues of various villain styles? Not necessarily, but as long as you don't violate the above principles, getting along with the villains won't be too hurt.
Question 7: How to get along with the despicable people in the unit? Since I am a villain, I have already seen people's hearts. In fact, none of these people will be popular, will they? Don't worry about him, even if he makes you angry, people are not afraid of being crooked, but also afraid that he will set you up?
The best way to avoid being hurt by such despicable people and being slandered by such ugly and filthy little people is to stay away from such despicable snobs, not to associate with them and not to do anything with them, but in fact this is impossible. Therefore, we should also learn how to take the initiative to deal with the despicable eight self-protection methods.
1, definitely not included in the friends list. When you join a group (such as a school or work unit), you must divide your friends into "three, six, nine, etc." When choosing friends, we should adopt different communication methods according to different levels of friends. As for this scumbag, you should never put it on the list of core friends or bosom friends. It is best not to put it on the list of friends, as long as there is superficial etiquette, to prevent yourself from being hurt when you really pay, and to avoid being fatally countered by such people.
2. Avoid discussing important core issues with them. Everyone will have their own privacy, or need friends' opinions and suggestions on relatively important issues. If they are leaders, they need to listen to opinions in advance in major decisions of official or commercial affairs. At this time, we should try to avoid such people who are "weaker than the weak". They won't keep a secret for you. They will show off everywhere to show that they can master more core secrets than others, and be complacent about their special relationship or status with leaders.
If you don't want to screw things up, please keep your mouth shut to such people at any time and never discuss important or core issues with them.
3. Should we avoid it or not? For despicable snobs, because they often adopt the method of "the former set, the latter set", on the one hand, they try their best to suppress their competitors and create many difficulties for their own survival, on the other hand, they will try their best to kiss up to the leaders. Therefore, such people will generally gain the trust and reuse of leaders. Some of them are your direct leaders, some are your work partners, and some are your colleagues. What can we do? Since you can't be isolated from them in your work and life, the only thing you can do in the face of these people is to try not to or reduce contact with them, avoid or reduce contact with them in your work or life, and try not to reveal your privacy to him.
4. Resolutely abandon such people when the team is formed. As the saying goes, "a mouse excrement spoils a pot of porridge." If a team wants to have combat effectiveness, first of all, everyone in this team should have team spirit, cooperation spirit and dedication spirit. Despicable people first consider not the combat effectiveness of the team, but the cohesion of the team. They often think more about how much benefit they can get from this team. What they think most is how to calculate their colleagues and make themselves rich and famous. Sometimes, they will sacrifice the interests of the team and the collective for their own petty profits, which is the terrible thing about such people. Therefore, such people will inevitably become "rat shit" in a team.
5, do enough firewall to prevent despicable damage. For such a despicable snob, we should have a steelyard in our hearts. To treat such people, we must have the heart of harming others and preventing others. For this kind of person, you must remember the wise words handed down from your ancestors, that is, "just say three words, don't throw away all my heart", otherwise you will die miserably, and you still don't know how you died.
The best way to deal with this kind of person is to just listen and not talk, always update the firewall in your heart, always remind yourself not to expose your true thoughts easily, especially your views on leaders or friends, and never let this scumbag know and gossip.
6. Choose an opportunity to remind leaders to beware of despicable people. For the despicable person who is reused by the leader, remember never to directly say your meanness in front of the leader. Doing so often backfires. Most leaders will think that you are questioning the standards of employing leaders, the nepotism of leaders and their working ability. This is a "dead hole" that leaders are quite taboo. Some leaders will also think that you are jealous, so as to question whether there is something wrong with your character and personality, and ultimately affect your impression in the minds of leaders. The best way is to choose the right opportunity to help the leader analyze the reasons why something is not done well. You can vaguely tell the person who leads him the behavior in the unit, such as why he can't get the cooperation of his colleagues ... >>
Question 8: How to get along with a leader like a villain? If you think the work here is good, get on well with him.
Red envelopes, you know. Hug your thighs!
If you are not with him, change your job early.
Don't forget to tell your top leader when you leave!
Question 9: What should I do if I meet the leader of the villain? Crowding you out everywhere, in order to let one of our own superiors be a subordinate, everyone wants to have a good boss. You have a good boss, to some extent, as much as finding a good unit or finding a good job. A good boss is honest, kind, modest and tolerant in character. He has no reservations about your suggestions at work. Sometimes he is willing to be your working partner instead of condescending. In life, he is still your trusted friend.
