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August 13? My father-in-law's anniversary.
Today last year, my father-in-law died of a diabetic heart attack. An old man who struggled all his life, was simple, self-restrained and wise, and left us. This is the eternal pain of our family.
Then think of:
I walked gently.
When I came softly
I waved my hand gently.
Farewell to the western clouds
I left quietly.
Just as I came quietly
I waved my sleeve.
Don't take away a cloud.
These poems are so in line with my mood, just like the respectable old man quietly leaving.
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My father-in-law was diagnosed with diabetes more than ten years ago because he was thin and weak, and he was diagnosed with early symptoms of renal failure a few years ago. In recent two years, the body has gone from bad to worse, and there have been several cases of hypoglycemia syncope in the middle of the night. Fortunately, my mother-in-law took care of her and rescued her in time before she was out of danger.
My parents-in-law lived in Yantai from June 65438 to April of the following year and will come back when the weather gets warmer. My mother-in-law was very worried about her father-in-law's physical condition, so she took him back early last year. After coming back, my father-in-law is better and fatter. Occasionally I learn to cook according to TV. When we go home on weekends, we will change food.
On this morning last year, my father-in-law said he was a little tired, so my mother-in-law helped him lie on the sofa. Mother-in-law felt that her father-in-law was so heavy that she couldn't move it herself, so she called two sons. My husband and brother arrived and helped my father-in-law to bed. My father-in-law was lying in bed and asked her mother-in-law to cook porridge for him at noon.
Before taking a nap, my father-in-law said that he felt uncomfortable. We discussed calling it 120, asked a friend in the hospital and said to go to the hospital at once. My father-in-law strongly disagreed. Over the years, my father-in-law has never compromised at home, and no one can argue with him about what he has decided. My mother-in-law knows my father-in-law's temper too well. My father-in-law said, I know what happened to me. Just lie down for a while.
So my father-in-law took a nap next to her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law was awakened in her sleep and her body was heavily pressed on her legs. At this point, her eyes stopped turning, her pulse was very weak, and then her hands and feet were cold and her face was bloodless.
Our whole family is very sad and heartbroken.
In this way, my father-in-law died quietly, without disturbing anyone, without making the child sick and filial before bed, and left us quietly and peacefully. Our hearts are full of endless sadness and regret!
My father-in-law's life is very strong and self-denying, and he is the last one to disturb others, including his children and lover.
It is a virtue that his old man believes in all his life not to cause trouble to others.
No matter when I was young, I worked hard for my studies and career, relying entirely on my personal ability to struggle; Or when you are old, you will never easily tell others what you can do. Until his death, my father-in-law kept himself clean and refreshing.
My father-in-law once said that I don't want to see myself lying in the hospital with all kinds of pipes. At the funeral, my father-in-law's sister came back from afar to say goodbye to him. My aunt said that my father-in-law is such a person. On his deathbed, he clearly knew that he would leave with dignity. Don't want to delay, even the closest and favorite people.
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My father-in-law was born in the northeast countryside, and he was smart and eager to learn from childhood. In high school, he was admitted to No.1 Middle School in the county. He and his mother-in-law are high school classmates. My parents-in-law were later admitted to universities in the city. After graduating from college, my father-in-law was admitted to Dalian University of Technology for postgraduate study. At that time, the graduate students of famous universities were definitely four nines. After graduation, my father-in-law was assigned to the provincial authorities in charge of chemical industry.
My father-in-law is eager to learn and willing to work, and has strong business ability. He can speak and write, give lectures to technicians, go to research institutes to do research, and help enterprises with projects, and soon he took up important leadership positions.
At home, my father-in-law can't put down books. He wrote several books in the field of chemical engineering, invented designs in his spare time and applied for several national patents.
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After my husband and I got married, all I saw was my father-in-law's busy figure. Father-in-law doesn't talk much at home, he speaks very methodically, and his thoughts are always clear, slow but reasonable. Looking back, I feel that my father-in-law never said anything superfluous, which really shocked me.
The relationship between father-in-law and mother-in-law is very good, but her mother-in-law likes to talk, and everything at home is in her charge. Perhaps this is the complementarity between husband and wife.
My father-in-law has been like this for as long as I can remember. He speaks well, dresses well, and speaks and behaves very gracefully and calmly. I have never seen my father-in-law in a hurry. Therefore, at home, the father-in-law is the authority of the mother-in-law, and there is no doubt about it.
After retirement, my father-in-law is still calm, calm and gentle, but he is also kind and amiable with some fireworks.
My father-in-law still likes reading books and subscribing to newspapers. When he has nothing to do, he goes to the library to look up information. Later, he got a mobile phone and watched the news and current affairs every day. I also like to talk about hot topics with us after dinner.
He goes to the market to buy food every morning to reassure his mother-in-law to go to Taiji Chuan. After returning, he designed three meals a day according to the recipe. He said he would make up for the housework he didn't do when he was young. People can't be idle, they must always find something to do.
My father-in-law is not addicted to alcohol and tobacco all his life and likes to eat snacks. Later, I had to control my diet because I was diagnosed with diabetes. Seeing that he sometimes finds some snacks to satisfy himself, we also change the pattern to buy him some healthy snacks. He will be as happy as a child at this time.
Father-in-law doesn't like noisy, but likes quiet. Because I went out to study in my early years, I had little contact with my relatives, only occasionally making phone calls. But as long as someone asks his father-in-law for help, he will help analyze and solve the problem clearly. His father-in-law is always objective, considerate, well-founded and very tolerant. If there are weddings and funerals that my father-in-law knows, he will definitely prepare gifts for us to send, but he rarely attends.
After retirement, my parents-in-law lived a life of waiting for him. Every time we go to the airport, my father-in-law won't let us pick up the plane. Because of my busy work, it is very convenient to take the airport bus by myself. When we insist on picking them up, my father-in-law will be very sorry and considerate to thank them in the car. On the last day of her death, she didn't let her mother-in-law call us when she was uncomfortable, for fear that the children would worry about her.
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My father-in-law is such a person. Although he left us, his cultivation and moral character will certainly benefit future generations, illuminate our life path and give us infinite strength.
The other day, my mother-in-law and I were immersed in grief this year, recalling my father-in-law's past, and we all said with emotion:
My father-in-law is really a good man and a lovely old man!
I have been strong, struggling, self-respecting, self-disciplined, transparent and wise all my life. I don't force myself or embarrass others.
Be decent, dignified and measured all your life. Don't drag out an ignoble existence!
Life is proud, life is calm!
You make us feel awe and reverence!
You are under the grave, rest in peace!