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There is a story like this:
When a child came home and cut the apple in half, he was surprised to tell his father that there was a star in the apple.
In the eyes of adults, apart from the stone, the only thing that may appear in an apple is a moth. Where do the stars come from?
However, children say that stars exist, and naturally there are children.
The normal cutting method is to cut the apple vertically from the stem to the bottom, but what about the child's cutting method? But put the apple sideways and cut it from the middle.
Almost all parents don't do this. For parents, cutting an apple vertically is a stylized thing, almost as natural as a mathematical theorem. It is this framed thinking mode that makes adults always think about "how to do it" and "how not to do it" before doing things.
Although this unconventional approach follows the rules, it has brought one of the most direct consequences to our lives-rigid thinking.
Stereotype thinking is such a thing, it is confined in a fixed frame, through which the world we see is fixed, so the world we get will be fixed; It's like a pair of colored glasses. When the lens is red, the world we see is also red, which leads to the view that "the world is red".
Regarding the disadvantages of stereotype thinking, we don't need to do troublesome theoretical analysis, just look at the following examples.
The following are some famous conclusions in human history. They are famous because the people who say these words are famous enough and because they are stupid enough.
"We have no reason to let everyone have a computer at home." The person who said this was Kenneth Olson, then the founder and president of DEC.
Similarly, one day in 189 1 year, French field marshal and famous strategist Fauci commented: "The airplane is an interesting toy, but it has no military value." After him, it is the director of the US Patent Office, Doher. According to him, everything that can be invented in the world has been invented. Then came Dr. Lee Frest, the father of radio, who insisted that no matter how advanced science is in the future, it is impossible for human beings to land on the moon.
Now, of course, we know that none of these assertions that sounded reasonable at the time came true. On the contrary, those who vowed to defend themselves were written into the book by us as a laughing stock.
However, after we laughed, we can find that all these absurd predictions have almost the same characteristics, or that they have committed the habit of thinking.
All these assertions represent the perception of things by the perceiver. Although the people who say these words think they have mastered the truth, they are far from correct.
The reason for this phenomenon is that these people's fixed ways, viewpoints, reference systems and beliefs are all fixed in a small circle, which has ridiculous limitations.
Just like the story we mentioned at the beginning, when parents were confused by their own knowledge and limited by their fixed way of cutting apples, they insisted that there could be no stars in apples anyway.
Parents often make such mistakes in family education in China. For example, many parents think their children are too rebellious, so they take a fierce attitude towards them. In the past analysis, many experts attributed this phenomenon to parents' subjective personality and arbitrary style. In fact, most of these cases are caused by the distortion of a fixed thinking. When our parents are too far away from their children's world, communication will naturally create obstacles.
Now, let's go back to the beginning of the story. As you can imagine, a similar situation must have happened many times in thousands of families in Qian Qian, China. We might as well imagine how children who say there are stars in apples will be treated by their parents; Or, if your child tells you that there is a star in the apple, how do you react?
The answer is yes, most children will be criticized as thoughtful.
It is precisely because stereotype thinking is incomplete and inaccurate that it often represents one-sidedness and narrowness. When this way of thinking is projected into family education, the most direct consequence is that parents turn a blind eye to their children's "whimsy" and even suppress them according to their own ideas. The most direct consequence of this is that the precious creativity and imagination of children are being destroyed step by step.