How to read a woman's heart? In life, men always complain that women's hearts are too elusive. They always think that girls are terrible, and if we want to know a woman, we must not just look at the surface. Here are some ways to read a woman's mind.
How to read a woman's heart 1 1 and say what you should say.
Don't think women are easy to use. It's your clothes. Wear it if you want, and take it off if you want. Don't think that women are worms in your stomach. If you don't say anything or do anything, how will she know whether you love her or not? So you should be direct in your words and deeds, and let her feel that you have given her warmth.
2. Pay more attention.
Women sometimes like to be spoiled. Don't ignore her when she is spoiled or needs your care. If you ignore her coquetry, she may think that she is not important in your heart. This is one of the ways to read a woman's heart.
Everyone has self-esteem.
Don't say to her motionless: what do you know? Stay out of my business! People also have self-esteem, even in front of the man they like, she still has self-esteem, especially in crowded occasions, she is also a person, or an ordinary woman!
4. Give some space.
Give her some freedom and space when she is alone. Don't say what happened to her today, why she is so strange. When she is quiet, you can hug her or go back to her without asking her why.
5. Distinguish between right and wrong.
In her life and work, there must be friends of the opposite sex, and sometimes even bosom friends. Don't worry, women often share love and friendship more clearly than men, because she cherishes her family and children very much, and she knows it very well!
6. Need care.
How to read a woman's heart? Don't always be self-centered, go your own way, and like to go out to play alone. You know that no matter how generous and confident a woman is, if she lives alone for a long time, she will admit that you don't like being with her and worry that you will get tired of her. You are kidding! Maybe you can think about it from another angle.
7. Don't be jealous.
Jealousy is a woman's patent, but a man with love will be jealous. If a woman doesn't eat your vinegar one day, she can only tell you that she doesn't love you anymore, but if you let her eat too much vinegar, she will be sad and leave you she loves.
8. Have a sense of crisis.
The world doesn't laugh very often: ten men have nine prostitutes, and one is still shaking. But not absolutely. The sense of crisis is the key, that is, the ratio of men to women in this world is always smaller than that of men. But every man wants to have several women, sometimes holding one, staring at one, thinking about one or even several ... The conclusion is that women will always have a gender advantage over men!
How to read a woman's heart II. How to grasp a woman's heart?
The first step is to speak for the first time and show your true self.
The friend mentioned above who failed in blind date frequently made serious mistakes the first time she met a girl.
On the first day of each blind date, he was very nervous, constantly reminding himself what to say and how to say when introducing each other. Just like reciting lines, he simply remembered what he wanted to say. When he finished his preparation, he felt that he had completed the task without communicating with girls.
Talking to girls like this the first time we meet, showing a boring, wooden man with low emotional intelligence, makes girls feel that they have nothing in common with you, can't talk together, and of course can't get together.
If you want to leave a good impression on girls when you meet for the first time, you must learn to show your true self and make girls feel that you are a trustworthy and reliable man, which is what we often call a "positive first impression".
Gotman wrote in the Communication of Love:
A positive first impression has nothing to do with good looks. Only if you are really interested and enthusiastic to get to know each other can you leave a positive first impression on each other.
So, how to show yourself?
First of all, we need to talk openly.
When a girl asks about your career and family situation, don't hide half of it. Your ambiguity will leave a insincere impression on the other party. Seeking truth from facts, it is more sincere if it is inconvenient to directly explain the reasons.
Secondly, when chatting with girls, don't look around, or stare at her with erratic eyes, and don't interrupt each other at will.
Speak politely and keep your eyes firm. You can look her in the eye. If a girl takes the initiative to share her things with you, listens carefully and responds occasionally, she will feel respected.
Furthermore, we should learn to encourage and guide girls to talk about their own affairs, rather than leading the conversation.
Girls may not be so open-minded when they meet for the first time. You should give her time to talk about yourself and encourage her to introduce her work, life, hobbies and so on.
Finally, learn to use open-ended questions and answers.
For example, a girl is a designer. Don't end the topic with a "good", learn to ask questions, such as: Why did you learn design in the first place? If her major is not design, but she chooses design after work, you can ask her why she chose to work across disciplines.
The answer to open-ended questions is not "yes or no", but full of jumping feeling, which can improve the efficiency of chatting and make it easier for both parties to show their true selves.
When you master these three chatting skills, you will naturally attract girls.
In addition, when listening to her, you should also pay attention to your tone, speed of speech, and stare at each other's eyes. Some psychologists have done research:
Let strangers look at each other for 2 minutes. This kind of eye contact soon gave them a strong sense of intimacy and mutual love.
Blind date is difficult to talk about, so you have to be careful and not perfunctory.
Step two, think about each other on the first date.
If the first step is done well, you can make an appointment with the other person after the first meeting and before breaking up.
The next date is the real first date, and you fall in love with each other. At this time, girls may have a good impression on you, not because they hate you and want to know you better, but it doesn't mean that girls' hearts are completely caught by you.
You need to show your charm on the first date, let the other person see your advantages and feel the security of you together.
