The key to success in life is to be able to overcome your weaknesses. Jealousy, blind obedience, laziness, greed, vanity...these human weaknesses affect our character, determine our way of thinking and behavior, and influence our success or failure.
Human Weakness Chapter 1*** Chapter 13:
Chapter 1 Unawareness—The Biggest Ignorance in the World
Chapter 2 Jealousy— The arrow is long but breaks other people's arrows
Chapter 3 Blind Obedience - The direction of the wind is the direction
Chapter 4 Laziness - Waiting for pie to fall from the sky
Chapter 5: Greed - the boundless sea of ??desires
Chapter 6: Stinginess - the iron cock who never pulls out a dime
Chapter 7: Inferiority - not as good as others in everything
Chapter 8 Dependence - Thinking about the meaning of life
Chapter 9 Vanity - For the sake of face, even if you are in debt
Chapter 10 Hypocrisy - Saying and doing are two different things
Chapter 11 Stereotype - thieves are all because of poverty
Chapter 12 Escape - escaping punishment is an instinct
Chapter 13 Luck - Speculation Psychological trouble
Smart people are very aware of their own shortcomings, but stupid people have no self-awareness.
As long as a smart person knows himself, he has nothing to lose. ——Nietzsche
Only by knowing yourself correctly can you make yourself confident and not lose your way at the terminal of life. Only by knowing yourself correctly can you determine your goals in life. Only by having the correct goal in life, being full of confidence, and striving for it throughout your life can you have no regrets in this life.
Knowing your own ignorance is the threshold to the palace of wisdom. ——Cha Spergion
Not knowing oneself also includes not being able to correctly assess one's abilities, feeling that one is sure, or always feeling that one can definitely do something well.
Doing things within your capabilities is always a wise choice.
It is not difficult to detect the wrong ambitions of others, but it is difficult to detect your own wrong ambitions, which requires a lot of sobriety. ——Goethe
Don’t point out other people’s mistakes by making them the same as others.
The most important thing in the world, no matter from any perspective, is to fully understand yourself. ——Montaigne
Only by knowing yourself objectively, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, and understanding your abilities and abilities can you discover your potential and then surpass yourself.
"I examine myself three times a day", reflect on what I have done and thought, understand my own strengths and weaknesses, and constantly correct myself.
Jealousy means that you are dissatisfied with yourself and envy others. Being dissatisfied with yourself is the beginning of envy of others.
A jealous person cannot accomplish great things himself, but tries to underestimate the greatness of others and belittle the greatness of others to make it equal to himself. ——Hegel
The excellence of others does not hinder your own progress. On the contrary, it may bring you unprecedented motivation. In fact, a person who is truly immersed in his own career has no time to be jealous of others.
Forget jealousy and your mind will gradually broaden.
A despicable person will try his best to slander that person if he cannot compare with the character of others. A jealous villain who slanders the merits of others behind his back will be speechless when he comes in front of that person. ——Sadie
Jealousy often comes from comparison with others.
The correct way to treat the strengths of others is to prevent others from realizing that you are envious of them, because this will make you appear inferior to others. You should secretly make up your mind to catch up or even surpass them.
Hatred is positive displeasure, jealousy is negative displeasure. So it's no wonder that jealousy can easily turn into hatred.
——Goethe
Hatred is often a manifestation of a lack of personal talent and will. Voltaire said: "People who lack talent and will are most likely to be jealous."
We can Make moderate use of the positive effects of jealousy to motivate yourself to keep moving forward, but you must not be controlled by jealousy and create a deformed competitive mentality.
Look deeply into your own heart, and then discover that all the miracles are within yourself. ——Bacon
Living should be to enrich yourself, not to cater to others. Everyone should stick to their own path and not be constrained by the opinions of others. We can't change other people's opinions, we can only change ourselves.
