Why do tall, rich and handsome men become emotional cannon fodder
"Tall, rich and handsome" has always been a label for those high-quality boys. There was once a popular saying, "I would rather cry in a BMW." , and don’t want to laugh while sitting on a bicycle. “But that doesn’t seem to be the case now.
Many people think that if you have good looks, a career, and money, you will definitely have love. But this is not the case. I witnessed with my own eyes a good-looking Bentley GT handsome guy who was angrily dumped in a restaurant and burst into tears and was heartbroken. Today I will use this bloody case to tell you how to avoid becoming emotional cannon fodder.
Many people think that if you have good looks, a career, and money, you will definitely have love. But this is not the case. *** I witnessed with my own eyes a good-looking Bentley GT guy who was dumped angrily in a restaurant and burst into tears and was heartbroken. Today I will use this bloody case to tell you how to avoid becoming emotional cannon fodder.
This morning, *** went to the meeting with huge eye bubbles. Teacher Amigo could tell at a glance that *** was suffering from sleepless nights syndrome. "What did you do last night? Did you cry?" "I didn't cry, I cried with a boy all night."
This is what happened. . Originally, ***'s little brother had invited some friends to have dinner together on this day. After receiving ***, his girlfriend called and said that he was on the set and had just finished work and asked him to pick him up.
This little brother drives a Bentley GT, and he looks a lot like Chen He. Everyone calls him Zeng Xiaoxian, or Brother GT. I heard that he has been in love for a while, and his partner is a beautiful woman, and he will also participate in the recording. After some TV shows, I finally had the opportunity to see my girlfriend in real life. Everyone said that I would invite my girlfriend to have dinner with me.
So the whole process turned into a set where GT brother knelt and licked to show his affection. Coming out of the garage, my friends seemed like air and no longer existed. The two of them were almost walking together, the girl kept doing it, and the boy kept licking it.
Really capture your lover emotionally
From simple: What to eat? Whatever! Steak? No! Hot pot? No! What to eat? ? Whatever!
Until: Why don’t you even know what I like to eat? You can’t even choose dinner. What’s the use of you? Who do you think I am!
Although in terms of appearance, his girlfriend is a little Internet celebrity who has successfully undergone plastic surgery and has a good figure. Although it is said that posing is a girl's patent, the more coquettish a girl is, the more arrogant she is, but in This is very inappropriate in front of your boyfriend's friends when you meet him for the first time.
Brother GT seems to have no temper at all. He is the best among all kinds of wives. My wife, I was wrong. You are the most beautiful, okay? At least with this effort, I finished ordering the dishes.
Seeing this, everyone must have guessed that the entire meal was almost eaten on one's knees. But the dramatic scene begins here.
Brother GT picked up his phone and took a look. He probably opened WeChat and was browsing. His girlfriend looked at him and said, "Who is this woman! She is chatting! Who!" Brother GT said, "It's just a female friend..." The girlfriend immediately yelled, "How is that possible? Show me! Hand over the phone! I want to see the record!" Brother GT may have been scolded all night, and he lost face in front of his friends, and finally couldn't help it. , talked back...
"I'm just an ordinary girl. I can't chat with girls? Do you have to do this? Okay, then tell me, the red one you posted on Moments last time Who is that sports car with a full sunroof? Who picked you up?" His girlfriend's face changed instantly! The authority was provoked for the first time today.
Bang, I threw the fork, "What do you mean? I told you it was a special car!" "No way! A car at this price is a special car? And you go out drinking with a man at night, secretly? Do you think I'm stupid for hiding it from me?"
Bang, slapped the table again, girlfriend super mode, "Ha! Then you are questioning me now? Let me tell you! This relationship has nothing to do with You just talked nonsense! I can only question you! Where is your turn to question me? You don’t have to worry about who I talk to!"
The atmosphere at the scene has reached zero point. Brother GT was so surprised that he couldn't speak. My girlfriend stood up quickly, picked up her bag, and said, "You loser, let's break up. You can get out!" She turned around and walked away without looking back.
The whole atmosphere was extremely awkward. There is a piece of lemon chicken on ***'s fork. The name of the dish seems to be something like the taste of first love. Half of the piece is in his mouth. I don't know whether to chew it or not. Brother GT didn't say a word. He suppressed his blush and paid the order. His eyes were already red.
After hastily finishing dinner, GT brother drove *** on the way home. Rang remained silent and tears were flowing quietly. On the streets of Shanghai with such complicated traffic conditions, he stepped on the accelerator furiously. . Driving to a small road, he stopped the car and finally couldn't help crying loudly. "I regret why I talked back and why I broke up. I regret it."
Brother GT calmed down and *** made an in-depth understanding and analysis of this relationship with him. Why on earth, a rich, handsome man in everyone's eyes would be dumped angrily and become a loser in the relationship? And is such a relationship worth saving? Whose fault is it? Can it be avoided?
First of all, this is an established relationship between a man and a woman, yes, but only in name only.
