“The first impression is gold”, introduction etiquette is the basic and important content of etiquette. Introduction is the starting point for mutual communication between people, and its most prominent role is to shorten the distance between people. In social or business situations, if you can use introductions correctly, you can not only expand your social circle and make friends, but also help you perform necessary self-presentation and self-promotion, and help you eliminate misunderstandings and reduce troubles in interpersonal interactions. .
Imagine you are being introduced to someone, you both say your names, and then say something like, "Nice to meet you." And then what? What should you say? You feel awkward being around this new acquaintance, so you rack your brain for the next topic.
You can design a clear and fresh self-introduction to make future conversations go more smoothly. Say this to yourself in front of the mirror a few times until you feel good. Giving the other person some information about yourself can help the conversation flow smoothly. For example, you can say:
"Hello, I am Carol Jones, an accountant at ABC Company. I help people manage their money and help them save money."
" Hello, my name is Tom Martin, and I work at XYZ Company to help small companies design computer software.”
So Tom started asking Carol about accounting, ABC Company, and how to manage money. Carol is also going to ask about XYZ Company, software design, etc. Look, your introduction led to an interesting conversation.
In fact, there is a lot of knowledge about self-introduction in daily life, including the timing, type, and precautions for self-introduction.
1. When should I introduce myself?
When should I introduce myself? This issue is relatively complex and involves many factors such as time, location, parties, bystanders, and atmosphere at the scene. However, it is generally believed that at the following times, it is necessary to introduce yourself appropriately if possible.
(1) In social situations, when getting along with strangers.
(2) In social situations, when strangers show interest in you.
(3) In social situations, when someone you don’t know asks you to introduce yourself.
(4) When getting along with strangers around you at a public gathering.
(5) When planning to get involved in a social circle of strangers at a public gathering.
(6) When you want something from someone, but the other person doesn’t know you well or knows nothing about you.
(7) When the person you are dating cannot remember you clearly because of forgetfulness, or you are worried that this may happen.
(8) When you meet others unexpectedly during a business trip or travel, and it is necessary to establish temporary contact with them.
(9) When visiting someone else’s residence or office for the first time.
(10) When visiting an acquaintance and encountering an unknown person blocking the way, or when the other party is not present and you need to ask an unknown person to convey the message on your behalf.
(11) When using mass media, such as newspapers, magazines, radio, television, movies, slogans, and leaflets for the first time, to promote and promote self to the public.
(12) When using social media, such as letters, phone calls, telegrams, faxes, and electronic letters, to communicate with other strangers.
(13) When going to an unfamiliar unit to make business contacts.
(14) When conducting business promotion in public places due to business needs.
(15) When applying for a job.
(16) When studying for exams.
All these situations can be summarized into three situations: first, I want to get to know others; second, others want to get to know me; third, I think it is necessary for others to understand or know me.
2． Types of self-introduction
(1) Social style
In some public occasions and general social occasions, such as traveling, in banquet halls, on dance floors, When talking on the phone, you can use social self-introduction.
The object of the social introduction is the person with whom we have general contact, or is a casual acquaintance, or is already familiar with the person. The purpose of introducing oneself is just to confirm the identity or to say hello. Therefore, this kind of introduction should be concise and concise, usually just introducing the name. For example:
"Hello, my name is Zhou Qiong."
"I am Lu Man."
(2) Communication style
Sometimes, in social activities, when we want someone to get to know ourselves, understand ourselves, and establish contact with ourselves, we can use the communicative introduction method to conduct preliminary communication and further communication with the person we like.
Communicative self-introduction is more casual and can include the introducer’s name, job, place of origin, education, interests, and relationship with some acquaintances of the person you are communicating with. It can be exhaustive without leaving any trace, or it can also be deliberately vague. What you conceal creates a sense of mystery and stimulates the other party's interest in further communication with you. The so-called "set of porcelain" falls into this category, and the current "romantic encounter" on the Internet is a typical representative. For example:
"Hello, I am Jade Butterfly, because I particularly like Nicholas Tse."
"Jade Butterfly? It is the name of Nicholas Tse's performance. I prefer Jay Chou."
"Oh, where are you? Do you also like to surf the Internet all night?"
