No matter what the reason is for couples to quarrel, men are the most effective solution. It is to put down the macho airs and sincerely apologize to the woman. And say sorry I was wrong. Take a step back and the sky will be brighter. I remember that Shanghai Oriental TV has a program that is currently the most popular in the country called (Mama Miah). There is a contestant whose husband said to her many years ago that at home, men are always wrong and women are always right. The two of them had never quarreled after many years of marriage, and it was based on this sentence. At that time, the host Hu Ke said that this sentence was a classic and she wanted to go home and tell her husband Sha Yi to go. I also think this sentence makes sense. Even if a man is reasonable, what will happen if he takes a step back at home? What is missing at home? I owe my daughter-in-law a pound of meat. Nor did he lose his dignity. Is a man's face so important at home? The couple has nothing to do with each other, so there is no need to be too serious about it. No matter who is right or wrong, a man should take the initiative to say thank you and say sorry. What could happen? Men can't forgive unless it's something big or serious that a woman cheats on. The rest of the things are small, no matter how big they are. It's all easy to discuss and solve. The most effective way for a man to give in is to resolve a quarrel between a couple. Good men don't fight with women. Don't use curse words or make physical attacks. Only in this way can the couple, family, and life be happy.
The best way to quarrel is to just shut up. I remember last year when my husband said this and that about me, and I went out. One night he said something about me, and I fell asleep with my head covered. When I fell asleep, I didn’t know what he said. I went about my normal life the next day. This is called retreating. What can you do? It is also called "can't afford to offend but can afford to hide". No one wins or loses between husband and wife, only tolerance is the right way. Never add fuel to the fire, that would be a big mistake. Remember there is no hierarchy between husband and wife. Family and everything will be prosperous. Put yourself in someone else's shoes and you will suddenly become enlightened.
No gold is pure, and no man is perfect. There are no couples in the world who don’t quarrel. There are so many trivial matters in life, and it is inevitable that there will be times when they quarrel. It can be said that couples are each other’s closest enemies in the world. However, some couples become more affectionate the more they quarrel, while others become more quarrelsome. Just say goodbye. So, what is the best and most effective solution to a couple’s quarrel?
Every time my husband and I quarrel, there will be an hour or two or half a day to calm down, and then he will come to me like a normal person and apologize to me. . Although I won’t immediately smile, we will calmly communicate the reasons for our anger, our true inner thoughts and hopes. In addition, in order to make me happy, he, who usually doesn't cook much, would sometimes proactively request to cook, or directly treat me to a big meal. The previous unhappiness quickly disappeared.
Many couples quarrel and then engage in a cold war, ignoring each other, and some even sleep in separate rooms; some do not even quarrel and just engage in a cold war. Little do they know that a cold war is the most detrimental way to a couple's relationship. , If you don’t keep your feelings cold, your feelings will become really cold. So there must be no cold war! There must be no cold war! There must be no cold war! Say important things three times.
Women’s emotions can easily escalate during a quarrel, and they can accidentally bring up old scores or say some very hurtful words. Therefore, as a woman, you can explode your temper during a quarrel. After all, it is easy to get angry if you don't vent your emotions. However, you should try to be restrained during the explosion and be calm, and don't indulge your emotions and settle old scores. Words that hurt someone’s self-esteem too much. If I really can't control myself, I go out to get some fresh air and cool down before talking.
And if the old princess is defeated and comes to sue for peace, you should stop blaming her and know how to give in. If you continue to be unreasonable and push too far, it will only affect the relationship between the couple and even ruin the marriage.
There was once a very funny joke that went viral in the circle of friends, saying: "How dare you mess with an undead creature that bleeds for seven days every month? Seeking death?" It shows that men love women but are helpless. When couples quarrel, men often cannot quarrel with women, because women mostly quarrel about emotions, while men mostly quarrel about principles. The more men quarrel with women about serious and cold principles, the more violent the women will quarrel. It is not like a flash flood. Blocking means "the wind is roaring, the rain is howling, and my wife is roaring."
What a woman wants is your feelings for her, not the big principles. Therefore, when quarreling, men need to give in more, put down your big man airs and face, and either listen to her quarrel, or coax her with soft words while listening. In this way, not only will she not regard your concession as weakness, but she will become more convinced that you are indeed worthy of her lifelong trust, and she will feel happy in her heart and love you even more.
Okay, the quarrel is finally over, calm down. Both women and men should sit down and communicate calmly after calming down. This is very important. To keep a marriage fresh, you must open your heart and express your inner thoughts and hopes to the other person. Talk about why you are angry, talk about what you really think, and talk about what to eat for the next meal...
