I chatted with a friend who just became a mother the other day. She said she was going crazy with breast milk. In the month of confinement, all kinds of ups and downs. After the full moon, because I was angry with my mother-in-law, my baby didn't have enough breast milk, and then I started chasing milk. ...
It's almost three months now, and breast milk has caught up. But recently, the baby's breastfeeding is not good. He always falls asleep before eating 10 minutes, but he wakes up after sleeping for 5 minutes and has to continue breastfeeding.
She was very upset about it. She is not sure whether the baby has had enough. She hangs on her body almost all day and cries when she can't put it down. At night, she also eats milk many times a night and is very tired.
My son was breast-fed until he was two years old. I have encountered this situation several times. At that time, I was also wondering if breast milk was not enough for my baby. Later, I experienced more breast milk and found that it is not necessarily that the baby is not full, but it may be these situations.
Situation 1: Breastfeeding was hard work, so I fell asleep.
We often say that "the strength of sucking milk has been exerted", that is, it has taken a lot of effort.
It's not too tired to watch the baby "tut-tut" drinking milk, but in fact, "sucking milk is really a very hard work."
Look closely and you will find:
Therefore, although the baby is breast-fed. It takes a lot of effort.
Maybe mothers have also heard that "the baby is the best breast pump". Similarly, it is still a little hard to suck milk with a breast pump, but if the baby eats a meal, the breast becomes very soft, which means that the baby is eating very cleanly.
So when the baby is breastfeeding, he will fall asleep after eating for a while, probably because he is tired. Especially when the mother's breast milk is insufficient and the baby is struggling to suck, it is easier to fall asleep while eating, but the baby is not full and will soon wake up to continue breastfeeding.
Situation 2: hypnotized by breast milk
Some mothers may have heard the saying that breast milk has hypnotic effect.
In Sears Encyclopedia of Healthy Parenting, the "breastfeeding hypnosis method" is mentioned: If you want your baby to sleep, you might as well let him breastfeed, so that the baby can fall asleep quickly.
Moreover, when the baby's crying is particularly difficult to coax, the mother can generally calm the baby down quickly by breastfeeding. This method has been tried and tested since my son was a child, and it works most of the time, which may be the same reason.
Situation 3: Not really hungry, but seeking comfort in my mother's arms.
Mothers may also find breast-fed babies very clingy. As long as his mother is by his side, he is very good and sleeps more stably after falling asleep. This is the sense of security that the baby gets from his mother.
Therefore, sometimes the baby frequently suckles, not really hungry, but just likes the feeling of being held by his mother. As long as she feels that her mother is still around, she is very practical, and breastfeeding is seeking comfort.
This situation may be more obvious, especially for babies who are habitually breastfeeding and sleeping.
Situation 4: It is also possible that the feeding time is wrong.
Sometimes the sleeping baby purrs or even cries, and the mother will habitually think that the baby may be hungry, so she will feed the baby.
But in fact, the baby's groaning and crying are not necessarily hungry, but may also have other physiological needs, such as peeing, hot and cold, feeling uncomfortable, wanting to comfort and hug his mother.
For a baby, he can't talk. After sending the "corresponding signal" to the mother, the mother failed to receive it in time, and the baby could only come up with the ultimate big move-crying.
If the mother only breastfeeds, it is "the timing of breastfeeding is not right."
The baby may fall asleep after a few bites, but will wake up and cry after a while because of "unresolved needs". If the requirement has not been solved, this state will be repeated.
How to correctly grasp the timing of breastfeeding in Ma Bao?
This is about understanding the baby's "various signals"!
Hunger signal: first look at the interval between two feedings to determine whether the baby is hungry. Second, look at the baby's sucking reflex. Put your hand on the baby's mouth, and the baby will keep sucking at once. Maybe the baby is hungry.
2 satiety signal: after the baby is full, he will resist his mother's nipple, spit it out on his own initiative, and even twist his head to one side to start playing or sleeping peacefully. In addition, if the baby can sleep for about three hours at a time, it means that the baby is full.