If you don’t have self-confidence, that’s really bad! It's even worse if you don't believe in yourself or doubt yourself. ——Chekhov
Following the trend and following the crowd is a "common problem" and habit of human beings. It is a "patent" for lazy thinkers. It is a negative ghost that is difficult to detect in our hearts. Only by making determination can we succeed. can make a difference.
Blind obedience is sad, but there is an even more sad intangible factor behind this sadness, which is the lack of firmness in people's hearts.
The truth is often in the hands of a few people, and what everyone thinks is correct may not be correct. Before following the trend, make rational judgment to ensure that your life will not be damaged.
Believe in yourself first, and then others will believe in you. ——Turgenev
If you want to achieve success in life and career, you must get rid of the bad habit of blindly following others, be good at using your own mind to think about problems, and make correct life decisions.
Laziness is a luxury product with a very high price. Once it is due and paid off, it will definitely not be repaid. Laziness moves so slowly that poverty soon catches up with it.
Once talent is dominated by laziness, it can do nothing. ——Krylov
Laziness is a kind of bad nature in people. In order to accomplish something, you must fight against it and transcend the constraints of this bad nature. This kind of resistance and transcendence is always forced by some external force at the beginning, and then gradually becomes internalized into a constant spirit and behavioral habit.
A person who enters a diligent state will not have laziness in his heart for a long time. Therefore, the most direct and effective way to overcome laziness is to keep yourself busy.
The punishment for laziness is not only your own failure, but also the success of others. ——Mir Renard
Laziness is often a character factor that causes many people to waste time and do nothing. Inertia is concentrated in the form of procrastination, which means that things that can be completed are not completed immediately, and today is postponed to tomorrow, and tomorrow is postponed to the day after tomorrow. As a result, not much was done, and the good years passed by in this endless procrastination.
If a person wants to control laziness, hard work is the only way.
The reason for laziness is trying to avoid difficult things, seeking comfort, fearing hardship, and accumulating habits. Once people avoid hard work for a long time, they will form habits, and habits will develop into bad personality tendencies.
Lazy people cannot achieve great things, because lazy people always covet comfort and are scared out of their wits when encountering the slightest risk. In addition, these people lack the spirit of hard work and hard work, and there is always a chance of luck. psychology.
Laziness is the enemy of learning, the enemy of work, and the enemy of life.
Genius is the ability to work hard and diligently without end. —— Carlisle
The same is "no time". Do you have no time to work hard for your dreams, or do you have no time to do things other than dreams?
A day of hard work will lead to a good night's sleep; a lifetime of hard work will lead to a long and happy sleep. ——Leonardo Da Vinci
External factors such as talent, environment, opportunities, and knowledge are important for a person's development and growth, but more important is one's own diligence and effort. Success does not simply rely on ability and wisdom, but also depends on everyone's tireless hard work.
In the face of desire, overindulgence is certainly not advisable, but it is also wrong to completely deny one's own desires. Perhaps what we really want is not to be free from desire, but to be free from the worry, anxiety and pain caused by greed.
Greed is a hell that brings endless suffering to people. It exhausts people's energy in trying to satisfy their needs, but it does not bring satisfaction to people. ——Fromm
Material is the basis of life, and the pursuit of material is natural. However, once a person falls into the trap of greed, it is like falling into an abyss, and there is no recovery.
Once a person becomes a slave to desire, he can never be freed from it. ——Cha Gao Jidi
Desire, never-satisfied desire, on the one hand is the driving force for people’s unremitting pursuit, which has fulfilled the motto that people go to higher places and water flows to lower places; on the other hand, It also explains the human weaknesses of "having a thousand fields means wishing for thousands of fields, becoming an emperor and wishing to become an immortal" and "a snake swallows an elephant when a human heart is not enough".
In fact, desire is not the source of all evil. It can not only make people fall, but it is also the ladder of human progress. The most important thing is to achieve a balance between desire and desire.
What people ultimately love is their own desires, not what they want! ——Nietzsche
In life, we must reduce our desires and know how to give up. Only in this way can we be freed from greed and gain inner peace.