Of course, there is another simple and crude method: sleep. After the quarrel, we slept one night and had a good time. We woke up the next day, looked at each other and smiled, and recovered as before.
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No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is in life, they will inevitably have bumps and bruises. In fact, quarrels are not a problem. , the problem is how to quickly resolve the quarrel and quickly restore the relationship without affecting family life. Compared with men, most women are very emotional and easy to care about. In the end, female friends always feel sad. Therefore, no matter what the reason is for couples to quarrel, they should find the most effective and best solution, so as to bring them closer to each other without causing more conflicts between them.
The cold war caused by the quarrel must be dealt with in time. If it is delayed, it will easily affect the rest of life. The longer the cold war lasts, it will develop into an inertial cold war. If the other party does not bow his head and does not accommodate, then It is possible that the cold war will continue forever.
Therefore, we must find a solution, take the initiative to show weakness, and give the other party enough warmth and hugs. There must have been a lot of intimate things happening between the two of them in the past, so hugging is not difficult for everyone. After the Cold War breaks out again, neither party knows how to communicate, so they must try to give him a hug.
People say that couples do not have an overnight feud. It can be seen that as long as couples stop quarreling and stop arguing, good communication can still resolve many conflicts. No matter who is right or wrong, as long as we sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk, these problems can be solved.
To give a simple analogy, if a female friend cannot accept her husband playing games and they quarrel. You can calmly say to your husband: "I know you are under a lot of pressure at work. Playing games can relieve stress. He also needs to consider my feelings." Using words like this will make your husband feel that he is sensible and considerate, and at the same time, he will avoid ignoring you all the time in the future.
Most women have the aura of a princess, but don’t turn the aura of a beautiful princess into a kind of suicide. When the husband makes a move to sue for peace, she must know how to use the donkey to go downhill and cater to her husband's wishes. Even if the husband does not express any wrong attitude, as long as he takes the initiative and whispers softly, the woman should not act like she is ignoring him. Looks like this, which will stimulate the man's temper and be very detrimental to the couple's life.
If this can be done, this family will become happier and happier. If men learn to tolerate and women learn to understand, no matter who is right or wrong in the quarrel, it can be resolved smoothly. . However, there are some unhappy families, and most of them lack this kind of tolerance and understanding. These two things are needed between people. Men should understand that female friends have to do laundry and cooking at home every day, and they also have to work hard. You must know that it is not easy for anyone, and husband and wife are doing the best for the family.
There is another solution to the quarrel between husband and wife, which is to change yourself appropriately. For example, you can make yourself a mature and stable person that your partner likes. Young friends must be stable and generous, and at the same time treat their husbands with gentleness, because no man does not like gentle, generous, and decent women. As a man, you must make yourself extraordinary so that your wife can be proud of you.
It is inevitable for couples to quarrel, and bumps and bumps in life are also very common. However, no matter what the reason is for couples to quarrel, they need to find the most effective and best solution. Only a quick solution can bring the relationship closer to each other and make the family more harmonious and happier. (end)
Quarrel is a common phenomenon in the married life of couples. A small quarrel every three days and a big quarrel every five days is the normal life of some couples. However, some couples become more and more emotional during the quarrel. Deeply, some couples become more and more resentful during the quarrel, and even worse, break up and get divorced after the quarrel.
Why do the same quarrels have different results? This involves the topic: solutions to couples’ quarrels. Different solutions will have different results. So, what are the most effective solutions? Woolen cloth?
This is a wait-and-see approach. There are many reasons for couples to quarrel. Most of the quarrels are over trivial matters in life, such as whether to eat fried rice with eggs or fried eggs with rice, taking off clothes and throwing them around, and going to the toilet to watch. Trivial things like mobile phones can become the trigger for quarrels.
However, many couples quarrel instead of discussing the matter. Instead, one thing can ferment into several things, and can even be traced back to several years ago. This kind of quarrel can't be solved even after a day of quarrel. Who is right and who is wrong? The way to stop this kind of nonsensical quarrel is for one party to shut up, just listen to what the other party says, and let her criticize you for your faults. When you can't think of anything to say, turn off the phone.
In this kind of quarrel between husband and wife, most of the men should be rational and generous, make some concessions, and let her talk. When the wife stops, you can say to her, "Look, it's a small thing." "You have been chatting for a long time, are you tired? Drink some water and take a rest." In this way, a few words can eliminate most of the anger in the woman's heart. There is no principle issue in the first place, and the quarrel is over.
This method is suitable for couples who quarrel over trivial family matters. If there are major issues of right and wrong, this method can relieve them for a while. To truly solve the problem, they need to calm down and discuss it carefully.
