For men, it is a terrible thing for women to be jealous. Obviously, it's not like that. Women have to over-associate and interpret. Men simply ignore women when they are angry, which further verifies women's ideas and stimulates women's sensitive nerves. Eventually lead to an emotional war.
Many men will feel puzzled and distressed because women are jealous. I don't understand why women are so jealous. And women will complain why men can't understand their own ideas. So, what kind of psychology is jealousy?
Jealousy is actually a kind of jealousy.
Jealousy can be regarded as a metaphor of jealousy, and there is an interesting allusion.
It is said that Emperor Taizong wanted to marry a concubine for Prime Minister Fang, and Mrs Fang was jealous and disagreed. Emperor Taizong was speechless and prepared to scare her, so he gave Mrs. Fang two choices: either to drink poisoned wine or to allow her husband to take concubinage. Unexpectedly, Mrs. Fang was very strong-willed and never bowed her head, so she took the poisoned wine and drank it. Only after Mrs. Fang drank it did she realize that the poisoned wine was just thick vinegar.
People are jealous because they feel the threat, competition and pressure from the outside world, and feel that they are not treated and cared for equally, so they have emotions and behaviors such as anger, indifference, hostility, rejection and resentment. This is also the root of jealousy.
As a way to express their attitudes and emotions, jealousy is a special signal that women use to warn men. If men can't receive it in time and pay attention to women's psychological needs and expectations in time, it may be inevitable to kneel on the washboard, sleep on the sofa and buy lipstick.
The potential performance of female jealousy
If men can't smell the vinegar on women in time, it often means that the consequences are a bit serious, from a verbal education to an infinite cold war. So, what kind of performance means that women may be jealous?
1. Silence.
This kind of behavior is the most terrible for men. Because you don't know what makes the other person unhappy, you still go on like that stupidly. And women already have a rough heart. Therefore, when a woman has such a performance, it is best for a man to take the initiative to ask and find out the reason why the other person is silent.
Deliberately violate it
When women are jealous, but don't want to make it clear, they will go against men everywhere to embarrass each other, punish each other and get psychological comfort. For example, women will deliberately say that the dishes cooked by men are too salty, so don't do what men think, find fault and so on. Therefore, when you feel a woman's "bad intentions", you should realize that your behavior has made her jealous.
3. Verbal hints
When women are jealous, they will use some words to attack men by innuendo. For example, they may say, "Look at her husband, how considerate he is", "My best friend's bag was chosen by her husband himself" and "You are doing very well in front of other women". When you hear that, you should pay attention.
In fact, there are many manifestations that may indicate that women are jealous, but as long as we grasp a principle, we can identify and judge whether the other party is jealous in time, that is, if the other party's emotions, words and behaviors suddenly make you feel different from before, it may indicate that the other party is jealous.
Proper jealousy is beneficial to emotional life.
"Jealousy" will make the client experience negative emotions such as anger, disappointment, anxiety, fear and resentment, and it will spread to others. In addition, it will also make a person reject or attack others, be suspicious, escape, slander and other behaviors. These are all "bad vinegar".
But in fact, jealousy is a normal psychology and behavior of people, and it is another manifestation of people's "love and care". People long for security and stability and are afraid of losing what they have. This is not only the result of biological evolution, but also the expression of maintaining their own interests and emotional relationships.
In love or marriage, people's feelings are selfish and are not allowed to share with others at will. When we feel that our lover is unfair to us or neglects us, jealous behavior can express our dissatisfaction and grievances, thus telling each other and finally regaining care and love.
In the palace drama, jealousness and jealousy make the harem fight constantly, and let your brothers kill each other for the throne. In reality, excessive jealousy makes both sides suspect each other, quarrel constantly, consume each other's trust, and finally destroy the foundation of feelings.
But don't quit jealousy because of this, because proper jealousy can increase the intimate relationship between the two sides. When you are jealous of each other properly, you can make them feel your concern and attention. If you are too cold and laissez-faire, you may make the other person feel neglected and indifferent.
Therefore, enough jealousy can make feelings full of vitality, while too much jealousy will corrode the emotional foundation.