Current events:
In the morning, my father-in-law said that he was out of money and capsules, and he wanted to buy them!
Emotion: irritability
Self-awareness:
Look at the way my father-in-law talks at that time, I have no spirit! In fact, deep down, I have never accepted my father-in-law. I feel that my father-in-law has a bad habit. He takes a lot of medicine and rubs a lot of medicine every day, so his attitude towards him is also hot and cold.
I sometimes think: if my relationship with my father-in-law is handled well, I will be able to handle my relationship with everyone. Father-in-law is arranged by God to temper my mind and test my will!
Sometimes when I am excited about eating, he will tell you some bad things about my hometown, and my fire will go out!
But the children also eat at the same table, so I can only endure it, and then pretend to smile and say, "Dad, can you say something nice when you eat?"
Because I have been taking medicine for a long time, I have used the bathroom, and there is a strong smell of medicine. It will taste after washing it several times. I'm sensitive to smells!
But whenever my own heart calms down, these are not problems!
Actually, I have a choice about whether my father-in-law will stay or not. At that time, my husband offered to be with him. My husband and I are husband and wife on weekends, and the two cities are one and a half hours' drive.
I offered to let my father live with me first. At that time, I considered it for two reasons: first, there was an old man at home who could have a helper more or less; Second, children don't have much contact with grandpa. Let's live together and deepen our feelings!
But this time, my father-in-law's health went from bad to worse. I have to deal with work and study every day, accompany my children, and arrange three meals a day for the three of us. I feel a little uncomfortable!
My child got 100, zero, and I can accept it unconditionally. But for my grandfather's sake, I can't do it for the time being. Every time he can help his family, I look at him differently. When he lost a value, I was a little disgusted.
This is undoubtedly one of my own card points!
Love is the answer to everything! It's easier said than done, and the road is long, Xiu Yuan Xi!
Emotional coach's reply:
When we don't accept a person in our hearts, the other person can feel it, and it is difficult for us to influence the other person's behavior change.
Because our own confrontation will pull each other into a state of confrontation, and both sides will spend their energy on confrontation, so positive changes will naturally not happen.
It sounds good to temper your mind and test your will, but be careful. There are many confrontations.
Not honing and testing, but looking.
See each other's emotions, what they really want to do, what they want to express.
For example, when I was sick last time, I still needed your care. Do you feel it?
What is his need for bad things in his hometown? Deliberately make everyone unhappy? Or does he have repressed emotions that he wants to express and be seen? Something like that ...
Feel more.
The advantage of gratitude is that it can improve the overall peace, but at the moment when things happen, the focus is on seeing, not asking yourself to be grateful and calm.
Gratitude itself is meaningless. Significantly, through gratitude, the emotional connection between people is enhanced.
Therefore, the key is to see and feel the other person as a living person. Gratitude is just a way, not an end.
02 change+growth
This is one of my emotional notes for punching in 2 1 day. My emotional coach Chen will seriously reply to our notes every day. The teacher was a sharing guest at the opening ceremony of Class 2 12 of our 007 writing camp.
At that time, I randomly added the teacher's WeChat. After a few months, I took the initiative to contact the teacher. After simple communication, I joined the teacher's emotional circle without thinking.
Every time the teacher's comments will enter my heart, hit my heart, cause a * * * sound, and then change!
"Depressed emotions will be aroused!" What the teacher said touched me deeply.
I remember one day, at ten in the morning, my father-in-law was lying in bed. I don't know what possessed me. I moved a chair and sat beside his bed to express my pressure and feelings to him. My father-in-law and I shed tears.
I took the initiative to show my moxibustion abdomen to my grandfather. He refused at first, saying not to get dirty. At that time, my nose was sour and tears came out. As the teacher said, I don't accept a person, and the other person can feel it.
Finally, my father-in-law used the moxibustion electrotherapy instrument with confidence under my persuasion.
Then, involuntarily, I packed my father-in-law's summer clothes, put them in a bag, repackaged the autumn and winter clothes and put them in the cupboard. After that, the feeling of being stuck in my heart disappeared.
For six years, my father-in-law and I have never had such intimate and frank communication. I was very relaxed at that time!
The teacher said that gratitude diary needs to be integrated with daily life, and the form and content should be combined. Don't write for the sake of writing!
Feel my father-in-law's mood, pay attention to his needs, and practice all the time!
While caring about your own emotions, don't forget to pay attention to others' emotions.
My father-in-law became a mirror for me.
If you have love in your heart, you may know how to listen.
Three uncles are all fine.
? 03 Miracle+Peace
After 265,438+0 days of punching practice, I am now very clear about my emotions. Because I am very clear about my emotions, I can quickly identify others' emotions and even help others transform.
In the past, people always thought that peace meant not losing your temper. In fact, peace does not mean not losing your temper. Instead of pretending and suppressing, you should lose your temper when it is time to lose your temper, show your strength and boldly express your feelings and specific needs.
There is no difference between good and bad emotions, and every emotion has its positive value, which is worth discussing.
After constant practice, writing emotional notes and clearing up the past, I really feel that the action of "writing down" is very powerful. Like an eraser, it automatically wipes away the wounds caused by the past, puts aside anxiety and fears.
My heart, calm.
I feel that my love for my family is flowing and my feelings are smooth.
In the face of the next task, we no longer refuse blindly as before, but accept it gladly.
At 2: 30 in the morning, I woke up naturally and got up to write the materials of the unit. It's like beating chicken blood all day.
I believe I will soon have the strength to challenge my core part!
Because of their own changes, the energy of father-in-law, husband and children has been improved on the original basis.
My father-in-law's mental state is getting better and better. He cooks eggs and millet porridge for us every morning these days. Warm!
The father-in-law sits on the sofa and massages the soles of his feet, while the children do their homework. My husband is reading at the table, and I am happy to cook. Be quiet!
Teacher Wang drove 10 km, took us to the countryside for a picnic, took us to China Film to watch two National Day blockbusters, and cooked steamed bass, Lamian Noodles and other delicious foods for us. My father-in-law, children and I loved them. Happy!
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At this moment, there are more and more such pictures!
Thank you very much for the guidance and guidance given to us by emotional coach Chen, for the sincere companionship of our partners, and for the miracle after miracle in life, work and study!
Thank you! Thank us!
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