The importance of family, the importance of parents, we can also use those "prodigies" who eventually become "mortals"
Look carefully. I think the disappearance of prodigies, which people often say, is generally divided into three processes. Here we are named after three famous prodigies, namely, Fang Zhongyong phenomenon, Jin Xiongrong phenomenon and Sidious phenomenon.
Fang Zhongyong is a prodigy in Wang Anshi's works. He said that during the Song Dynasty, a farmer in Jinxi County, Jiangxi Province had been farming for generations. Suddenly, one day, five-year-old Fang Zhongyong asked his father for a pen and paper. His father was very surprised. He borrowed it from his neighbor soon, so Fang Zhongyong wrote a poem and signed his name on it. After the news spread, everyone was surprised and invited him as a guest. Someone even paid him to write a poem, and his father saw that it was profitable. He was not allowed to go to school. When he was twelve or thirteen, Wang Anshi met him. By this time, his poems were already very general. After seven years, Wang Anshi asked about his situation, but the answer was "Everyone has left!"
Judging from Wang Anshi's article, Fang Zhongyong is indeed a child prodigy. He "learned without books and tools", in fact, he can write poems without teaching. Isn't it amazing? However, it should be pointed out that this kind of teaching without teachers is actually inaccurate. To be exact, no one taught him consciously. If there is no environment around him to acquire knowledge, he can't write, just as he can't speak a foreign language fluently. People often ignore this environment and think it is innate. In fact, his neighbor is a home of poems and books. How else can his father borrow paper and pens?
For Fang Zhongyong, who has just discovered his talent, what he needs most at this time is systematic study. If you can get the guidance of a famous teacher, Fang Zhongyong's future is limitless. Unfortunately, what his father did for him was not to find a famous teacher, but to do some cheap performances everywhere, thus castrating his intellectual development. From the day he was discovered, it was actually the beginning of his intellectual castration. In this way, even if Fang Zhongyong has outstanding talents, Jiang Lang will inevitably be exhausted. The canal is so clear because there is running water at its source. Now that the Fang Zhongyong has been cut off from its source, will there be a day when the canal will not dry up?
Every time I see someone quoting Fang Zhongyong's example, I wonder why Wang Anshi didn't take Fang Zhongyong to educate himself, but watched a child prodigy disappear. Is it that when he met Fang Zhongyong, Fang Zhongyong's poems had no merit and were unwilling to support them, or were they just preserved? So I've been trying to figure it out. Through this writing research opportunity, I finally got what I wanted, but the result surprised me. It turns out that Wang Anshi didn't give us a bigger impression when we were reading poems, because they met. At that time, Wang Anshi was only 13 years old, which was similar to Fang Zhongyong's "12-3 years". Wang Anshi naturally could not support him.
After this problem is solved, new problems will naturally arise, that is, although Wang Anshi can't support him, it should be said that everyone can be recommended by Fang Zhongyong Bole. Moreover, during this period, Jiangxi's humanities began to flourish, and Jinxi was in the center of Linchuan, the birthplace of Jiangxi's humanities. Even if you look at the current map, Jinxi County is only 100 miles away from Linchuan, not to mention that there are already officials in the current dynasty. For example, Yan Shu is now a bachelor of Hanlin, and what is even more rare is that Yan Shu was once recommended as a child prodigy and loved talents very much. Fan Zhongyan and Daofu Kong are out of the door, and Ouyang Xiu and Mei are valued by him. Why is there such a regret in such an environment?
I think the only satisfactory explanation lies in its "hereditary cultivation". Because his father can't read, he knows nothing about Fang Zhongyong's literacy process. Finally, it was not until Fang Zhongyong asked his father for a pen and paper that his father suddenly realized that the child could read and write. That's why we can let him perform such stupid things that people with a little cultural common sense would never do! In this case, his father let alone understand how a truly outstanding poet grew up, which can be seen from the comparison between his growth and that of several writers of his age.