But the boss is human after all. Everyone has his weaknesses, and there are many ways to be a man. If your boss is a third-rate villain, it's really your misfortune. This is really the case, so you must be extra careful how to get along. The so-called villain is the kind of person with bad personality, sinister mentality, duplicity and even meanness, but he is lucky enough to sit in that self-righteous position, so that you will feel sick if you curry favor with him, and you will be retaliated at any time if you alienate him. So many people in the workplace are deeply confused about how to deal with such a third-rate villain boss.
In order not to conflict with the boss, how to deal with the third-rate villain in the boss? Let's take a look at the following statements first, which may make us understand a lot of truth.
First of all, the arrogant boss
Some people are arrogant because they have superior conditions that others can't match, or they are superior in intelligence. Arrogant people are the most likely to stab others' self-esteem, which is disgusting. If your boss is such a person, it is better to stick to his post and be unhappy than to curry favor with others. In this way, although others are arrogant, they can't be greedy for their own careers and completely exclude gentlemen who are looking for jobs. You should show your unique skills at the first opportunity. As long as you are a talented person, you don't have to worry that he has no special respect for you.
Second, the fake boss
How to deal with a hypocritical boss? This is a very difficult topic. Because this kind of boss is very likable before his true face is exposed, but once his true face is exposed, it will be disgusting. After seeing through the boss's true face, few subordinates can keep calm, they will be angry, they will resist, and they will continue to find ways to expose the boss. But these are all in vain.
You may not think that the less you like such a boss, the better for him. High-level guard against hypocrites, because if the upper and lower levels are harmonious, everyone thinks that this person is very good, and high-level officials may be wary and afraid that hypocrites will replace themselves. However, if subordinates don't like him, and even have vicious reports from time to time, then the top management will think that this hypocrite can be controlled, but will be relieved.
Therefore, the more the subordinates dislike the hypocritical boss, the more consolidated their position will be. From this point of view, it doesn't help that you don't like him. On the contrary, the less you like him, the greater the harm you will do to yourself. Don't forget, hypocritical bosses are an upgraded version of narrow bosses, so no matter how kind they look, they hold grudges in their hearts. If you offend him once, he will always remember that if you treat him badly, he will harm you. If you try to attack him, he will kill you. The boss can speak ill of you behind your back and sue you on it. The boss can appoint Mazi to drag you down, even at the expense of the company's projects; The boss can help you openly and harm you secretly, so that you can't finish the work; The boss can set a trap for you to jump and then die slowly.
And you, a subordinate, a self-righteous subordinate, what can you do? You may write anonymous letters, or get together with a group of colleagues to swear. At most, it is treated coldly and negatively, but which of these things can hurt the foundation of a hypocritical boss?
In fact, a hypocritical boss can kill you by doing one thing, and he can do ten things without lifting a finger. This is an unequal war. In terms of values, character, morality, power and resources, subordinates are all ants and will be trampled to death by hypocritical bosses at any time.
There are so many losers in the workplace because they overreach themselves and think they can beat the boss. As an invincible myth in the workplace, a hypocritical boss will never be crushed by justice.
There is only one way to defeat a hypocritical boss, and that is to be more hypocritical than him. This doesn't mean that you just have to smile at people, but you have to abandon your so-called moral concept, turn yourself from a gentleman into a villain, and then become a hypocrite. Worse than the boss, more scheming, more patient, and even more desperate than him. Ask yourself, can you be a hypocrite? Can you hurt people with a straight face? Even if this is the only way to beat your boss, can you? I believe most people can't do it.
It is normal to fail to do this ... >>
Question 10: How to get along with a villain (this person is your leader). Don't be too serious about a villain, especially if that person is your leader. Don't bring obvious emotions into your words, control the content of your words, and avoid making people unhappy, waiting for revenge, and giving you a hard time; Think twice before you answer a question. If the other person's language is too nice, just bear with it. If the question of principle is tactfully refuted, remember: caution, forbearance, euphemism and generosity are best rare.
(For the truly successful place of the villain leader, if there is prejudice, we should praise it appropriately, otherwise we will be indifferent to the events that everyone admires and completely expose our disgust. )