It is said that tofu was unintentionally invented by Liu, the king of Huainan, when he was preparing the elixir of life. Later, it was used as food to make various dishes. Tofu is delicious, nutritious, economical and easy to digest, so it is deeply loved by Chinese people. Not only that, Chinese medicine also believes that eating tofu regularly is beneficial to regulating qi, promoting fluid production and moistening dryness, clearing away heat and toxic materials, quenching thirst and hangover, and can also prevent and treat respiratory and digestive tract diseases. Therefore, Yuan Mei, a poet in the Qing Dynasty, said in the "Suiyuan Food List": "The taste of tofu is far better than bird's nest."
However, the word "eating tofu" that is often used now is not as simple as eating tofu. "Eating tofu" here means taking advantage of girls, and sometimes it can even be regarded as an implicit statement of "sexual harassment", which will be used on many occasions. Although the meaning is different, "eating tofu" is secretly related to eating tofu. Some people think that the saying of "eating tofu" has something to do with the folk joke that "tofu is beautiful": the proprietress of a tofu shop often eats tofu and is delicate. In order to attract customers, it is inevitable to show off her amorous feelings, which leads men around her to flirt with the proprietress in the name of "eating tofu" and make some moves. Therefore, "eating tofu" has become synonymous with men and frivolous women.
Of course, another statement is more credible: in the old society, there was a habit of "eating tofu". There must be tofu in the food prepared for bereavement, so it is called "eating tofu" or "eating tofu rice" to mourn. In order to fill their stomachs, many people have to have the cheek to eat rice. After a long time, "eating tofu" means taking advantage.
Why did the ancients say that "men don't have cats and women don't have dogs"
As the ancients said, men don't have cats, and women don't have dogs. They are different in nature, and it is inevitable to bite and blow their heads off. Men are dogs, cats are promiscuous, women are cats, dogs are transsexuals, and men, dogs and cats share the same room, which is the source of human disaster.
Cat's temperament, remember to eat without fighting, try to be comfortable, be angry and pay attention to family, but live a completely clean life without friendship. But it is grumpy, gluttonous and sleepy, which really makes people far behind. It is good at throwing herself at others, teasing others, disturbing people's eyes and ears and confusing others' mood. However, it is often inappropriate to play bad, which is praised as adjusting the atmosphere and reversing right and wrong. It has no economic value. It is not bad to rob millions of poor people of their rations, lick their faces, scratch their faces, bow their tails, bow their backs and despise them under their noses. They are hateful, disgusting and can be abandoned. You can kill them to comfort people, except cats, or millions of cats in the world have only one cat.
Dog nature, understand human feelings, understand the world, distinguish right from wrong, observe emotions. Drink soup, eat leftovers, without complaint; Take a sip of chicken soup and taste pork liver. It's wide and wide. Nursing home, herding sheep, abandoned the mind, strengthened the strength, kept the dog's skin warm, and whipped the dog for aphrodisiac.
There were roaring dogs in ancient times, but there were no cats in earthquakes. Men are like dogs and women are like cats. A spear and a shield complement each other and are the foundation of all things. Dogs are kept to be tamed, and cats are kept to play. A man marries a woman, and a woman marries a man, which means being tamed. One is willing to fight and the other is willing to get it. Home also means spear and shield. Today, cats and.
Why did the ancients call sex "sex"
Ancient novels, whether they are legendary novels, romantic novels, or classical masterpieces such as A Dream of Red Mansions and Water Margin, all write "* * * going to Wushan for pleasure" or "inevitably having sex"; Cao Xueqin wrote the scene of Jia Baoyu having sex with a servant girl in the sixth chapter of A Dream of Red Mansions. Even some modern media follow the example of the ancients and often report that an official took a beautiful woman to a hotel to have sex with Wushan. Why did the ancients call sexual intercourse "sex" and even talk about it today?
Some people say that walking on clouds is like a fairy coming down to earth! So at the climax of sexual intercourse, there is a feeling of ecstasy, which makes people feel as happy as a fairy, so ancient sexual intercourse is also called "sex rain"! Actually, it is not. "Sex and rain" originally refers to the story of the goddess Wushan getting up and scattering rain in ancient mythology. According to "Gao Xu" written by Chu and Song Yu in the Warring States Period: "My concubine is in the sun of Wushan, but she is blocked by high hills. Dan is facing the clouds, it is raining at dusk, under the balcony. " It can be seen that Wushan does have its own mountain.