Wang Anshi is about his age, but obviously not as clever as him. Wang Anshi's father, Wang Yi, has been a scholar for eight years. Because Wang Yi "has no pastoral life to support himself" in his hometown Linchuan, he always travels with his relatives and friends, so he is taught by his father. 65,438+09 years old, his father died in Jiangning, and he was a father, 265,438+. At the age of 23, he returned to Linchuan to visit relatives. Li Deshen's Poems and Fu Zhi of Wang Anshi thinks that this article was written in the autumn of this year, when he just got married. Really have no ability to support and help Fang Zhongyong.
If such an introduction can't explain the problem, it will be clearer to enlarge the background. Besides his father Wang Yi, his great-uncle Wang Guanzhi, his younger brother Wang Yuan, his older brother Anren Wang, his younger brothers Wang Anli, Wang Anguo and Wang Zi are all scholars. In the past 69 years, there have been as many as eight Wang Jiadeng Jinshi before and after, and it is not surprising that Wang Anshi can become everyone. Another example is his countryman Ceng Gong, who is two or three years older than him. Although he is said to be young and "smart", he may not be as good as Fang Zhongyong. But by the time Fang Zhongyong 12 or 13 was old, Ceng Gong already had an "amazing language". At the age of 20, Ceng Gong wrote to Ouyang Xiu to recommend himself. After talking with him about literature and theory, Ouyang Xiu couldn't help saying to him, "There are hundreds of people who have passed our door, all of whom have their own opinions." Why is Ceng Gong developing so smoothly? As long as we look at his family background, it is not difficult to understand that his great-grandfather was a member of Shangshu Water Department, his grandfather was a doctor of Shangshu Household Department, and his father was a doctor of Taichang. Starting from Ceng Gong's grandfather Zeng Zhiyao, in 77, 17 people entered the imperial examination, 10 people took the exam, and one person was recruited as a child prodigy. When I was in Ceng Gong, my brothers reached their peak because they knew what steps a writer should go through when he grew up.
Therefore, no matter how clever a child prodigy is, he will certainly become a mortal if there are no conditions for him to continue to grow healthily, because a child prodigy is the product of the environment and the day after tomorrow, and he will surely wither if he cannot continue to provide him with rich nutrition the day after tomorrow. On the contrary, if he can get the guidance of a famous teacher, he will grow up much faster than others, and there are many examples in this regard.
Giotto is known as the father of European painting and the pioneer of Italian Renaissance painting. Like Zhong Yong, he is the son of a blacksmith. He grew up in a quiet mountain area and was a shepherd boy. Naturally, he was not qualified to study art, but the beauty of nature touched his heart. Flowering pastures, blue skies and flocks of sheep made him involuntarily draw trees, mountains and goats on rocks and the ground with sharp stones and sticks. If he hadn't met the famous Florentine painter Zimabue, Giotto would have been a rough diamond forever, just like Fang Zhongyong, but fate changed him.
According to Vassalli, an Italian art historian, one day, a painter came across Giotto who was absorbed in painting with sharp stones. The painter saw the potential artistic talent of the little shepherd boy with his critical eyes. Then he said to him, "Stop herding sheep and learn to draw with me, ok?" Giotto, then 9, readily agreed. After persuading his father, Giotto went to learn painting from Che Ma Bei. Under the guidance of famous teachers, I finally became a master!
Another example is the familiar Wang Mian. He can't find the inheritance of reading at home, but from the time he secretly went to school to listen to students' endorsements to sitting in the temple and reading, he can only say that he has a good foundation and potential, but once he got the help of the famous scholar Han Xing at that time, he was "recorded as a disciple, so he was called a scholar", which shows the importance of the guidance of famous teachers!
It should be pointed out that Wang Anshi has deep sympathy for Fang Zhongyong, so his writing is sentimental. Fang Zhongyong is a victim, but his father is a kind abuser. Fang Zhongyong's literacy is not due to his father's contribution, but his father unfortunately played a killer role in killing his talent, so it is a great responsibility of his parents.