Girls require boys to pick up and drop off at any time. For example, on this day, Brother GT sent his girlfriend to the set at five o'clock in the morning, and then picked her up again after she finished. I asked him why he was always on call, and he said this: "She is usually very busy and rarely replies to my WeChat messages. If she needs me, I must show up! Because I know she is not short of people to pick her up. If I don't go, she will naturally not go." Someone else would go. With the photo of the red sports car last time, I knew she was definitely lying to me. It was not a special car. I also specifically asked to verify it. I didn’t want other men to pick her up, so I was able to pick her up. I must be there when called. Don't give others a chance." *** At that time, she looked at him with a little pity.
I asked about their sex life again. The girl was very resistant to *** and told him that you can only look at it but not touch it. It all depends on my mood.
At this point, it is very obvious that this pair of boyfriend and girlfriend are friends in name only.
In this relationship, Brother GT is a spare boyfriend, or a wallet boyfriend. In this relationship, the man is in a state of full devotion and kneeling, while the woman's emotional investment is very low. This relationship is unbalanced.
What are the symptoms of unbalanced feelings? First of all, girls give very little, but boys give a lot (this girl is very good at guiding boys to give). Be available when called and never show up when you don't need to. The reason for not replying on WeChat is, "I'm very busy. There are a lot of things to do, so don't disturb me. I will naturally find you if I want to find you." Time, feelings, money, and dedication in all aspects, both parties are in extreme In an unbalanced relationship.
Pulling both parties to a balanced position
How does an extremely unbalanced love relationship form? We talked about this in our AMIGO team love business class Concept:
In the process of getting along with male and female friends, both parties will use the method of testing each other's bottom line to determine the rules for how they get along. Once this rule is formed, the love model of two people is formed.
In the model of Brother GT and his girlfriend, it is the girls who are always crushing Brother GT’s bottom line. From picking up and dropping off at 5 o'clock in the morning, to going out to drink alone with male friends at night, she would not respond to WeChat messages, and refused to have sexual intimacy. Every time GT asked her, she said that I didn't cheat, and if she wasn't happy, she would break up and hang out. Around the mouth.
When Brother GT failed to pick him up once, she posted a photo of him sitting in a sports car, sending out a signal requiring the other party to obey. Brother GT simply believes that since the relationship is confirmed, he must accept everything from the other party. Even if he is a little unhappy, he will still choose to compromise.
Slowly, this rule was formed. Once formed, it is difficult to change and can only gradually widen the gap between the two parties.
AMIGO calls this the "boyfriend *** method". As boys who have received our training, we will teach them the corresponding "girlfriend sex method".
What are the consequences of an unbalanced relationship? Some people may say that I love my goddess and I should be good to her unconditionally. Then let's analyze the consequences of kneeling and licking for a lifetime.
Girls kept testing the bottom line, and eventually, they began to do things that touched the bottom line more deeply. For example, it makes men unable to get off the stage in public, and it embarrasses boys in public. Another example is posting some photos with other boys in Moments, going out alone with boys at night to eat, drink, date, etc.
Especially when it comes to interacting with other heterosexuals, boys are reduced to protectors and can only humble themselves, accepting girls’ willfulness and nonsensical sexual intercourse, as well as their constant trampling on their own bottom line.
The breakup scene between a GT man and his girlfriend is not accidental. The endless provocation of the bottom line will sooner or later lead to the kneeling man being humiliated and angrily dumped.
So how can we obtain an equal relationship? Especially when the woman is so suppressed, how can the man adjust the relationship so that he can obtain a balance, or adjust the relationship to a relationship that is beneficial to men? , to establish a male-dominated framework?
I remember that one of our students, L, was in love with his girlfriend in Shanghai. During the holidays, L went home to visit relatives, and the two spent some time together in different places. Maybe it’s the loneliness in a different place, maybe it’s boredom. My girlfriend posted a photo of her naked legs on social media. It’s very sexy. The caption is also very ambiguous: “I’m alone at home, who will accompany me?” Play."
A started to feel uneasy at that time. So I asked Teacher AMIGO for help. AMIGO told him that at this time, he should avoid questioning or arguing. Doing so would only lower his status and even further arouse his girlfriend's rebellious psychology and increase the possibility of cheating.
Always arguing or controlling will not help solve the problem, but will promote the formation of unbalanced rules.
L was very frustrated and worried at the time. After all, he and his girlfriend were separated by two places, and his girlfriend’s behavior was indeed too ambiguous. At this time, AMIGO just asked Little L to do a simple little action, and asked Little L to also send a status on Momo, "***Nightclub team up for a chance encounter."
Cooperated with some prior arrangements Send him a group photo of a beautiful woman, and then mobilize a large number of beautiful women's accounts to leave him messages in the comment column, and instruct those girls to make their messages "ambiguous" as well. This strategically brings both sides to a balanced position. This method of "treating the other person in return" is almost an invisible framework, and the effect is naturally very successful!
Within about half an hour, my girlfriend beat A continuously. After more than a dozen calls, L finally answered the phone proudly. This brief interlude in another place was resolved.
So back to Brother GT, is this relationship worth saving? He cried and told me that she would go to Madai tomorrow, and he could not imagine what she would do there now that she was single.
I said, this is definitely not a casual trip, and you know very well why she dumped you on this particular day. Maybe when she comes back to Shanghai, she will need a driver again. And you must think clearly, do you want to be a boyfriend, or do you think you are a boyfriend, but in fact it is just a free Uber.