I have read a short story before. It's about a couple quarreling. There was a heated argument, and finally the wife asked her husband to bring everything that belonged to him. Get out! The husband stood up silently and pulled a large sheet from the bed. Spread on the ground. His wife threw all his clothes, shoes and hats on the big sheet. "Take your things and get out! Never come back!"
The husband said to his wife: "You can also lie down on it. I want to take away everything that belongs to me. I can't take my things away." Just give it to others”!
When a wife hears these words, most of her annoyance will disappear and the atmosphere will turn into emotion. Women are very easily moved. At this time, her husband will step forward and hold her in his arms, and all the grievances will disappear. With tears, my husband will have a chance. With comfort and acknowledgment of his mistakes, everything will be resolved.
This method is suitable for young couples who are in good relationship. Their occasional quarrels are the spice of life, and their relationship will be deeper after reconciliation. No matter how good the relationship is, there will always be quarrels. It mainly depends on how you end it.
There are thousands of quarrels between couples. If one party does not betray, all quarrels can be reconciled. All problems can be reconciled, but if one party cheats, changes his or her heart, or loses love, then the quarrel becomes a war.
There are roughly two types of quarrels about cheating:
1. One is when the cheating party finds trouble and quarrels, forcing the other party to divorce. But for various reasons, the other party did not want to divorce, which led to quarrels.
2. One is that the cheating partner is just looking for temporary pleasure and does not want a divorce, but the other partner cannot bear the betrayal and insists on divorce, leading to a quarrel.
No matter which one, the best way to deal with it is for the two people to stop the meaningless quarrel, calm down, and seriously think about what will happen to the children if they get divorced? How much happiness will children from single-parent families lack when they grow up? Will life in the future be better than now? Is the person you once loved so unworthy of cherishing? Is there anything else about her that I should miss?
The above issues have been thought through clearly. The two of them talked calmly and resolved their gatherings and separations peacefully. After all, they have loved each other, so why should they become enemies?
Summary:
1. Both parties are still loyal to the quarrel under the conditions of marriage. The husband must be generous and tolerant, and the woman must accept it as soon as it suits her, and discuss and resolve everything.
2. If one party is cheating, don't quarrel, as that will not solve the problem and waste your energy. Give each other a day to consider various issues before deciding to get together, so that you can get together and break up easily. (end)
No matter what the reason is for couples to quarrel, what is the best and most effective solution?
The superficial conflicts in marriage have deep roots. Once the source is found, there will be a solution.
Some couples love each other, but they quarrel all day long. The content of the quarrel is irrelevant. Sometimes it is not even trivial. It seems that they are just quarreling for the sake of quarreling. What is the reason? In fact, the reason for the quarrel is not the real reason. Just like the questioner said "no matter what the reason", every quarrel has different reasons, but these reasons are not the real reasons for the quarrel. The real reasons are nothing more than two points. :
1. One party does not get care, support, and understanding from the other party. One party always criticizes and suppresses the other party, and there is a gap in the relationship between husband and wife.
2. The problems after each quarrel are not resolved, and the old suppressed emotions are upsetting and will magnify the trivial matters, leading to endless quarrels.
The above two reasons are mostly due to emotional stress, and this nervousness is related to the environment in which one grew up in childhood. There are many sad experiences in childhood that cannot be eliminated. For example, parents often quarrel, and the father or mother is addicted to gambling, alcoholism, domestic violence, etc., which will cause tension in the child. If things go on like this, this tension will be stored in the subconscious. In adulthood, whenever the lover treats If you don't care, don't understand, don't appreciate, don't support, etc., this kind of tension will burst out.
This kind of tension is stored in the subconscious mind. When one party does not comply with the rules, there will be a quarrel. For example, buying groceries incorrectly, speaking in a wrong tone, coming back late from get off work, etc. In fact, these are not the reasons for the quarrel. The real reason is the "tension" in the subconscious.
1. Sincere and effective communication
Since two people love each other and want to live a good life, they must sincerely solve the problem and sit down and have a good talk. Talk and take a serious inventory of the problems in the marriage. The two people must understand that the source of the quarrel is "tension." This kind of tension is related to the growth experience. Both people should take stock of their own growth experiences and think about what kind of "emotional baggage" they each brought with them into the marriage.
After taking stock of the "emotional baggage", you must get rid of this "baggage". The past is in the past, and you must face the present life bravely. When you are dissatisfied with your lover, first ask yourself if you are nervous. If it is because your lover does not care about, understand, support, or appreciate you, then tell him (her) this idea instead of saying it to him ( (She) did not buy the right groceries, said the wrong words, came back late from get off work, etc. These excuses lead to quarrels.