So for a child prodigy, his greatest destruction is the educational castration from ignorant parents. In fact, this kind of tragedy is not only staged in Fang Zhongyong, but also repeated in each of us. Today's mothers have a very strong feeling that their children are particularly smart when they are three or four years old, but when they enter primary school, they gradually blame their children and envy others' children with good grades. In middle school, they even think their children are stupid. In fact, what we can't do is because we are stupid. On the contrary, we are too smart to do anything, or we can be infertile because we are too smart to get guidance. We are all Fang Zhongyong!
Once, a primary school student, 1 1 year-old, made a seven-tube low-voltage desktop radio and won the third prize of the national youth scientific and technological works. But at first, his parents hated his prank: when he was a child, he refused to go to kindergarten, so his parents had to lock him at home. He doesn't look like he's crawling around the house, but he looks like a little eye inflammation. Is to take apart the pistols, cars, flashing torpedo boats and other toys bought for him one by one and tear them into pieces. For this reason, his parents have never been less angry and hurt their hearts. Later, inspired by a teacher, his parents were overjoyed to learn that the child's unpacking of toys was a sign of his strong curiosity, love of observation and willingness to use his brain. At this time, he began to consciously practice. Finally, there was a later result.
Take my own example. When I was in the fifth grade of primary school, I accidentally tried to write a novel. I wanted to write a weekly diary at that time, but I found it difficult to express my meaning when I wrote it, so I added a dialogue between characters. I have written hundreds of words, so I don't know if I should write them down, because I don't know when I will finish them. Although it was not written down, there was always an excitement in my heart at that time. One day, my father saw it somehow. He seems a little happy to ask if I wrote it. After listening to my affirmative answer, he didn't have any comments, suggestions or praise. An excellent educational opportunity was wasted! Of course, I can't blame my father, but if my father can grasp this psychological need and give me some guidance-because I believe my father can give me guidance, and my father tried to write novels and poems when he was young-then my writing ability will certainly not be as weak as it is now!
But those worried parents didn't. For example, when Maxwell was very young, his father once asked him to sketch still life. The theme is a vase filled with autumn chrysanthemums. When Maxwell finished painting and handed in his paper, his father smiled. Because the paper is full of geometric figures, vases are trapezoidal, chrysanthemums have become large and small circles, and there are some strange triangles, which probably represent leaves. If you are an ordinary father, you may be reprimanded after laughing, but after all, you are a father who has trained world-class physicists. The careful father immediately found that the child had a strong interest in mathematics, because in the eyes of the child, the images of many things seemed to have become geometric figures. So I began to teach him geometry, and later I taught him algebra. As expected, Maxwell soon showed amazing mathematical talent.
There is a concept of "sensitive area" in talent science. In fact, as long as they are children with normal hair, most of them begin to show a special sensitivity and strong curiosity about a certain aspect when they are five or six years old. If we can, like Maxwell's father, grasp the "sensitive area" of children in time and guide them conveniently, it will lay a good foundation for their success. This is because all children are the most sensitive and interested, and interest is the best teacher for children!
However, most of our parents are not. They take care of their children's lives very carefully, but they show an unusual carelessness and indifference to their spiritual needs. Some children show great interest in animals, plants, machinery, colors, music or painting in front of their parents, but their parents turn a blind eye, thus delaying the good opportunity to train their children to become talents.
Mr. Lu Xun once had a very famous saying: "The first cry when a genius is born, just like a normal baby, is by no means a good poem." But Lu Xun only talked about the crying children, not the parents who listened, that is, although the children cried the same. But different parents have different reactions to this. Those parents who are capable and talented can hear the poetry of wonderful poems from their children's ordinary cries!
For Fang Zhongyong, when he started writing poetry, he certainly didn't want to show anything to his father, but this kind of poetry was unexpectedly flooded. This overflow to the father should remind him that the child has reached this point, and how to improve it next? But the vast majority of fathers look at this problem from their own point of view, not from the child's point of view, so they ignore the child's psychological needs. It is from this perspective that each of us is repeating Fang Zhongyong's tragedy: when it was time to find us, my mother didn't find us; When they found us, they took us to a road we shouldn't have taken.