First of all, you need to make it clear that gentleness does not mean being a fake. The two concepts are very different.
Gentleness is a person’s character and does not have any extreme praise or derogatory meaning, while transvestite is a hobby, which cannot be said to be abnormal, but after all, it is a very small and specific group of people, and the positioning of their hearts and personalities There are still many gaps between me and most boys.
Gentleness is not just for girls. It is not a bad thing for boys to be gentler. This has a lot to do with a person's innate personality, family factors, and growth environment factors.
Perhaps generally speaking, boys should give people the impression of being rough and bold, even somewhat macho, or what we call "men" in popular terms. These are some of the qualities that boys are born with.
But people are independent individuals, and everyone has a different personality. The personalities of different people cannot be rigidly distinguished based on male and female. There are girls who are more "feminine" and there are boys who are more gentle.
Gentleness actually means having a good personality. A gentle boy must be very polite and will not yell at others. He can handle things calmly and will not act in extreme ways because of the triggers of some events. This behavior is simply a good character. Just like some celebrities we are familiar with, they have sunny and handsome looks, great looks, and are very masculine, but they also have a gentle personality, which is not a conflict at all. For another example, a very masculine father treats his daughter very gently. When you see this picture, do you think of a transvestite? It has nothing to do with it at all!
So first of all, you cannot confuse the two concepts of gentleness and transvestite.
Transvestite refers to a man who puts on women's clothes and dresses up like a woman, but looks very coordinated and good-looking. It has formed a culture, especially in China and Japan. Some people here are just for dressing up, while others have gender cognitive impairment. A grown man has positioned himself in the role of a woman and cannot extricate himself. At present, it is still relatively niche, and as an average boy, it should not be of interest.
So first of all, you have to clarify the positioning of gentleness and transvestite. If you are sure that you are not a transvestite, but just have a gentle personality, then don’t care so much and just be yourself.