1. Injured in a relationship between men and women
I was hurt by other girls, abandoned, and loved someone very much, but the other party became unloved and had to break up; Or betrayed, and his girlfriend was cuckolded. Then he will form a defense mechanism and become very sensitive and suspicious, because he will be afraid of being hurt and abandoned again.
2. The influence of family environment when I was a child.
It is a single-parent family, and both parents are dead, especially when they are abandoned by their mothers when they are young, which is easy to cause trauma in their hearts; Second, the family environment is not harmonious, and the relationship between family and parents is very bad. Frequent quarrels and even fights will make him distrust intimate relationships, because he has never learned how to get along with normal people who love each other. Third, parents or one of them is very strict with him, and such a child is easy to become sensitive and cautious. 3. Lack of intimacy.
Without any friends, especially close friends, you will be lonely and afraid of losing in the face of close feelings.
4. Encounter is a great change or failure.
At this time, you will feel inferior and even upset because you have lost a lot. I am afraid that others will look down on me, especially my relatives, friends and lovers. I will also be afraid of being rejected by my lover and my lover changing his mind.
5. It's personality.
Inferiority, I feel that I am not good enough, so I am prone to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss in my feelings.
These reasons are very common, and the insecure boys are also obvious: they always want to know all aspects of their girlfriends, know all her activities and friends, check the chat records on their mobile phones, etc., and they will also show a strong desire for control.
Therefore, when falling in love, boys may feel insecure.
Look at your boyfriend carefully. If you find him insecure, you must remember to hug him more, express your love more, open your heart to him more and give him a full sense of security. In a love relationship, the sense of security is mutual, not the patent of one party.