Don't think that dating girls only likes watching movies and eating. These activities are too dull to show your charm. Talk like you just met when you eat. After dinner, you watch movies and go home. It's hard to enhance feelings on such a date.
The key to a successful date is not which fancy restaurant you take her to for dinner, but whether you can give her enough security and trust when you are with her, and whether you can consider her.
For example:
After getting to know her to a certain extent, according to her personality and hobbies, plan some dates that can achieve results without spending money. Go on picnics, visit exhibitions, go to suburban go on road trip, and so on. Are all good ways to date. The key is to make this date interesting and let the girls feel your intentions.
Another example is:
You can take her to the playground for a crazy day. Most girls have such a dream that someone can accompany her to the playground like her parents and feel the happiness of childhood again.
The merry-go-round is the standard for playing, and the bubble machine is indispensable. Buy her cute or funny headdresses and take photos of various styles.
Take her to play some exciting projects, such as roller coasters and pirate ships.
Psychological research shows that under the stimulated activity, people will produce hormones similar to love in their brains, and dopamine and adrenaline will rise, which can arouse the "love" of people around them and make her feel like a deer bumping into each other, thinking that she is in love with each other.
This is also called "suspension bridge effect" in psychology.
Once a girl has a feeling of heartfelt love for you, your weight in her heart will become different.
Of course, don't forget to talk during the date. Constant conversation will give her a sense of attention. You can talk about your hobbies, family and friends, life dreams and so on.
Secondly, we should know how to protect her, be careful, let her go inside and pay attention to her hunger and thirst in time.
This official date is different from when we first met.
She has a good impression on you in her heart, but she will examine whether you are suitable for living together, so she will pay more attention to details. If you can show your charm, gentleness, confidence and security in time, she will look forward to your next invitation after the date. Because you walked into her heart, she felt good about you and was willing to walk into this relationship.
No one is born in love, personality can be changed, and love skills can be learned. This "two-step" is good, and it is easy to get rid of the order.
Please remember that there is no love for nothing in this world. Strive for it and love it sincerely. Time will not disappoint everyone who cares.
How to read a woman's heart 3 1 Understand her, respect her, support her and praise her.
To love a person, we first need to know a person, her hobbies, personality and living habits.
Knowing her and respecting her habits and hobbies can better communicate with each other.
In life, give more support to each other, support her independence, support her work and support her decision.
Let her feel the value of her existence.
A woman needs praise, and praising her is also a kind of love. A man should not be stingy with his words, but should praise her more. She was very happy.
2. Understand her heart and love her in her way.
Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle. To win her, we must first understand her heart.
Knowing her is also to know her better, to know what kind of life she needs, to know her temper and personality, and to be comfortable with her.
To love a woman, you need to read her heart and understand that she loves her in her way. She will love you more and even be dead set on you.
A man should understand a woman, understand her heart, be a worm in her stomach, and know what she wants every move.
Willing to spend time with her so as not to make her feel lonely.
A woman in love just wants someone to accompany her to end the endless loneliness. Men need time to spend with her and have sex with her. Chat, cook, read, play and travel together.
If a man loves her, he must have time to accompany her and give her a sense of security.
4, generous and not stingy, willing to spend money on women.
The way men love women is to give money, and women don't necessarily spend a lot of money. But as a man, you should take the initiative to spend money for women. Let her know that you are not a stingy person.
In fact, many women don't really like spending men's money. They always hope that their men are willing to spend money on themselves.
But when it really costs money, women will be reluctant to part with you if they love you.
This may be because women are testing men. A man who is willing to spend money will be generous in his later years and will not haggle over every ounce. Men who are reluctant to spend money should also be very stingy in life.
5, know how to communicate, be honest with her, do not cheat, do not hide.
When a man loves a woman, he needs to be honest, not hide or deceive her. Usually communicate with women and talk about their worries. On the one hand, it can relieve the pressure, on the other hand, it can make the other person know you better.
There is no room for cheating in love. Men must be honest.
6, know how to be romantic, give her small surprises from time to time, and keep the freshness of love.
Love needs freshness, surprise and romance. As a man, we must learn to understand romance. Even if we give her a small gift, the woman will be very happy.
If you love her, you must learn how to love her and how to make her happy. A woman's happiness is very simple. She will be happy for several days in the face of a few sweet words from her beloved man.
7. After quarreling, you need to apologize and ask for his understanding.
Take the initiative to comfort him after the quarrel. Women like to be angry, but if you take the initiative to comfort her, she will soon forgive you.
As long as it is not a matter of principle, you can bow your head and admit your mistakes. Men should be generous and don't need to be angry with little women.
People who really love her have her in their eyes, and everything about her is very important. They will care about her feelings, understand and tolerate her little faults and temper, instead of complaining about her.
Because you know how to cherish her, you love her deeply, and who do you think will apologize first is a small matter. The important thing is that she can be happy.
8. Give her free space and don't bind her tightly.
If you love her, you should give her free space. Love is selfish, love is great, and it can make people change subconsciously.
In this process, I hope you can understand that since you love him, you need to get along with him in the way he likes. If you love him, you need to know how to respect him so that he can feel free.