People who can always look at themselves rarely make mistakes, because they will always consider: how much strength do I have? How many things can I do? What should I do? What are my shortcomings? Why did you fail or succeed? In this way, we can easily find out our own advantages and disadvantages and lay the foundation for future actions.
There is a story in the Bible and the New Testament: One day, Barisai, who was hostile to Christ, brought a woman who had committed adultery to Christ and deliberately embarrassed Jesus to see how he would deal with it. If she is sentenced to death according to the canon, then Christ will be attacked in the name of cruelty, otherwise, it will violate Moses' commandments. Christ Jesus looked at the woman and said to the people, "Whoever is innocent among you can stone her."
The noisy crowd suddenly fell silent. Christ turned to the woman and said, "I don't condemn you, go!" " Don't commit any more crimes. "
What this story tells us is: when you want to punish others, first reflect on whether you have made a mistake.
Socrates said, "Life without introspection is not worth living." Only when you have mystery can you realize. The mystery of the past is just an opportunity for today's enlightenment. Therefore, regular introspection can avoid deviating from the right path.
We often say: "Success comes from self-analysis", "Failure is the mother of success" and "Review is the father of success". All of them explain one thing: self-reflection, self-analysis and self-review have a lot to do with success.
In fact, mistakes are allowed in life, but you can't make the same mistake twice. If a person's life is full of mistakes, then his result will not be correct. It's not terrible to make mistakes, but it's terrible not to know where they are.
A successful person is often a self-reflective person, a self-analytical person.
Everything has its own time and space. Implementation takes time, and reflection also takes time. Most of us don't take the time to reflect. An important part of this secret of success is often overlooked by our busy schedule.
At the end of the day, you must take some time to see what happened on this day-where you went, who you met, what you did, what you said, and so on. Meditate on what you have done, what you have not done, what you hope to do again, and what you hope not to do. Be sure to remember those related events as vividly as possible. Remember colors, scenes, sounds, dialogues and experiences.
Experience can be turned into commodities, money and money, and experience is the source of value. However, only recorded experience and precipitated experience can become valuable things. The difference of a person's fate is not determined by their experience, but by their attitude towards it. In order to do something beneficial to life, we must draw valuable information from experience.
The ideal time for reflection is after an important period, such as the weekend, the end of the month and the end of the year. Spend a few hours on weekends thinking about what happened in the past seven days. At the end of the month, you should spend a day thinking about what happened in the past month, and at the end of the year, you should spend a week examining, thinking and reflecting on everything you have encountered in your life.
The more time for self-reflection, the better. Reflect once a year, and you won't know the pros and cons until one year later, and you won't know what you did right or wrong until one year later. If you reflect once a month, you will have 12 opportunities to reflect once a year. If you reflect once a week, you will have 54 chances to reflect once a year. If you reflect once a day, you will have 365 opportunities to reflect once a year. The more times you reflect, the less times you make mistakes.
One day, a young man borrowed a telephone from a small shop on the corner. He covered the receiver with a handkerchief and said, "Is this Wang Mansion? I'm calling to apply for the job as a gardener. I have rich experience and I believe I can do it. " The operator said, "I'm afraid you're mistaken, sir." My master is very satisfied with the gardener he employs now. The host said that the gardener is a serious, enthusiastic and diligent person, so there is no vacancy for a gardener here. "
The young man said politely, "I'm sorry, maybe I made a mistake." Then he hung up. The shopkeeper listened to the young man and said, "Young man, do you want to find a job as a gardener?" My relatives are about to invite someone. Are you interested? "
The young man said, "Thank you for your kindness. Actually, I am the gardener of Wang Mansion. I just called to check myself to see if my performance meets the standards of the master. "
In life, constant self-reflection can make you invincible.
Canel is the founder of KFC fried chicken. He used to run a car gas station by himself, but he didn't manage well enough to make ends meet. He thought it was affected by the economic crisis and announced helplessly: "The gas station closed down."
The next year, he reopened a gas station and a restaurant. However, a ruthless fire destroyed his restaurant. He didn't care why, and he didn't give up. He believes that crisis is opportunity. The most dangerous time, that is, when your blasting power develops to the maximum extent, so he vowed to cheer up again.
If you don't find out the root of your mistakes realistically, how empty and powerless your ambition is in front of the facts!
He finally pulled himself together and built a bigger restaurant than before. However, bad luck has come to you again. Because another new traffic artery was built and opened to traffic nearby, the road in front of Canel restaurant became a back alley, and the number of customers dropped sharply.
The root of its failure lies in Canel Tex's ignorance of management, his management system is very loose, and employees' working attitude is slack. When running a gas station, his rogue employees stole oil: when running a car gas station with a restaurant, employees threw cigarette butts; When operating a bigger restaurant than before, it is also because the system is not perfect and the restaurant has no repeat customers.
He found the reason why he always made the same mistake. He doesn't think he is a good boss because he is usually an informal and careless person.
Later, Canel gave up the restaurant. He didn't want to keep that precious patent-the secret recipe for making fried chicken, so he decided to sell it.
He taught the secret of making fried chicken in restaurants-sauce. He will get 5 cents for every fried chicken he sells. Six years later, 400 restaurants in the United States and Canada sold this fried chicken. At that time, Canel was over 70 years old. 1992, KFC fried chicken chain stores expanded to 9000.
If Canel doesn't know how to reflect, he will have nothing and nothing, and diners will not get cheap and delicious KFC fried chicken.
There is an old saying in China: "To err is human." Even saints make mistakes. The key is not to make the same mistake again. Making mistakes all the time will not only dampen your self-confidence, but also make others lose confidence in you and stop giving you opportunities. If you don't find the essential factors of your mistakes, your road will get narrower and narrower, and you will eventually come to a dead end; If you can learn from mistakes and correct them in time, your road will get wider and wider and your life will get better and better.
So, how should we reflect on ourselves?
First of all, we should reflect on ourselves in the mirror of "self-knowledge" If you want to know the gains and losses of your actions, you must look at yourself with the mirror of "self-knowledge". Reflection is like a mirror in which a person's true colors will be revealed. Don't stare at others all the time, it is important to know yourself first, know yourself from reflection, and know your true face from the mirror of self-knowledge.
Secondly, we should have the courage to repent. It doesn't matter if a person is wrong, as long as he can correct it. If he is at fault and refuses to correct it, it is greater than the real fault. Some people make mistakes, but they refuse to admit it, for fear of losing face. If we can get rid of the arrogant habit, we will have the courage to repent and turn over a new leaf. Always reflect on your mistakes. If you find them, you should correct them in time and do things in a down-to-earth manner. For example, patients with appendicitis must have their intestines removed to avoid future troubles. If a person makes a mistake, he should also cut it off with a sharp knife of reflection and repentance.
If you make a mistake today, you will make it again tomorrow if you don't reflect. If you can reflect on yourself in time, know the reason of your mistake and correct it immediately, then there will be no similar mistakes in the future.
The correct attitude of people towards mistakes should be to learn lessons in time, sum up experience, and make up for it after it is too late, instead of blaming yourself too much. There is an English proverb-"Don't cry for spilled milk", which means that if you cry for the inevitable loss, it will only waste your good mood. Smart people will reflect on their mistakes, then learn from them, and then resolutely forget their misfortunes and make up for their losses with greater energy and enthusiasm instead of blaming themselves too much.