Wushan is the east gate of modern Chongqing, the only place to visit the Three Gorges of the Yangtze River, and the important town in the Three Gorges reservoir area. Wushan has a long history, rich historical sites and rich resources. As early as 2.04 million years ago, the earliest homo erectus in Asia-Wushan people lived and multiplied here. The natural scenery of Wushan is unique. Wushan, the world-famous Three Gorges of the Yangtze River, owns all of Wuxia Gorge and most of Qutang Gorge. Wuxia is famous for its beautiful scenery, with long and winding valleys. There are famous "Twelve Peaks of Wushan Mountain" in the north and south of the Yangtze River, especially in goddess peak. There are many clouds and rains in the gorge, the frequent changes, the beauty of cloud state and the strange rain scene are amazing. Yuan Zhen, a famous poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote a swan song "Once the sea was difficult for water, it was amber forever", which summarized the eternal charm and charm of Wushan in the Three Gorges of the Yangtze River. Wushan's "three episodes and eight scenes" are shrouded in mysterious colors. The "three episodes" are the gift desk, the Chu balcony and the dragon chopping desk. The "Eight Scenes" are morning rain, spring dawn in Nanling, sunset, Ninghe Evening Crossing, Qingxi Fishing, Chengtan Autumn Moon, Xiufeng Temple and Jurchen Stone. Because it occupies an important position in the "Eight Scenery" of Wushan, people regard "Wushan Yu Yun" as a landmark landscape, and viewing "Wushan Yu Yun" becomes an aesthetic enjoyment. If you go to Wushan and miss it, you will have a lifelong regret of going to Baoshan but returning empty-handed.
As for the saying that "Wushan Yu Yun" has become a lingering affair between men and women, it was first seen in ancient prose such as Gao Tang Mi and Goddess Fu in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. These ancient texts tell the story of King Xiang of Chu and Song Yu visiting Yunmengtai together. When they visited Yunmengtai, Song Yu said, "In the past, my late king, Chu Huaiwang, once visited this place. When he was tired, he fell asleep. The late king dreamed of a beautiful woman who said that she was the daughter of Wushan and was willing to give her pillow to the king of Chu. The king of Chu was very happy to know that there was an implication, and immediately took a fancy to Wushan beauty. The Wushan woman told Chu Huaiwang when she left that if she wanted another concubine, she would come to Wushan to find me. It will be' clouds in the morning' and' rain' at night. "
After the publication of ancient prose such as Gao and Goddess Fu, it caused great repercussions in later generations, and the word "sexual rain" appeared more and more in various poems and Fu. Li Shangyin, a famous poet in the Tang Dynasty, once wrote a poem "Feeling", in which he wrote: "After the prosperous Tang Dynasty, Chutian Yu Yun was suspicious." The famous poet Du Fu also wrote a poem "Decline and Decline": I know Song Yu's sadness, romantic and refined, and he is also my teacher. Disappointed, a thousand years ago, tears, melancholy of different times, different times. His old home between mountains and rivers-empty works, empty sex platform-is certainly not imagined in the dream? ? Chu Palace Que was completely destroyed, which means the fisherman doesn't know. "Over time," sex "is gradually accepted by people. People think that using the word "sex" to describe the relationship between men and women is vivid and elegant, so "sex" has become a common word to describe sexual intercourse between men and women in ancient novels.
Why is it called "the ceremony of the Duke of Zhou" when couples enter the bridal chamber?