Don't try to argue with temptation, avoid it, stay away. It is not important not to be tempted in the face of temptation; what is important is to shake one's conscience in order to be tempted. ——Montesquieu
Most stingy people are selfish and greedy.
If you think of money as God, it will torture you like the devil. —— Fielding
Wealth creates more greedy people than greed creates rich people. ——British Proverb
If you lose money, you lose little; if you lose friends, you lose much; if you lose courage, you lose everything. ——Goethe
Being stingy is like hell. The more you swallow, the more you want to swallow. You are insatiable. ——Augustine
It is difficult for a person with a low self-esteem to feel joy and happiness. The low self-esteem is very torturous. It is the greatest inhibition to excitement, optimism, and cheerfulness.
The greatest pride and the greatest inferiority both indicate the weakness of the soul. —— Spinoza
If a person has low self-esteem, he will not only dare not have lofty goals, but he will never excel.
Have confidence and then go all out - if you have this concept, everything will be successful nine times out of ten. ——Wilson
Human value is not compromised because of disability. From a personality perspective, all people are equal. No need for pity, no need for sympathy, no need for contempt, no need for contempt, no self-deprecation, no self-abasement.
Although failure is the opposite of pride, it is actually closest to pride. —— Spinoza
When a feeling of inferiority arises in a person's heart, it often leads to some very bad negative behaviors, such as unwillingness to communicate with others and lack of team spirit. Unsociable behavior; fear of competition and submissive behavior; rude behavior of being irritable and lacking in friendliness; evasive behavior of avoiding reality and feeling depressed, etc. All these results, "internally", can only be in vain self-harm and torture; "externally", they will make people feel that you are cowardly, incompetent and even despicable.
"Acknowledging that you are incompetent is undoubtedly creating opportunities for failure."
Confidence is the first step towards success. ——Einstein
Only those who dare to think, dare to do, and dare to face reality without fear of setbacks can succeed in their careers and be truly strong.
Many people fall into the fallacy of thinking that they will always benefit from the constant help of others, but they do not know that blindly relying on others will only lead to cowardice.
If a person relies on others, he will never be strong and will never be original.
There are too many people to rely on. You can only rely on yourself to survive. ——Napoleon
Either be independent, or you can only bury your ambitions and remain an ordinary person for the rest of your life.
Letting others exercise for us in the gym will never build our own muscle strength; trying to create a superior environment for our children so that they do not have to work hard will never allow them to be independent. Become a real achiever.
People must live by themselves, and they must live by themselves.
Although we can grow up relying on the protection of parents and relatives, rely on brothers and friends, rely on the support of friends, and gain happiness from lovers, no matter what, in the final analysis, people still rely on themselves. ——Goethe.
When fate hands you a sour lemon, try to make sweet lemonade out of it. ——Hugo
In order to train the little lion to be self-reliant, the lioness deliberately pushed it into a deep valley so that it could struggle to survive in the predicament.
The ups and downs of real life can only be experienced and felt by yourself. No one can provide you with eternal shelter. You should grasp the direction of progress, grasp the goal, and let the goal shine like a beacon high and far away; you should think independently, have your own opinions, and know how to solve problems by yourself. You should not believe in any savior, gods or emperors. Your character, your deeds, everything you have are the product of your own actions and cannot be changed by other things.
Vanity prompts people to pretend to be completely different from who they are in order to win the approval or recognition of others.
A little vanity, like a lot of love, is enough to make people pretentious. ——Gide
Psychologists believe that vanity is an excessive expression of self-esteem and an abnormal social emotion displayed in order to obtain honor and attract general attention. Vanity is a common mentality because vanity is related to self-esteem. Everyone has self-esteem. When self-esteem is damaged or excessive, vanity may occur.
People with a vanity mentality often have deep psychological defects such as low self-esteem and guilty conscience. Vanity is just a compensatory function, and they strive to pursue glitz to cover up their psychological defects.