3 signal of defecation: If you find the baby twitching all over, twitching all over, kicking, or even stinking, it may be that the baby has urinated, so you can check it from the side of the diaper.
4 signs of discomfort: babies generally don't get sick. If they are unwell, most of them are food accumulation, flatulence, colic, vomiting milk and so on. In addition to breastfeeding, it can also be judged by combining breastfeeding interval, breastfeeding situation and whether the stomach is soft or hard.
In fact, it is not difficult to take care of the baby. Understand the baby's real needs, grasp the appropriate feeding time, feed if you are really hungry, and try to let the baby eat at one time, so that there will be no "sleeping after eating 10 minutes, and waking up for breastfeeding in 5 minutes".
Eat 10 minutes to sleep, sleep for 5 minutes and continue to eat. Not only does the baby sleep badly, but it may also affect the baby's growth and development after a long time, and the mother will be very tired and have a bad rest.
So how can this situation be corrected and avoided? Mom can try from these aspects:
1. Let the baby eat it once before going to bed.
Under normal circumstances, as long as the baby can eat enough, he can naturally sleep more solidly, and it is not easy to wake up hungry in the middle, so let the baby eat it all at once.
To judge whether the baby is full, you can look at these points:
① Performance during breastfeeding: take 2-3 mouthfuls and swallow once, and the mother's breasts will become soft after breastfeeding;
2 baby's mental state: when you are full, you will look satisfied and happy, and even smile unconsciously. You can sleep for 3-4 hours when you are full;
③ The baby's physiological state: After eating, the baby's urine is colorless or light, and it can wet 4-6 or 6-8 tablets a day; The baby defecates about 4-8 times a day, or even more times, and the color is golden;
(4) Growth: The baby who can eat enough has reached the standard in height/weight and other development indicators every month.
2. Adjust the indoor sleeping environment to make the baby sleep more comfortably.
For example, the house is too cold, too hot, too dry, and the light is too bright, which will also affect the baby's sleep. Therefore, it is necessary to adjust before going to bed, so that the baby can eat enough and sleep comfortably.
3. Reduce or avoid milk sleep
Babies who have the habit of breastfeeding sleep will regard breastfeeding as a habitual behavior of falling asleep, and let the baby associate breastfeeding with sleeping.
When you wake up halfway, you will want to take a few bites and go back to sleep. It's actually a comfort.
4. Don't worry about breastfeeding when you wake up halfway.
The baby's sleep mode is different from that of adults, and the alternation time of deep sleep is short. When the two sleep states of deep sleep alternate, the baby may appear to twist and hum, as if waking up.
Many mothers will breast-feed their babies soon, and the babies will fall asleep after a few bites.
In fact, at this time, if you don't breast-feed your baby and pat it gently, most of you can go back to sleep.
In short, the baby fell asleep after eating 10 minutes, but woke up after 5 minutes and continued to eat. There must be a reason why she can't sleep well. It is important that her mother can find out the reason and make corresponding adjustments.
In the first few months, there are indeed many feeding problems. If the mother can learn more about feeding and understand the growth and development characteristics of the baby at different stages, she can deal with it more calmly.
Finally, I recommend a column on parenting for novice mothers: The development, feeding and nursing of 0- 12-month-old babies are very detailed, and novice parents take care of their babies on a monthly basis.
In the form of video, the column explains in detail the baby of 0- 12 months: growth and development characteristics, common problems in feeding and nursing, key points and methods of early education, recommendation of age-appropriate toys, etc.
Explaining on a monthly basis is suitable for novice mothers to raise their babies on a monthly basis, reduce anxiety and fall into the pit, and help their babies develop better and healthier!
Did your baby fall asleep after feeding 10 minutes, but woke up after sleeping for 5 minutes to continue feeding? What do you think is the reason? Come and share your experience!