2. Solve old emotional problems
After two people communicated sincerely, they solved the previously unresolved emotional problems and put aside their dissatisfaction with their lover. , point out the mistakes one by one, solve them one by one, release the old suppressed emotions through sincere communication, and solve the problems.
3. Take stock of unmet emotional needs
Two people communicate sincerely and tell their lover their true feelings. For example, the lover always criticizes themselves and does not understand or support themselves. Not caring, not appreciating, etc. make yourself uncomfortable and emotionally tense.
Take stock of each other’s unsatisfied emotional needs. In the following marriage life, each should have sufficient care, understanding, support, and appreciation for their lover.
Some friends may say that men should give way to women. When a quarrel occurs, it will be better if the man is more tolerant, but tolerance is not the best way to solve the problem. way. Can you tolerate it once, twice, three times or four times? Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, one party always tolerates the other. Over time, if the suppressed emotions are not released, big problems will arise in the marriage. I believe that both husband and wife should face the problems in marriage together with a mentality of equality, mutual love and understanding, and solve them actively and effectively, so that they can have a good marriage.
In short, as long as the couple takes stock of the origins of the quarrel, finds the source of emotional tension, communicates sincerely and effectively, solves old emotional problems, and takes inventory of unmet emotional needs, in the future, Here, give each other enough care, understanding, support and appreciation, etc. If the two of you work together and think more about each other, you will have fewer and fewer quarrels and your relationship will become deeper and deeper.
Isn’t life just about gritting your teeth and stumbling your way through life? There are no couples in this world who don't quarrel. The couples who really don't quarrel have already become passers-by.
Since it is inevitable for couples to quarrel, if they quarrel too much, it will inevitably hurt their feelings. Therefore, after every quarrel, most people feel frustrated and regretful. Because those blurted out words not only hurt the other person, but also hurt yourself. When people in love quarrel, there is no winner or lose. If this hurdle cannot be overcome, then both people are losers.
"What are you most afraid of when you quarrel?"
I asked many couples and couples this question, and their answers all point to this: they are most afraid of sudden attacks. of the Cold War.
For the sake of face, after a husband and wife quarrel, when both of them are still angry, no one can take the initiative to give in to the other. The result is a cold war.
Once a quarrel escalates into a cold war, it means ignoring each other for a long time. As time goes by, the anger can disappear, but the problem cannot be solved. Even if it is better, it will only be calm on the surface. The person who feels that he is a victim has unbridled grievances in his heart, just waiting for the next conflict to break out.
Therefore, the key to quarreling is not to let the conflict turn into a cold war. The cold war means a complete interruption of communication, which is meaningless in solving the problem.
At this time, someone must stand up and show her/his tolerance and understanding. Even if you don't say anything, giving the other person a hug can break down the other person's defenses.
Thick-skinned people are especially useful at this time. No matter how many cold faces the other party gives you, you will not give up until the other party's attitude begins to soften, and things will take a turn for the better.
Slowly reasoning with each other after each other has calmed down is more acceptable than speaking during a conflict.
When women quarrel with men, they usually argue not about winning or losing, but about the man's attitude. When men quarrel with women, it's usually about face. But think about it on the other hand, if the emotional quarrel is gone, is there still any use in having these things?
When a couple eats and lives together under the same roof, it is inevitable that they will stumble and quarrel. So, when there are problems, conflicts, and disputes between husband and wife, what is the best and most effective solution?
If a husband and wife quarrel because the wife is unreasonable and the wife goes too far, and the husband feels that the wife is unreasonable, it is best for the husband to quickly choose to shut up and go out to relax, get some fresh air, and feel that his wife is When you are bored at home alone and you realize that your husband is not on the same level as you if he doesn't argue with you, and she may be regretting it, go home and say a few nice words to your wife, and she will be fine.
Because women say they are unforgiving, but in fact they have already realized their mistakes in their hearts.
If it is a man’s fault, then the man should shut up as soon as possible and apologize to his wife. The wife needs to be coaxed. The sweeter you talk, the happier she will be, although she knows that your words are sometimes deceiving her. But she still likes to listen and deceive herself. This is a woman's characteristic.
In short, a man who knows how to live will not quarrel with his woman. Because bickering is a woman's patent, it is what women are best at and like to do. But if a man cannot restrain himself from quarreling with a woman, he should stop talking as soon as possible. Otherwise, a woman will look down on the man who quarrels with her.
If you want to solve a problem, you have to look at where the problem lies.
