It's hard to imagine that in the previous era of "men are outside, women are inside", there can be such changes, so it will become a hit drama that friends chase every day.
Different from the previous costume drama, this drama tells the story of a modern business genius who crossed the ancient times but became a "husband".
The heroine played by Yi Song comes from a good family and has a gift for dyeing cloth since she was a child, so she wants to make a difference in her career, but she is looked down upon by her family and thinks she is just a woman. Guo Qilin directly raised three questions:
It's your rule that women teach each other?
All women have to listen to you?
Can't they go out and start a career?
It is these three questions that tell how many modern women in the workplace feel.
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A woman's confidence comes from herself.
In the past society, most people thought that career should be a man's business, and a woman's best occupation was to take care of her family.
With the passage of time, the concept of equality between men and women has gradually been accepted by the public, although some old concepts are inevitable.
Su Taner, the heroine of the hit drama "Widowed Husband", was a particularly distinctive role in that era.
She is different from those young ladies who stay at home all day playing chess, calligraphy and painting. She has a talent for dyeing cloth since she was a child, and she also has her own "ambition" in her career, trying to support the family business.
Even if no one was optimistic about her from the beginning, she struggled with her brother by her own strength and won her place.
In order to solve the requirement of "must get married", she chose Yining, who had no father or mother and was heavily in debt, from the beginning and made him a son-in-law.
Obviously, she can eat by her face, but her family depends on her own ability. Such a woman is the most attractive.
Because her self-confidence does not come from her family, let alone from a man, but from herself.
I may have always thought that the best destination for girls is to marry a good man and make themselves worry-free.
But now, instead of changing their lives by getting married, relying on themselves has become the pursuit of most girls.
Just like a recent TV series "Youth", it tells the story of four women in the workplace and life.
Although they have experienced countless ups and downs on the road of love and suffered betrayal and injury in marriage, they can still make themselves fearless in the workplace.
Because their confidence never comes from anyone, but from themselves.
Therefore, we always say that women must have a career, because the career really belongs to you, and it will bring light to your life that no one can take away.
Who says that women must educate their children at home, and who says that career is a man's patent?
Bread given to you by others is never as sweet as bread bought by yourself.
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Whoever takes the initiative will not necessarily lose.
Some people say that girls in love must be reserved and not too active, otherwise they will not be cherished.
In fact, initiative and falling prices are completely different things. Fall in price can't be humble in love, but it doesn't mean that girls can't take the initiative.
It is said that "men chase women, across the mountain, women chase men, and the barrier yarn". Although women chase men without a layer of yarn, it is not impossible to try.
Career is not a man's patent, and love is not necessarily the initiative of only boys.
For example, Su Taner and Yining in "Widowed Husband" have long had a crush on each other in the process of career struggle, but they have not made progress.
The main factor to promote their relationship is the initiative of the hostess Su Taner.
The netizen ridiculed this: Thanks to Sutaner's initiative, otherwise the couple would have to wait for the finale.
So you see that she is fearless in her career and does not hesitate in front of love.
If you meet the right person, why not take the initiative?
Of course, girls must pay attention to the fact that you can take the initiative in love. After all, when two people are together, one must take the initiative, but don't make yourself humble, fall in price.
Some girls like a person and become cautious, for fear that their every move, words and deeds will make the other person feel disgusted.
So I care about him in my own way. I want to get close, but I dare not. You can only ask questions on WeChat every day, and it's useless for you to care about him.
Sometimes your concern for a person will have the opposite effect. Some care about him, which is very good and comfortable, while others care about him, which is quite annoying.
Teacher Qilu said that his concern for different boys is actually different, so whether he likes it or not has nothing to do with concern.
When a boy is indifferent to what you do for him, you must never try to touch him.
Just like a person pretending to sleep, no matter how you shout, he won't wake up.
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We always say that contemporary women must learn to be independent.
Some fans told me that she felt very independent, but she was very tired.
Not only can she be independent in her work, but she will also take the initiative to finish what others can't. Even if I worked overtime until late at night, I didn't slack off at all.
In life, too, she can always keep the big and small things in order at home. From buying a house for decoration to buying food and cooking, I live like a perfect strong woman.
I can't help sighing that it's too easy to be her husband.
I don't know what you think of the word independence. What we want is independence, that is, even if there is no one around, you can live a colorful life.
That is, you have independent thoughts, independent economic conditions, and your own working ability and space. It doesn't mean that even if there are people around you who are worthy of your efforts, you still have to take over everything and bear it alone.
Love and marriage belong to two people.
Su Taner is independent enough, because she is independent-minded and won't want to rely on anyone.
But after meeting the other half, I have to admit that their career was achieved through the joint efforts of husband and wife.
The best appearance of love is that two people have the ability to live independently, but they are willing to grow up together.
Independence is not so much a performance as a state of mind.
Therefore, I hope you can all be independent women and meet the person who grows and progresses with you in love.
You can be good enough, but don't let yourself live too tired.