According to legend, in the early years of the Western Zhou Dynasty, the world was thin and the marriage customs were chaotic. Duke Zhou, who assisted the Emperor of Heaven in power, was sorting out folk customs, and he personally formulated ethics for the people. Duke Zhou attached great importance to the wedding, from matchmaking between men and women to marriage, which was divided into seven stages: receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting guests, welcoming relatives and dunlun. Each stage has specific and detailed regulations, which are collectively called "Seven Rites of Marriage Righteousness" and "Seven Rites of Marriage Righteousness for Scholars". In order to let the reader know how Zhou practiced the "seven rites", but when I tried the "Dunlun" section, Zhou Gong's wife refused. Dunlun, that is, the relationship between husband and wife, contains the intention of guiding newlyweds to act according to the ceremony. But his wife didn't agree to audition for Allen. While hesitating, the Duke of Zhou saw several gourd scoops fiddled with by his son Boqin, and was inspired. He tried to combine the two pieces into a gourd. The next day, the Duke of Zhou called the children of the scholar to Biyong (school) to explain the "Seven Rites of Marriage Righteousness". When talking about Dunlun, he took out a pair of original gourd ladle as a metaphor: before parting, it was like chaos. After being cut open, if there is a difference between men and women, it is like a reunion of gourd ladle, which is ugly and overwhelming. Since then, newlyweds have acted according to the "seven rites", and the original teaching aid ladle has also been regarded as a ritual vessel at the wedding: two ladle handles are tied with ropes, indicating that the couple are a family; It must be placed in the new house one by one, symbolizing the dependence of men on women and the reproduction of future generations. During the Spring and Autumn Period, the wedding ceremony formulated by Duke Zhou was gradually abandoned, so Confucius re-enacted the ceremony code. In the "Dunlun" section of The Scholars, he thought that the times had changed and he could save it. The "Six Rites" came into being. However, the folks still put the gourd ladle handed down from generation to generation on the wedding ceremony. Confucius also accepted the gift book and called it "couplets". It is not a formal ritual instrument in the wedding ceremony, but an instrument for the newlyweds to gargle with wine after "eating prison food" (that is, eating sacrificial meat). After a long time, many people think that this is an instrument for drinking "concentric wine"; Some people still learn from the predecessors' practice and put it one by one, but where do they know its original meaning?
It seems reasonable to study this folk custom with the historical facts of ancestors' marriage. Archaeological findings, such as Banpo and Majiayao cultural relics, all have pottery artifacts that simulate the whole and longitudinal sections of gourds. Some people think that this is the original symbol of human copulation; In the long custom practice, gourd often plays the role of symbolizing the combination of men and women. For example, in some areas, the mother-in-law will present a gourd-shaped "gift" to her daughter-in-law during the wedding night for men and women, with a lotus flower suggesting women and a protrusion representing men; In some areas, girls wear cloth embroidered with gourds when they get married; The custom of hanging wooden spoons on the beams of new houses is popular in some areas, which can also be regarded as the evolution of spoons. In addition, later generations often call it "the gift of the Duke of Zhou", which is a joke, but it can also show the ancient people's ethical attention to this matter.
Why are unmarried virgins called "yellow flower girls"
The origin of the yellow flower girl
Why do prostitutes call themselves yellow flower girls?
The word "yellow flower girl" originated in Nanjing.
The word "yellow flower girl" is understood by almost everyone in the world. As we all know, its origin is Jinling.
In the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Song Wudi had a daughter, Princess Shouyang, who was very beautiful. One day, she was tired of playing in the palace and lay down under the eaves of the palace. At that time, plum blossoms were in full bloom, and a gust of wind passed, and pieces of plum blossoms flew down, and some of them landed on her forehead. Plum blossoms were dyed and dyed, leaving stains on the flowers. Princess Shouyang was more feminine, and the ladies-in-waiting could not help but exclaim. Since then, Princess Shouyang, who loves beauty, often sticks plum blossoms on her forehead.
Princess Shouyang's dress is called "plum blossom makeup". Spread to the people, many rich families and daughters are scrambling to follow suit. But plum blossoms are seasonal, so someone came up with a way to collect other yellow pollen and make it into powder for makeup. This powder is called "Flower Yellow" or "Frontal Flower". Because the powder of plum blossom makeup is yellow, and the women who use this makeup are unmarried, slowly, the word "yellow flower girl" has become the exclusive title of unmarried girls.
The above statement is folklore. The custom of applique in Huang Zhi was earlier than that in Liu and Song Dynasties. There is a saying in the folk song Mulan Poetry of the Northern Dynasty that the Northern Dynasty was established earlier than Liu Song. An ordinary folk woman in the Northern Wei Dynasty has been painted yellow, indicating that this custom may have existed before the Eastern Jin Dynasty.
Folk often call young girls "yellow flower prostitutes". How did this name come from?
It turns out that unmarried women in ancient times like to "stick yellow flowers" when dressing up, that is, women draw various patterns on their foreheads or cheeks with yellow according to their own hobbies; You can also use yellow paper to cut into various patterns and paste them. At the same time, "yellow flower" also refers to chrysanthemum. Because chrysanthemum can resist cold in Ao Shuang, it is often used as a metaphor for people with moral integrity. Therefore, adding the word "yellow flower" in front of prostitutes means that the woman is not married, but she can remain chaste.