A couple quarreling is different from quarreling with other people. The couple understands each other very well and basically knows the other person’s personality and temper. Then you will ask at this time, since you know what the other person’s temper is. , why are there still quarrels? The word "more serious" has to be mentioned here.
When couples quarrel or fight, 90% of the time it’s because of “being more serious.” If you say something, I’ll say something back. If you say you’re right, I can’t feel aggrieved anymore. You got up, this kind of thing is very common. It is just a word or two to relieve anger, but the other party refuses to give up and becomes more serious with you. It will definitely get further and further away from you, and in the end you don’t even care about the reason for the quarrel.
Once you understand the cause of the quarrel, you can follow the clues and find a solution.
My wife is like this. She usually swears, gets angry at every turn, and thinks I am not as good as she wants. If Tsukuru can't hear it, she can say whatever she wants. You say yours, and I'll see mine. Don't "go against the wind" at this time. Women at this moment are all explosives. On your side A little open flame will explode immediately, so "one ear goes in and one ear goes out", which can calm people down.
When couples quarrel, there is usually no right or wrong. If they really want to argue about male and female, and who is right and wrong, then they are not a husband and wife, but an enemy. Especially when trying to reason with women, it is not about arguing about something. You have to figure out what it is before it starts to quarrel. Therefore, saying "I was wrong" is not to belittle oneself, but to protect oneself wisely.
My wife often talks about divorce, and she always says, "Let's go and get divorced from the Civil Affairs Bureau." Of course they are angry words, and she will still say them after the incident, but she never takes it seriously every time. But as a man, you must not talk about divorce, because if a man always says the word divorce, it will give people a feeling of contempt, and it will also make women think that you have no spine. There are some things that women can say , but men just can’t say it, don’t ask why, this is between husband and wife.
All in all, the relationship between husband and wife is profound, but to put it bluntly, it is very simple. It is nothing more than tolerance and accommodation. If you are quick-tempered, just follow him/her; if you have a bad temper, don't. Be familiar with him/her; if you are a kind person, don't look for trouble... In a word, "a young couple quarreling at the end of the bed and at the end of the bed", what comes and goes goes quickly, it all depends on how you look at it, don't take it seriously, think about everything. That’s it.
Therefore, waiting for the other party to correct it also requires a process. It does not mean that the other party can change it immediately after the other party agrees to correct it. In personal terms, the attitude of a husband and wife is very important when they are together. Even if you agree to make changes, but you can't make them all right at the moment, it doesn't mean you can't let go. As long as you have this attitude, give the other party a buffer period.
Judging from the current situation of couples and families, many conflicts in marriages and families first start with mutual distrust.
When a husband and wife are together, what matters is mutual support and mutual tolerance. Regarding tolerance, everything is a matter of degree.
Just because you are a couple doesn’t mean you can be tolerant forever. Tolerance can also be divided into different things. Not all things in a couple's family can be tolerated. Only when both parties have no issues of principle in their lives can they tolerate each other. This kind of body coldness also has a time limit. You can't keep doing the same thing and never make corrections. Not making corrections means knowing that there is a mistake and still making the same mistake again and again. No one can tolerate your attitude of never changing your attitude on an issue.
When talking about mutual trust between husband and wife, we have to talk about the premise of trust. The behavior of both parties is standard and fault-free.
Some people also say that when couples quarrel, they quarrel at the end of the bed.
What does it mean? This means that after the conflict between husband and wife intensifies, and the quarrels and arguments have been over, it is time to end it. The quarrel is over, and the responsibilities that should be borne in life remain the same as before. As long as they are a couple, conflicts will definitely exist. It just depends on how the parties involved deal with them. Any couple has a bright future when they get married, and they both want to grow old, so their wishes are good, but there will always be unsatisfactory opportunities in life.
When conflicts arise between husband and wife, do not blame each other. Blaming and blaming each other will not solve the problem.
Both parties need to calm down and communicate to reach consensus. No matter whose fault it is, there will always be a premise. If everyone can resolve the contradictory premise, then there will be no conflicts. Therefore, resolving the basic conditions of conflicts is the most fundamental way to solve problems.
Everyone must understand the fact that why couples quarrel after conflicts arise. The purpose of quarrels is to resolve conflicts, not to intensify them.
Since it is to resolve conflicts, both parties must coordinate. No matter who is at fault, they must be able to recognize their mistakes. It's not just because you are a woman that you must be tolerated by men. Tolerance has limits, and you don't want men to be tolerant for the rest of their lives. As I said before, only when both parties correct their attitudes can the problem be solved. If you are wrong, you have to admit it. This admission is actually a matter of attitude. Only when the wrong party admits it, the other party will not care too much.