Question 2: I have been in love for a long time and found many shortcomings in each other. What should I do if I can't stand it? There is no perfect person, and there is no perfect love. People will only expose their shortcomings in long-term contact, so you should try to be tolerant.
Instead of keeping everything in mind, it is better to solve all the problems slowly and thoroughly. At this time, what he needs most is your guidance. You can talk it over with him. When talking about his problems, you can also listen to whether he has the same doubts about you. If there is, it can be settled through consultation. * * * Encourage each other * * * Give each other positive energy. This makes it clear that we can get along better in the future. Running-in takes time, especially after crazy love.
Question 3: How to get along in love? What men and women must know when they are in love;
1, don't be paranoid.
Don't think you know everything about your lover's thoughts and feelings. Nine times out of ten, you will make a mistake. In the love crisis, the suspicion of chasing shadows often happens, which makes both of them very angry, difficult to communicate, and finally their feelings break down.
Take a piece of paper and complete the sentence "I guess lovers will think of me (for me)" directly according to intuition. Then, verify the correctness of the guess with your lover. As a result, you will find that many guesses are wrong. When in doubt, the best way is to ask him or her directly.
Don't take what your lover does for granted.
It is very important to express gratitude to your lover, and three negative attitudes should be eliminated: sense of power, unrealistic expectations and pretending to forget.
Write down what your lover has done for you. Ask yourself if you have expressed your gratitude for these things, and how to express it. Keep expressing gratitude 1 week, and you will find changes.
Don't blame each other.
"It's all your fault!" "You asked me to do it. Because of you, things are a mess!" Such complaints are easy to say. And words like "what responsibility should I bear" are rarely exported. Complaining is actually expressing accusations and threats, and the other party will naturally answer blows with blows, leading to an escalation of contradictions. Write down your complaints about your lover, then ask yourself, check your responsibilities, and finally discuss and find a solution.
4. Don't explain at random
"Now I understand why you are so picky. You are like your family. " This seemingly understandable analysis of lovers' behavioral motives will only lead to anger. First, understand the reasons why you are angry, learn to listen to your lover's point of view in an open and caring way, let your lover know that you are listening carefully with your eyes and other nonverbal ways, and finally put forward constructive suggestions.
5. Don't be afraid to say "no"
Sacrificing one's feelings and blindly satisfying the other side seems to be beneficial, but it is not sincere. Without sincere love, it is difficult to feel intimate.
Telling the truth can win the trust of the lover and deepen the relationship between husband and wife. List all the things you are afraid to tell your lover in order of difficulty. Then start with the simplest and try to tell your lover the truth.
6. Don't use silence as a weapon.
Silence is a deadly weapon in a relationship. Write a letter to your lover, express the reasons for your anger and your troubles, and strive for communication and understanding with your lover with a positive attitude.
7. Don't despise lovers.
In love, both men and women should avoid words that lower each other's self-worth. For example, "Why are you so lazy!" Wait a minute. List all the "How are you" sentences, then replace "you" with "I" and try to communicate with your lover with the sentences that begin with "I".
8. Don't threaten your lover
Verbal or physical threats and insults will inevitably lead to love conflicts. When you are angry with your lover, you must learn to control your anger. For example, stay alone in the room and hit the pillow with your fist until you feel relieved. It is best to shout it out while playing, but make sure not to be heard. When you are angry, write a letter to your lover, talk about the reason why you are angry, and be careful not to complain, just write down the harm you have suffered.
Lovers pay attention to tolerance and generosity, and even the biggest things can be solved through communication. Getting along well with your boyfriend makes your life more loving, and getting along well with your girlfriend makes you feel very happy at home. I wish all lovers will be well.
9. Don't deliberately provoke.
Choosing to indulge your behavior emotionally or physically is more like a provocation. Such as depression, profligacy and suicide. Find a place where the two sides can talk calmly for 30 minutes, then find out what their actions have added to their lovers and reflect on themselves one by one.
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Question 4: Will people in love get tired after getting along for a long time? It depends on how you get along. The longer we spend together, the happier we will be. The more you know, the more familiar you are, the easier it is to get along with. But if two people don't get along, the longer they stay together, the more painful they will be. But there is also a transition period. After we get to know each other, our shortcomings will be exposed and we will hate each other very much.
Question 5: How should two people in love get along? I believe that the love that every couple expects is just like "holding your hand and growing old with your son" in the Book of Songs. This is perfect. Love is a lifelong lesson, so learn how to love each other in love. Happiness is diverse, and everyone can have their own happiness. The key lies in the joint efforts of two people. Come on! Happy us.
Every couple will have a sweet life in the first three months, full of * * *, and you are jealous of me. These are all novel and * * *. But after a short time, you will find that everything is slowly fading. It is human nature to like the new and hate the old. What we can do is to try our best to maintain the length of this relationship. At least let the other person like the feeling of being with you. Never tired, always miss. Then even if love tends to be dull, we can face it indifferently. Accustomed to plain and stable love.
In the process of getting along, one thing must not be ignored. As long as you give the other person enough care and care, let him (her) know that you are very important to him (her), but also moderately. Enough care, enough consideration. Often reflected in the little things in life, such as: companionship when unhappy, care and protection when sick, and so on. It seems like a small thing, but it is enough for a lover.
Many times, many futures, we can't predict, let alone change. But if you don't even have the confidence to persist, the ending will definitely not be good. So we should have confidence to go on and support each other on the road of love. Working together, * * * is looking forward to a bright future. I believe that as long as we all want to, we can all go to the end with our lover.