"I am in Changsha. I just fell in love, so I stayed up all night to surf the Internet."
(3) Etiquette
In some formal and solemn occasions, such as lectures, reports, performances, celebrations, ceremonies and other formal and solemn occasions, etiquette self-introduction should be used to show respect for others. Introduce the person with friendliness and respect.
The ceremonial self-introduction should include your name, unit, position, etc., and also add some appropriate humility and honorifics to meet the special needs of these occasions and create a modest and courteous communication atmosphere. . For example:
"Hello, everyone! I am Zheng Yang, your old friend. Now, I will present you a rich and delicious music feast. Thank you to all the listeners for their support of 'Campus Ballads' As always, support and care.”
(4) Work-style self-introduction is mainly suitable for work. It takes work as the center of self-introduction, communicates because of work, and makes friends because of work. Sometimes, it is also called a business-style self-introduction.
The content of a work-style self-introduction should include three items: your name, the unit and department you work for, the position you hold or the specific work you do. They are called the three elements of the work-style self-introduction. , usually both are indispensable. Among them, the name in the first item should be stated in one sentence. There should not be a surname but no surname, or a given name but no surname. It may be best to report all the units and departments you work for in the second item. Sometimes, specific work departments may not be reported temporarily. Item 3: Positions held or specific work performed. If there is a position, it is best to report the position. If the position is lower or there is no position, you can report the specific work you are currently engaged in. For example:
"Hello! My name is Zhang Yixi, and I am the Director of the Communications Department of the Foreign Affairs Office of the Dalian Municipal Government."
"My name is Fu Dongmei, and I am currently working in the Department of International Politics at Renmin University of China Teaching Diplomacy. ”
(5) Question-and-answer style
The question-and-answer style of self-introduction is generally suitable for exams, job applications and official interactions. It is also seen from time to time in ordinary social and entertainment situations.
The content of self-introduction in a question-and-answer format pays attention to what you ask and what you answer, and answer all questions. For example:
A asked: "Hello, Miss! I wonder what I should call you?" B replied: "Hello, sir! My name is Wang Xueshi."
Master The examiner asked: "Please introduce your basic situation." The applicant replied: "Hello, everyone! My name is Zhang Jun, I am 28 years old, from Xi'an, Shaanxi, Han nationality, member of the Communist Party of China, married, graduated from Xi'an in 1995 Department of Naval Engineering, Jiaotong University, with a bachelor's degree in engineering. Currently working as an assistant engineer at Beijing Shougang Shipping Company. During this period, I worked in Argentina for 1 year. In addition to being proficient in the major, I also master English, Japanese, and understand computers. , can drive cars and boats. He has published 6 papers in official domestic journals and holds a technology patent.
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3. Precautions for self-introduction
(1) No matter what kind of self-introduction, you must pay attention to the proportion. First of all, you need to pay attention to the timing of self-introduction. The introduction should be made at an appropriate time, such as when the other party is free, when the other party is interested, when the other party is interested in you, when the other party makes a request. If the time is inappropriate, such as when the other party is busy, lacks interest, is in a bad mood, etc. Secondly, you should pay attention to controlling the length of your self-statement. In principle, the shorter the time, the better. The content of the introduction must be worthy of being told to the other party, and the introducer must be concise and coherent. The time should generally be controlled within one minute.
( 2) You should also pay attention to your attitude when introducing yourself. You should be friendly, natural, approachable, and easy-going. You should be polite, don't be timid, and don't be bluffing. You should be confident and don't belittle yourself or be timid. , the speaking speed should be normal and the pronunciation should be clear; avoid being blunt, speaking too fast or too slow, or having unclear pronunciation, otherwise the other party will need you to introduce yourself a second time. Be sure to be truthful when introducing yourself. There is no need to be overly modest and blindly put down oneself to please others; nor should one brag or act mysterious in an attempt to win the favor of others by exaggerating oneself.
In fact, in interpersonal communication, no matter what the occasion, self-introduction is the most important thing. Authenticity and honesty come first. As long as you can grasp this and use the skills of self-introduction appropriately, I believe you will successfully complete the first level of communication and lay a solid foundation for further communication in the future.