(1) Distract emotions and attention. You should have deep feelings with your mother and grandmother, so when she leaves you, you will easily have bad emotions such as sadness and depression. You should learn psychological self-regulation, transfer emotions, change your way of thinking and divert your attention. For example, make the daily schedule full and orderly, and don't let it be idle. When you should do something, just concentrate on it and don't think about anything else. Washing clothes, sweeping the floor, cooking, listening to music, watching TV, walking and so on can all bring you comfort. You can also engage in some hobbies, such as practicing sword dance, making handicrafts, playing chess, painting and calligraphy, raising birds and planting flowers. Cultivate sentiment and make up for the monotony of life. (2) Appropriate venting If you are extremely sad, you can cry a lot or complain to your relatives and friends to vent your boredom and achieve the purpose of treating psychological trauma. You can also shout outside, or write down your painful feelings, or talk about a glass bottle full of water and then pour it out. (3) masturbation, you must remind yourself that it is providence to be born and die, and it may be more cruel to live with a sick body or a painful heart! The dead have no pain, only the living suffer the most. From the point of view of the deceased, it is natural that she should come when she should and leave when she should. She doesn't feel sorry for herself, and you don't have to be too sad. Death freed your grandmother from the natural bondage of life and death, which is also a gratifying result. Your grandmother also wants you to take good care of yourself and spend the rest of your life happily and strongly. If you are alive, you can always pay homage to your dead grandmother and pray that she will rest in her grave. (4) Avoid self-reproach and self-abuse. It is necessary to realize that self-blame and self-abuse are unnecessary. If you want to make up for your grandmother's apology before she died, the best way is to take good care of the people you love, take good care of your mother and live well. (5) Get rid of nostalgia. As the saying goes, seeing things is like seeing people. Seeing grandma's relics often will strengthen the feeling of missing, which is not very good for your normal life. So, you should try to get rid of nostalgia. In addition to paying homage, you should usually collect grandma's relics, especially those that can arouse your painful memories most, and turn your attention to other places. (6) Learn psychological knowledge and improve psychological quality. Medical psychology can help us understand psychological knowledge, improve psychological quality, promote physical and mental health and prevent psychological diseases. For the health of you and your mother, you should buy some simple psychological books to read, learn some psychological knowledge, improve psychological quality, learn to respect and love yourself, be broad-minded and cheerful, and improve psychological endurance. If you can afford what you want, you should be satisfied with it if you can put it down. Accept the loss of my grandmother calmly. Chinese medicine has a saying that "qi and blood are harmonious, and all diseases are not born." With depression, various diseases arise. Your mother is older than you, so you must pay more attention to mental health, because mental health will affect one's physical health, especially excessive sadness, which will affect one's heart health. You should first get out of the painful shadow of losing your grandmother, stop thinking day and night, pay more attention to your mother and bring her out of this painful mental state. The dead can't be resurrected. Only by taking good care of the people around you and cherishing the living are the most meaningful. Negative emotions can be contagious, and so can your mother's sadness. You must be careful not to be influenced by negative emotions. As long as one person can get out of the shadow, another person has a chance to get out of the shadow of pain. If two people miss each other day and night and often grieve for each other, they will suffer forever. (7) Seek social help. If your condition has not changed, then you must seek a health consultation hotline or a psychological consultation clinic, or consult a psychologist. They will help you get rid of the psychological fog and the situation will improve faster. Inheriting grandma's wishes You must inherit grandma's wishes, bravely shoulder the burden of life and meet the challenges. The best way to commemorate a person is to live well and live up to her expectations! People can't come back from the dead, and continuing to suffer won't change the fact that your grandmother died. For you and your mother, there is no benefit, only one result: sadness has become a disease. There are many helpless things in life. What can we do except "live in peace" and accept the facts? If we can't change the facts, we must change ourselves and accept the facts; Since the facts can't conform to us, then we have to conform to the facts. Only by accepting the facts and obeying the future development path can we live a peaceful and smooth life. References:
Psychologist 100 1 Q, Yanbian University Press, isbn: 7-5634-2228-5, Yan Chunyou, Zhuang Zi's One-Day Talk, Harbin Press, ISBN: 7-80699-645- 1.