Love is an experience, and marriage is a love. How to make the flower of love never wither, you must learn to manage your relationship after marriage.
First, learn to communicate. After marriage, it is easier for two people to vent to each other because of each other's pressure and troubles. This will not only affect the relationship between the two people, but also cause a psychological burden on the children. It is better to calm down each other, learn to be mentally prepared, treat each other's personality differences correctly, and often talk about what happens in the lives of partners, especially the distress in their hearts or the misunderstandings between them. In this way, even if there is a knot between each other, they can be solved as soon as possible.
The second is to learn tolerance and tolerance. No one is perfect. Learn to be tolerant and tolerant of shortcomings and weaknesses that are exposed after marriage. The personalities of both spouses should be fully developed on the basis of compatibility and complementarity. Humility is the lubricant of a happy marriage. Moderate and useful arguments can help solve problems and conflicts, but tit-for-tat over unprincipled trivial matters in life should be avoided as much as possible.
The third is to learn to respect each other. Everyone needs equal self-esteem and their own private space. In the relationship between husband and wife, we must avoid the male chauvinism of "the husband sings and the wife follows"; the wife must also be wary of the "strict henpeck" consciousness. As for the division of family roles, it is best for couples to let nature take its course and form the most appropriate combination that can play their unique roles.
Fourth, you also need to fall in love after marriage. Falling in love is not just for young people. Married couples can also fall in love. But many couples forget this after getting married. No matter how trivial life is after marriage, you still need to make time for a good date, such as watching a movie together, having a candlelight dinner together, walking under the moonlight, etc.
The fifth is to strengthen moral cultivation after marriage. Neither husband and wife should be a "third party", nor should a "third party" get involved. "If the fence is tight, wild dogs will not come in." Both husband and wife should use their noble sentiments and sincere love to build a wall of copper and iron to prevent immorality. There is no gap for the "third party" to take advantage of.
Sixth, maintain confidence in marriage and believe that a good marriage relationship can be maintained. Marriage is different from love. Marriage is about two people who grew up in different environments living together. The original romance has been replaced by daily necessities after marriage. Many couples often quarrel because of the trivial life and complicated housework. Don't lose confidence in your marriage because of friction during the running-in period. If you want to maintain your love, you should solve problems in a timely manner to avoid turning small problems into big conflicts. Learn to think from the other person's perspective, calmly solve problems, and resolve them. Regarding the conflicts between the two sides, I believe that if you work together, you will successfully overcome the difficulties.
Seventh, countries grow together and countries progress together. The life pattern of "the man is the outsider and the woman is the homebody" appears in many family lives. However, due to differences in social circles, gradually the husband and wife no longer have the same topics to talk about, and there is a lack of communication, and many conflicts will gradually arise. . After getting married, you cannot relax your management of yourself and be too lazy to improve your own value.
Therefore, feelings are like life, they must be repaired, updated, grown and created all the time. This is the fundamental way to save your relationship.