Even if you are in a high official position and enjoy all the glory and wealth, as long as there is pretense, you will not experience true happiness. —— Daisaku Ikeda
Vain people are despised by wise men, admired by fools, worshiped by flatterers, and are enslaved by their own vanity. ——Bacon
Hypocrisy encourages people to cover up their sins with a veneer of virtue, thereby avoiding the blame of others.
Hypocrisy likes to hide in the noblest thoughts. It never tries to break away from thinking, because thinking can give it a noble reputation without any effort. ——Edmund Burke
Aphids eat grass, rust eats iron, and hypocrisy eats the soul. ——Russian proverb
Hypocrisy is untruth, unreality, and deception. Hypocrisy means duplicity, duplicity, and speaking the truth while hiding the secret.
Hypocrisy will make your life very tiring, because you have to weave all kinds of lies for yourself every day; hypocrisy will make your soul tired, because you have to face those unsatisfactory things every day. Laugh; hypocrisy will make you very confused, because you don’t know if others are also hypocritical, and you don’t know what they can believe in what they say. In short, hypocrisy is the ugliest weakness in human nature. It is like a bug in the darkness, bit by bit, slowly devouring people's souls and taking away people's joy and happiness.
As in so many things in this world, people are saved not because of loyalty but because of a lack of loyalty. ——Benjamin Franklin
You must not lose your prestige as a person, and you must not lose your trust in making friends. This is the rule of communication between friends.
Hypocrisy cannot create anything, because hypocrisy itself is nothing. ——Granin
Many people don’t understand themselves. The reason is that people always focus on others and fail to see their own problems.
A stereotype is a pre-existing opinion in people's minds about people, things, or a certain idea that expresses agreement or opposition. This original view has become a restraining force in people's thinking. Due to its existence, people cannot see or notice other things except a simple view. ——Din Morse
The primacy effect is an important term in communicative psychology. It refers to the impression left on someone during their first interaction, which forms and occupies a dominant position in the other person's mind.
First impression is difficult to change in people's minds. A good first impression will bring many conveniences to future interpersonal interactions and working conditions. Therefore, you must plan your first impression when you meet people.
Misunderstanding and laziness may cause more trouble than evildoing and fraud. ——Soviet proverb
A wise man’s eyes are sharp and he sees people accurately and appropriately.
If you think about the problem without prejudice, if you think about the general nature of these principles, you can come to a completely different conclusion. Because all principles are actually practical. ——Bradley
"I hope others can tolerate my shortcomings, so I often tolerate the shortcomings of others."
The first condition for success is true humility , I am willing to give up all my cherished prejudices as long as they are seen to conflict with the truth. ——Spencer
First, pay attention to the "projection tendency".
The phenomenon of attaching certain psychological characteristics of oneself to the other party is called "projection tendency".
Second, pay attention to the "first impression".
Because the first impression is preconceived, it is often more profound. It is very important to treat the first impression calmly and objectively, and to be mentally prepared to change or even deny the first impression.
Third, pay attention to “stereotypes”.
Stereotyping is the so-called categorization effect, which divides people into different types according to expected types, and then labels them to identify them.
Fourth, avoid “judging a book by its cover”.
Fifth, avoid "circular confirmation".
When you dislike someone or have a prejudice against someone, you should first rationally examine whether your attitude and behavior are affected by the prejudice, and consciously get out of the maze of prejudice.
It is a human instinct to avoid punishment. Most people will choose to pursue advantages and avoid disadvantages when choosing between "favorable" and "unfavorable" situations.
Escape is the sinking of the will and the betrayal of faith. ——Anonymous
When we are wrong, we must admit it quickly and enthusiastically.
If you make a mistake at work, you should report your mistake to your boss immediately. Of course, you may be scolded, but your boss will think that you are an honest person and may treat you better in the future. Pay more attention, and you will gain much more than you lose.
Carnegie told us that even fools will defend their mistakes, but those who can admit their mistakes will gain the respect of others and give people a sense of noble integrity.