After getting along for a long time, maybe we will complain that you have changed. In fact, we haven't changed, but we are getting closer and closer to each other. More and more like each other's shadows. Therefore, when two people encounter something, they should understand each other and understand each other's difficulties and difficulties. Start with the heart.
Communication is the most important thing in love. Especially in the later period. Love is like a grindstone. What we have to do is not to pick up unknown stones, but to polish the stones we have with our heart. Calm down when you are impulsive, and when your heart calms down, two people sit down and talk it over. Spit out your unhappiness. People are flexible, many things can be changed, as long as you have the heart and courage.
The feeling of love always feels sweet at first, and over time. Patience on both sides was worn away. At this time, the problem came. When you are sad, when you are sad. Think about why we are together, think about what we said at the beginning. Find your first love, be patient. It is not easy to meet the right person in life, so cherish it.
Question 6: I have been single for a long time, and I don't know how to get along when I am in love.
Question 7: Why do you get tired of being in love for a long time? What should I do? Love is divided into the following four stages, hoping to help.
The first stage: * * save. This is a period of passionate love. Whenever and wherever, lovers always want to be bored with each other.
The second stage: anti-dependence. After emotional stability, at least one party will want to have more time to do what they want, and then the other party will feel left out.
The third stage: independence. This is a continuation of the second stage and requires more independent time.
The fourth stage: * * *. At this time, a new way of getting along has been formed, and you (your) he (she) has become your (your) closest person. You support each other and create your own life together. When you are together, you will grow together, not drag each other down.
Question 8: How should people in love get along? The process of love is not all romantic, and there are more small frictions and contradictions to be solved. In this process of running-in and trying to accept each other, any small link that is not handled well will ruin feelings. This is definitely a technical job. Now these also have systematic information, you can have a look, there will be great gains. Therefore, it is suggested to find a shop called "Tian Xiaoyi Education Center" on Taobao, where the tutorial is more practical.
Question 9: Couples have been in love for a long time. What will happen if you are separated for a long time? Look at everyone's personality.
You will definitely miss each other when you are separated for a while, but if it lasts for a long time, your feelings may fade. This sentence can also show that people can easily have deeper feelings with people around them. Therefore, after a long separation, we should always contact and care about each other so that the other party will never forget their own good.
Question 10: How can we make love last? Many young men and women are easy to fall in love, but they don't fall in love for long. How can we make love last? Now there are new ways to help you make your love longer and happier. What happened to modern love? The reason is that the writer Cao Youfang said: "We put all our energy and talents on study and work since childhood, and the garden of feelings is naturally deserted." This means that although our external age has reached adulthood, most people still stay in the primary school stage in terms of emotional experience. Therefore, in order to win love in cheating doubles, it is not enough to rely on external charm and conditions. Love, like politics, needs more complicated skills and a cool head. Therefore, love believers who have retired from love may wish to learn the skills of evil men and women to manipulate love. Because love needs wisdom, not conditions. It is not enough to have IQ and EQ, but also to know how to plan. The following are seven evils that men and women must have in the process of communication. Although it is called witchcraft, it is actually a super secret skill to show charm and release amorous feelings. With these seven secrets, even in the sinister waves of love, you still have the capital to ride the wind and waves to reach the other side of success! Little anger breeds love. Everyone has heard the saying, "Naughty children have candy to eat". In the past, our education always told us "don't lose your temper at will" and "losing your temper is impolite". However, in the interactive relationship between men and women, as long as one party is sulking or too tolerant, it will only lead to more resentment in the heart and will eventually erupt. In fact, as long as the time, place and method are right, losing your temper at the right time can play a great role, because a little anger can help manage and adjust the relationship between the two sexes. Compared with sour cynicism, a sudden but sufficient temper can have an immediate effect on the dominant position of love. Showing off Xiu Xiu's talent "hate less when using books" can also be applied to your love field. An experienced flirt can only be invincible in love if he knows these three flavors. Everyone knows that it's not a loss to shop around. If you don't have any beauty, at least look at the weekly current events and jokes and present them at the most appropriate time so that others can learn your specialties. Otherwise, there is no capital and no need to compete with others in this free and open love market. Strangely, keeping a distance between lovers at the beginning of their relationship helps to add a little mystery and brew mutual love and infatuation. Lovers in communication should carry out this truth even more. If you want to talk about a long-lasting relationship, you'd better avoid getting along with each other day and night, and give each other more space and respect, so that you can win the final victory. Mr. Wu Ruoquan, a writer who makes the other person moderately sad, believes that in the process of two * * *, it is often the biggest lethality of love, so making the other person moderately sad can make the relationship between the two more flexible, but remember that it is not to let the lover fall into despair, but its size depends on how much pressure the other person can bear. For example, one of the lovers asks, "Will you love me for a long time?" In this kind of problem, if you know that there are many unknown variables in the future, but you sing "Love you for ten thousand years" to him instead, I am afraid that your feelings will change in the future and you will fall into the name of giving her fickle feelings in vain. However, if your answer is "I will try my best, but I can't guarantee it!" " "Maybe the other party will feel a little sad when they hear it for the first time, but an honest attitude will make the mood develop in a more rational direction and avoid unnecessary quarrels. Flirting is intoxicating. When it comes to love, everyone thinks they are the most serious. But in the process of getting along, being too serious will cause unnecessary pressure. Love with a sense of humor is unforgettable. For men and women who are interested in communication or love, moderate flirting and sweet words from time to time really help to sublimate their feelings. silence is golden. Although it is a long-standing proverb, it does not apply to love. Sweet words can be said to ignite the flame of lust.