Why is the ambiguous relationship between men and women called "Peach Blossom Luck"
Apart from the well-known song "Where Peach Blossoms Bloom", our feelings about peach blossoms are what people often call "Peach Blossom Luck". The so-called "Peach Blossom Luck" refers to people who have strong affinity with the opposite sex and are fascinated by the opposite sex, and more refers to men being liked or admired by women. Creating "peach blossom luck" is probably a "beautiful thing" that all normal men can come into contact with. But we often hear the expression "peach blossom", which means that it is not a good thing to have conflicts between men and women or because of men and women.
The word "Peach Blossom Luck" originated from The Book of Songs. The original text of Guo Feng and Yao Tao said: "Peach flies away and burns its splendor. When its son returns home, he should stay at home. Peach died, and it is true that Peach's son returned to the family. Yao, Qi, the son of Yu Gui, is suitable for his family. " It seems that a long time ago, the ancients used exceptionally bright and delicate peach blossoms to describe women. This poem describes a woman when she gets married. Such a woman's husband's family is naturally satisfied with the metaphor that peach trees are full of fruits and lush foliage. Therefore, when the ancients praised and congratulated this marriage, they often said that "it is not only a gift from the Duke of Zhou, but also a poem", which is where the ceremony is made. This is probably the official source of the word "Peach Blossom Luck".
There is also a false legend about Peach Blossom Luck, which tells the story of Cui Hu, a poet in the Tang Dynasty. The well-known song "The title is Chengnan Village" is an emotional experience recorded by the poet himself: "Today last year, in this door, peach blossoms set each other off. People don't know where to go, but peach blossoms still smile in the spring breeze. " How much happiness and sadness, happiness and helplessness have we read from it.
The story goes like this: Cui Hu was thirsty while playing. He found a farmer who was covered by peach blossoms and went to beg for water. He was greeted by a woman who looks as beautiful as a peach blossom. He fell in love with this woman at first sight and loved each other, but in the era of see no evil at that time, men and women who loved each other could only "express their love" and "stop at the ceremony", and neither of them had any explanation. If we put it off now, I'm afraid we've already checked into the hotel.
The next spring, when the peach blossoms were in full bloom, Cuihu missed him more and more strongly, so he went to visit again, only to find that the yard was locked. Cui Hu wrote this poem at the gate. A few days later, Cui Hu went again. He heard crying in the yard and knocked at the door to ask. An old man came out and said, aren't you Cui Hu? You killed my daughter! After seeing you last year, she was in a trance. The day before yesterday, she saw the poem on the door. She felt sick as soon as she entered the door. She died without eating or drinking. You killed her. Cuihu was very sad and asked to go into the house and cry for her once. Cui Hu lifted the woman's head and put it on her lap, crying and praying, saying, I'm coming. At that time, I had mixed feelings and couldn't control myself. I don't want this woman to open her eyes and come back to life.
It was recorded in Bai Meng's Poetry and Emotion. It's a little exaggerated. Cui Hu's marriage is very beautiful. After they got married, the woman was attentive to her family and filial to her in-laws, adding fragrance to her husband's class at night. She really envies the gods in the sky. Cui Hu's study is also improving day by day. Later, I became the first, and my career was smooth sailing. Cui Hu is an honest official with outstanding achievements and is deeply loved by the people. He is really lucky. Later, according to this story, people called the ambiguous relationship between men and women "peach blossom luck" or "peach blossom luck"
From my personal understanding, it is also very appropriate to use the word "peach blossom luck" to describe the ambiguous relationship between men and women. One of the reasons is the beauty of peach blossoms. The word "peach blossom" means that someone's temperament is artistic and romantic. It can penetrate the mutual admiration between men and women and show the beauty of men and women. When the peach blossoms first opened, red and white set each other off, and they were shy and colorful, which coincided with the affectionate feelings of men and women. Peach blossom is affectionate and beautiful, which also makes the hearts of men and women soft and romantic. I think the ideal opposite sex in everyone's heart is mostly handsome men and beautiful women, swaying like peach blossoms. It is an alternative to expect an affair with two aunts of Pig Bajie or Pig Bajie himself.
