Today’s primary school students live in a happy era, growing up under the careful care of adults. They are all smart, bold, naughty, naughty and cute. Although we often say that naughtiness and naughtiness are the nature of children, this has a certain limit. If this kind of naughtiness and naughtiness has developed to the point that it does not distinguish between time, place and things, it becomes disobedience. This kind of If habits are not corrected, they will directly affect the healthy growth of primary school students. In daily life, we often hear complaints like this: "My child is disobedient. He just does things you don't let him do. He doesn't listen to adults at all. It's really a headache." We also heard this. Say something like this: "There are a few children in our class who are very noisy. They hit people, tear up books, say bad words, and destroy toys. If you reason with them, they will forget about it when you turn around." Of course, our class is also like this. A student of mine usually did what the teacher told me not to do, but he just did it. Every time I talked to him, he always looked helpless. After I went back, I did the same thing. As time went by, I almost changed my surname to Xu, but the students were still indifferent. How should we face and solve these problems? I would like to make a few comments. First of all, I think we should start with the child’s parents. In the ancient Chinese classic "Book of Changes: Family" it is pointed out: "Teaching puts family first." I once read this sentence: "Good parents and a good family are a good school for children." Confucius, a famous educator in ancient my country, also said: "If a person is upright, he will not do what he is told; if his body is not upright, he will not follow orders. .” It can be seen that family education has a huge impact on children. When our children make us angry, if we scold or hit them without thinking, it usually won’t help. And this kind of behavior is exactly what we teach our children not to do. In this way, our words and deeds become a negative teaching material. , Therefore, we should pay attention to the ways and methods of education. I have also had conversations with parents about such students, and the parents have also reflected on it thoughtfully. After returning home, the children have indeed improved. I hope that parents can persevere for the sake of their children, pay more attention to their children, and educate them more. child. Secondly, I think we should start with teachers. The famous former Soviet educator Suhomlinsky once said: "Teachers are the first light in students' intellectual life, and then the main guiding light." The famous Czechoslovak educator Comenius once said : "There is no more noble profession under the sun than teaching." Our beloved Premier Zhou said of teachers: "School teachers are engineers who cultivate the souls of the next generation." It can be seen that from ancient times to the present, from domestic There are countless evaluations of teachers abroad, which all illustrate the extremely important impact that teachers have on children's lives. As primary school teachers, the students we face are innocent primary school students. They have a strong desire to imitate their teachers, and they will proudly say: "This is what our teacher said!" This childlike innocence and pride It comes from the heart and is the trust and admiration for the teacher. Therefore, when we face disobedient primary school students, we should try to change our mentality. Maybe this will have a good impact on the behavior of primary school students. . 1. Change the problem environment Sometimes behavioral problems can be solved without shouting or arguing. We can change the problem environment. For example: to prevent students from playing with knives, we can keep the knives out of reach of students instead of saying loudly and repeatedly: "No knives are allowed." We must know that primary school students are very curious, and the more they don't let them Playing, the more curious you are, the more you want to give it a try. However, when we repeatedly say: "No playing", it becomes a strengthening reminder, which arouses students' curiosity even more. In fact, we only need to change the environment of the problem. Just one click is enough. 2. Primary school students also learn to have a sense of responsibility. Responsibility is what adults should have, and for adults, it should be cultivated. It can make primary school students progress and create self-confidence and pride in primary school students. For example: a primary school student throws books everywhere and does not put them back in their original place. At this time, we should let the primary school student know that this is his own business. We should say to the primary school student: "You should put the books away. This is your responsibility." Because you are reading the book, I believe you can do it as quickly as the teacher collects the book. "Many children are happy to see their own progress, and they feel very happy when they hear comments about themselves compared with adults. pride. 3. Exchange roles for experience. In the interactions between primary school students, quarrels and conflicts are inevitable. The mood and attitude of primary school students will affect their interactions.
When there is a conflict between primary school students, they can exchange roles with each other and experience each other. This can teach primary school students what to do and what not to do. For example, two primary school students had a conflict while painting. One student did not bring an oil pastel and asked to borrow it from another student, but the student was unwilling to borrow it, so a conflict occurred. The student who borrowed the oil pastel beat the student who did not borrow the oil pastel. Student, at this time, we asked the two students to exchange roles and let them enter the situation of borrowing oil pastels. As a result, the conflict between the two students was resolved and they realized that they were wrong. We did not need to explain anything. The students understood each other. 4. Let primary school students clarify the instructions you give them. Primary school students often behave inappropriately because they do not understand the instructions given to them by adults. Therefore, when we want students to learn to be obedient, we must let students know when and what to do. For example: Sometimes we don't mind when primary school students speak casually during activities, but sometimes this is a very bad thing. Therefore, we must let primary school students know when they can speak casually and when not. We can show two different signs: one is red with hand shapes, and one is green with mouth shapes, and clearly tell the children: when there is a red sign in the activity area, they cannot speak casually, and when there is a green sign, Primary school students can understand this sign that they can speak at will. The most important thing is that primary school students must know when and what to do. 5. Moderate punishment for naughtiness and mischief is the nature of children and their patent, but if primary school students blindly act willfully, it will be a very bad thing. Therefore, when facing disobedient students, you cannot always punish them. Be gentle and reasonable, especially when dealing with aggressive behaviors and dangerous behaviors, we must let primary school students understand the adverse consequences of these behaviors, and let primary school students understand that their actions are wrong and cannot be done again. For example: During manual activities, some students used scissors to poke other students' necks. Although he did not intend to hurt anyone, doing so also showed that he did not understand the dangers of this behavior. Therefore, in addition to giving In addition to being reasonable, we must also let him receive a little punishment. We can let him carry a small chair to the side of the classroom and sit alone for a while. The purpose of this is to let the child understand that he has indeed done something wrong that is different from tearing up books and throwing things. It is a very dangerous thing and something that cannot be done again. Primary school students will feel uncomfortable when they are alone, so that they can understand the serious consequences of such things, thereby helping them establish the concept of right and wrong, and we can achieve the purpose of educating primary school students. 6. Directly express your attitude to primary school students. I saw this paragraph in an article on how to stop primary school students from making mistakes: Mental health experts sometimes directly use actions to correct children's bad behaviors. For example: if you see your son reaching for food from someone else's plate, you can gently pull the child's hand back to his own plate and say, "That's good. I like that you put your hands where they should be." When we teach primary school students to be obedient, we should not just be reasonable, we should also guide and stop them. Of course, it should be a friendly and gentle stop, rather than a rough interference. For example: when we see a primary school student throwing the broom on the ground and preparing to leave, we can say to the child in a gentle and affirmative tone: "Can you put the broom back where it belongs? I will be very happy!" One sentence can save you many sentences of truth. 7. Lead by example and interact equally with primary school students. A major feature of primary school students' learning is imitation, and the words and deeds of parents and teachers will become the objects of imitation by primary school students. "Really good teachers should try their best to prevent their bad habits from affecting their students" (Alcott). I believe this statement is the same for parents. When we teach our children to face mistakes and have the courage to admit them, we ourselves should set an example, put aside our so-called face, interact with students as equals, and take the initiative to say "I'm sorry, I was wrong" to students when we make mistakes. Then when a primary school student makes a mistake and faces a mistake, he or she will apologize and admit it. In short, to make primary school students obedient, it is not enough for us to get angry and reason repeatedly. Let us all take a deep breath. Only with a calm mind can we come up with good ways to educate. Let us all advocate loving education! Finally, I would like to end with a sentence: "A good mood and a good method are the education of love!"