Life is bound up with high responsibilities. ——Chernykhovsky
Escape is the most common, most typical and most hidden weakness in human nature. In fact, each of us is used to escaping, but escaping is a negative approach, which itself represents a kind of cowardice.
A conscientious person is responsible and enterprising. ——Suhomlinsky
People with evasive thinking are also prone to avoid the important and take the easy, because avoiding the important and taking the light is actually a manifestation of evading responsibility and punishment.
When difficulties come, when they are in deep trouble, instead of trying to find ways to face the suffering and meet the difficulties, they are bent on finding an excuse and a reason to forgive themselves, and then make themselves "brave" to take on those trivial tasks. , insignificant responsibilities come.
People who avoid the most important things often have two manifestations: one is to avoid the most important things and do the easy things no matter what they do; the other is to avoid the most important things when dealing with problems. , this kind of people always find various reasons when facing problems.
Avoiding the important and choosing the trivial will make you lose a very important "opportunity" in your life. If you like to avoid the important and take the easy when doing things, then you will definitely not choose the opportunity that involves taking risks. At this time, an opportunity for success that should belong to you quietly slips away from under your eyes.
If you avoid the important and take the easy in everything, over time, your psychology will become very fragile. If you always choose to bear the light, you will definitely not be able to withstand the baptism of life's wind and rain. Then, suddenly one day, when a storm comes that you have to face, you will have no choice but to die.
Any success I have enjoyed is entirely attributable to a strong sense of responsibility for my clients and my work. ——Leo Burnett
A cowardly person must cultivate and establish a sense of responsibility before he can bravely take responsibility and do what he wants to do. Otherwise, he will only be timid and will never do anything. There is no way out of the darkness. No matter what problems you encounter, even if you face failure, don't be discouraged. You must face it bravely and find ways to adapt to it with a positive attitude. Once the problem is solved, self-confidence will increase.
One speculation can be a fluke, two can be a coincidence, and three can become a trend. Luck is just a temporary gift that falls into the hands. Sooner or later, it must be returned. Life cannot possess it.
There is no such thing as luck, and even the most random accidents seem to be inevitable. ——Einstein
The psychology of luck refers to a psychology in which people do not abide by the objective laws of the development of things and use a subjective attitude to place their hopes of success on external forces and opportunities.
The mentality of taking chances hinders personal growth and progress. If a person is lucky, he will relax his requirements on himself, he will not have a high degree of professionalism, nor will he actually accumulate knowledge and talents, but will just think about how to take advantage of others.
The key to abandoning this unrealistic fantasy is to rely on real skills and maintain a positive and enterprising spirit. It is necessary to have a high degree of professionalism and sense of responsibility, to be dedicated to one's job, to be conscientious and to avoid negligence; to complete one's job with high quality and quantity, and to adhere to high standards.
Opportunism can only lead to a dead end. ——Anonymous
There is no chance of success. Once people cannot control their dependence on luck, they will have the urge to rely heavily on luck, causing things that go against the norm to expand at a faster rate. , which can lead to disaster.
Opportunism always makes people lazy. ——Anonymous
A single fluke does not represent strength.
J.P. Morgan said: "Don't gamble. If you lose money, you want to get it back; if you win some money, you will want to make some more. Ultimately, you will You will become a penniless person.”
Don’t think about achieving a good life without suffering. No matter how small something is, success must be achieved through legitimate efforts. If you have this awareness, even if you don't get unexpected wealth, you will achieve spiritual prosperity and freedom, and this kind of prosperity and freedom will be enough for you to achieve a valuable life.
Greed of luxury destroys people's spiritual purity, because unfortunately, the more you get, the more greedy you become, and indeed you always feel that you cannot satisfy yourself. ——Angel
The original meaning of "greed" refers to the love of money, the original meaning of "greed" refers to the love of food, and "greed" refers to insatiable greed, which means pursuing a certain goal that is not commensurate with one's actual situation. excessive desire.