Another reason is the restlessness of the season. When the peach blossoms are in full bloom, it is the third month of the lunar calendar. After a cold and helpless winter, people finally ushered in spring. Feelings that have been frozen for too long seem to be released with the spring breeze. A cool breeze blows gently and spring blossoms, giving people a lot of new breath, which naturally arouses passionate men and women's yearning for spring, just like willows are about to sprout, and feelings like to sprout in spring.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu has a similar description in Fortress Besieged: "The vegetation in parks and residential gardens, like wild animals in iron cages in zoos, is restrained and lonely, and it is not free enough to vent in spring. Spring only comes to people's hearts. It can be seen that the warmth of spring can melt the frost that has solidified in people's hearts for a long time, making people feel happy and restless. And joy and restlessness will inevitably lead to spring. Boys and girls often have to keep up with the rhythm of nature in decoration, leaving aside the massiness and lightness, so the closer the internal space is to nature, the more integrated it is. This new feeling of practicing both inside and outside is easy to express in feelings. No wonder Qian Lao said, "There are more cases of adultery and drinking and fighting, and there are more pregnant women. "It can be seen that spring is the most restless and changeable season.
The fortuneteller always says "peach blossom", which means that he has entangled troubles with the opposite sex. The beauty of "Peach Blossom Luck" will also bring emotional influence to people, and of course there will be all kinds of troubles and troubles caused by it. In the interpretation of Yi scholars, "Peach Blossom Luck" is similar to all other fortunes, and there is a certain truth. "Peach Blossom Luck" is not a man's patent. When a woman meets a man who favors her, she also creates "peach blossom luck", and of course she will "commit peach blossom luck".
Why adultery is commonly known as "picking up ashes"
Some commonly used Chinese idioms, slang and two-part allegorical sayings all have their original meanings, but many of them have been extended by later generations, which are far from the original intention, and some are even the opposite. For example, the original meaning of "f * * king" is "sneaking into the tent to fall in love", and the current common word is "picking up girls"; "Laozi" originally meant "son", but now it's just the other way around. There are also some proverbs that we often only know, but we don't know why. Such as "picking up ashes" is an example.
Jiao Da, a rascal in A Dream of Red Mansions, once vowed that Jia Fu was "crawling" and "crawling", also known as "collecting ashes". Modern people's congresses know that it refers to "incest" between father-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Then why is Weng's wife's incest called "crawling ash" or "picking up ash"? There are several interesting sayings.
This proverb is related to Wang Anshi in the Northern Song Dynasty. Wang Anshi's son died young and his daughter-in-law was widowed in another small building. According to legend, out of concern for her daughter-in-law, Wang Anshi occasionally went to Xiao Lou to visit her. Daughter-in-law probably misunderstood that being a father-in-law had ulterior motives, so she wrote poems on the wall to express her feelings. Wang Anshi was embarrassed when he saw it, so he scraped off the wall ash with his nails. In this way, there are rumors of "scraping ash" among the people. However, this statement may be too far-fetched, and it is estimated that it was deliberately fabricated by political opponents who opposed Wang Anshi's political reform.
Some people also say that this "climbing ash" is a homophonic extension. Li, a scholar in the Tang Dynasty, said in Tan: "Those who commit adultery with their children often collect ashes and cover them as code words to defile their daughter-in-law. The knees are the same as the voice of the daughter-in-law, and the gray knees are dirty. " The general idea is that a man who climbs on the ash will definitely dirty his knees, so "climbing on the ash" will "dirty his knees", and "dirty knees" is homophonic with "dirty wife". This statement seems to be attached to the meeting. Think about it, in daily life, who can climb the ashes when they are full?
On the contrary, Wang Youguang's description of "picking up ashes" in Wu Lian is generally credible. After the Southern Dynasties, Liang Wudi filial piety promoted Buddhism, and the temples in the south of the Yangtze River were like forests, and incense flourished. Many good men and women pray for piety and seek the blessing of bodhisattvas. When they burn incense in the temple, they will burn a lot of paper money coated with tin foil, leaving a lot of tin-containing ashes. This kind of tin can be reused, which was very expensive at that time. So some greedy people sneaked into the temple in the dead of night to pick up ash and steal tin. The purpose of "picking up ash" here is to "steal tin", and tin is homophonic with daughter-in-law. On this basis, some good scholars call Weng's wife's incest "collecting dust", which implies "stealing tin (daughter-in-law)"
Picking up dust-stealing tin-stealing wife. In fact, the ancients in China did not lack a sense of humor.