Men are more prone to coquetry than wives.
A survey found that in 1400 families of different countries, races, educational backgrounds, age characteristics and income levels, there is an interesting phenomenon: the frequency of men's coquetry at home even exceeds that of their wives.
Men are also "coquetry", which sounds fresh. In fact, it is really a play in life, but most of them are only performed backstage. Life is a big stage. At the front desk, men play their respective social roles; Backstage, it is difficult for the general audience to see the performance of the characters. Most people are used to using the image of the previous stage to locate men, while ignoring the background image that men already have.
In the division of gender roles, women themselves have maternal characteristics, which is one of the reasons why men are more likely to coquetry in front of women in private. Another reason is the different social roles. Men have always played a strong social image and suffered more psychological pressure. Men are taught from an early age. If you are a man, a man should be strong. In the family, men are often regarded as the center of gravity, and they should use strong arms to shelter their families from the wind and rain. However, men are not made of steel. Just like women in nature, everyone has a fragile side and spiritual pain that needs to be comforted. In addition, when men want to play a powerful role in society, they have less opportunities to vent their anger than women. So when a man comes home, he exposes his vulnerability to his "psychological mother" in order to get spiritual comfort.
This is the capital for a man to coquetry in his career.
Psychologists believe that under normal circumstances, career is just an excuse for men, but it does not mean that spoiled men have no career. On the contrary, career is often their spoiled capital. Its manifestations are monetary capital and image capital. Money is a universal form of expression, and image is a symbol of status. In the initial stage of your career, you often need some external currency symbols, such as high-end brand-name suits, Rolex gold watches, coarse gold bracelets or necklaces. But when capital accumulation enters a substantive stage, they will suddenly realize the vulgarity of this form of expression and feel ashamed of it. Then they will dress casually like real big bosses and cover up their rising status with loose and comfortable mid-range casual clothes.
When there is no one, looking back on the past years, there will be a feeling of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Fear of impending death gradually rises to an anxiety, which often leads to endocrine disorders. At this time, they will spoil the woman they love with begging eyes like children. However, some wives think that this is the embarrassment that the husband can't face her after doing something bad, which leads to a deadlock in the relationship between husband and wife.
Not a coquettish killer
Only by mastering her husband's various ways of coquetry can we truly understand his psychological needs. When your husband is silent in front of you, when he suddenly burst into tears, when he is in extreme pain, when he wants to watch TV beside you, he should know his inner needs in time.
Experts believe that tears are not the killer of spoiled men. Although it is effective for women, it is not easy to use. But this does not prevent them from telling stories of their tears, which of course means pain. For a responsible man, various responsibilities can be listed when coquetry, including everything to family, wife, daughter, parents, country and career. Let the woman understand the great pressure he is under, thus giving birth to the feeling of "cherishing jade as gold".
In short, men in real life need a place to vent their feelings while trying to run their families and careers. At this time, the wife must open her heart to accept her husband's "coquetry", which can not only reconcile the feelings of husband and wife, but also help her husband effectively relieve stress.