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In the emotional world, the word "coax" is neither a patent used by men when treating women, nor is it a forbidden area that women should avoid when treating men.
But in a marriage, if a woman always likes to coax her husband, then she will definitely have a very hard and unsatisfactory life when she reaches middle age.
Although marriage is a fate, whether it can come to the end happily depends on some methods. Although some marriages are not favored at the beginning, they can grow old together through effective management; and some marriages, although they are envied by everyone at the beginning, can only part ways due to poor management.
When Yang Yu and her husband Zhao Lei got married, it was the kind of marriage that everyone admired. Zhao Lei is a successful man who relied on his own abilities to buy a house and a car at a young age.
Although Yang Yu is only a low-level employee in her career, she is very beautiful. The so-called combination of talent and appearance is probably like this.
Since getting married, Zhao Lei said to Yang Yu: "Anyway, your salary is not high, it makes no difference whether you have it or not." It's better to resign and focus on taking care of your family at home. ?
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In the love stage, most men are coaxing women. In order to get married to the goddess in their hearts, men use various methods to coax women.
However, after getting married, most men are no longer willing to spend time trying to make women happy.
Yang Yu felt that her husband felt sorry for her hard work, so she happily agreed to his proposal, quit her job and stayed at home to take care of her husband's daily life.
In order to give her husband a warm and comfortable family environment, Yang Yu cleans the house every day.
In this marriage, because Yang Yu had no financial ability, she had to rely on her husband for all the family expenses. So subconsciously, she felt that her husband was everything to her and could not be disobeyed.
When couples live together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be some friction and bumps. And every time there was a conflict between them, it was Yang Yu who took the initiative to lower his head and coax Zhao Lei.
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If in marriage, a woman likes to lower her posture to coax her husband, then when she enters middle age, she will be trapped by her original behavior.
Sometimes it is Zhao Lei’s problem, but Yang Yu doesn’t care. She seemed to have made it a habit to coax him. No matter what happened, she would admit her mistakes and make him happy.
In front of his children, in order to show his supreme status in the family, he will deliberately instruct her and treat her like a servant.
Therefore, in the eyes of her children, she is a good-for-nothing mother who is not worthy of his respect and love at all.
As a result, the child she had worked so hard to raise often contradicted her and would also provoke her verbally, which made her feel like a knife.
If a woman likes to coax her husband, she will depend on him no matter what, just to make him happy. If things go on like this, men will be spoiled by women and become particularly selfish and unfeeling.
It can be seen that women who like to coax their husbands will have a hard time in middle age and life will be very difficult. Because such a woman will often lose her status in a man's heart and become a good-for-nothing woman in his mouth.
Such a view will not only take root in a man's heart, but will also be passed on to his children. Let the children look down on their mothers, let alone respect their mothers.
And in life, when a man is overwhelmed by heavy work and social pressure, when a man is tortured by difficult work and is upset, a woman can give him comfort and use Kind and encouraging words to comfort a man.
Because when a woman coaxes a man at this time, the man will be full of strength again, and it will also make the man full of gratitude to the woman, thus loving the woman even more.
So, it is not impossible for a woman to coax her husband, but she must pay attention to a certain degree. If a woman likes to keep a low profile to coax her husband, she will only plunge her middle-aged life into an abyss of pain.