I've met people in the world who don't educate their children but love them. They often disapprove of what they want to eat and do, and indulge their children at will without control. Instead, praise them when they are admonished and laugh when they are reprimanded. When children are sensible, they think these truths are theirs, and they don't stop until pride and neglect have become a habit. At this time, even if you are whipped and vicious, you will not have dignity. Even if you are angry, you will only increase your resentment until you grow up.
2. Teach women to come and teach children.
As soon as the new wife has just passed the door, she must make rules, and the education of her children should start from infancy. It means to educate a person in time and early.
3, life is young, the spirit is patented, when you grow up, you want to escape, and there is early education. Don't miss the opportunity.
When people are young, they have high attention and are easy to concentrate, but not when they grow up. They are distracted and difficult to concentrate, so they need to educate people from an early age. Don't miss this great opportunity.
If parents are dignified and kind, children will be timid and filial.
Parents have dignity in front of their children and can care for them, and children will be awed, cautious and filial to their parents. This article can be used as a reference when talking about parents' attitude towards their children.
5, the husband's corruption, from top to bottom, from the first to the second, is that the father is unkind, the son is unfilial, the brother is disrespectful, the husband is unjust, and the woman is not smooth.
Education and influence are carried out from top to bottom, and influence is exerted from bottom to top. Therefore, the father is unkind, the son is unfilial, the younger brother is unfriendly, the younger brother is disrespectful, the husband is unkind, and the woman does not obey.
6. But you can be thrifty and not stingy, you can be thrifty and not stingy, you can be extravagant, you can be thrifty and not stingy.
You can be frugal, but you can't be stingy. Thrift is a courtesy, you are stingy, even in times of difficulty and crisis. Nowadays, it is often said that charity becomes luxury and frugality becomes meanness. It would be great if we could give without extravagance and be frugal.
7. Sincerity is better than hypocrisy.
Clever hypocrisy is not as good as clumsy sincerity. Hypocrisy and lies cannot stand the test. Fool for a while, but not for a lifetime.
8. If you haven't read all the books in the world, don't make irresponsible remarks.
Orpiment: A mineral that can be used as a pigment or fading agent. The ancients often used orpiment to smear political words in proofreading books, so they called it "jumping orpiment" to change words and make random comments. You can't modify other people's articles without reading all the books in the world. This paper expounds the rigorous learning attitude and the scientific spirit of seeking truth. To modify an article or evaluate the works of predecessors, there must be a premise-read all the books in the world and have a high ability of identification and analysis, otherwise you will be suspected of jumping off a building.
9, people are young, looking at noncommittal, with money, smoking dirty, talking and laughing, learning to be unintentional, learning to sneak around, naturally like, not to mention those who are more knowledgeable and easier to learn!
When people are young, their psychological attitude is not yet stereotyped, and they are closely related to others and influenced by others. Even if they have no intention to learn, their words, smiles and actions will be subtle and similar naturally, not to mention their operational skills, which are easier to learn!
10, live with goodwill. If you enter Lan Zhi's room, it will be fragrant for a long time; Being with the wicked is like entering the land of abalone, which stinks.
Living with good people is like entering a room full of orchids, and over time you will smell fragrant. Living with the wicked is like entering a shop selling salted fish, and it stinks over time.
1 1, the whole world knows that I can be a general if I cross the Madejiang bow; I don't know the laws of heaven, argue about geographical location, compare quantity and smoothness, and learn the wonders of rise and fall.
The world only knows how to ride a horse in armour, hold a spear and bend a bow, saying that I can be a general, but I don't know how to observe heaven and reason, distinguish the right place, consider whether to conform to the current situation and the people's hearts, and examine the ability to know the rise and fall.
12, my husband studies, studies, and hopes to be happy and clear, which is good for listening.
The original intention of reading and studying is to broaden your horizons, make your eyes bright and help you do practical things.
13, learn to make an essay, first find friends and relatives, get their comments, know how to implement it, and then make a move. Be careful not to be a teacher and make fun of others.
Learn to write an article, first consult with friends and relatives, get their judgment, know that you can take it out, and then make a move. Never feel good about yourself and be teased by others.
14, where the article was written, the Jews rode on horseback, although they escaped, but when it was controlled by the title, don't let the flow be chaotic, let the meaning fill the pit.
Writing an article is like riding a swift horse. Although unrestrained, unrestrained, it must be controlled with a halter. Don't let it jump into the pit at will.
15, more is less, it is better to hold one; Flying squirrels have five abilities, but they can't be geisha.
Do more and do less, it is better to concentrate on one thing; Although flying squirrels have five skills, none of them can become technology.
16, the husband must live without hesitation, not pity, adventure and fear, and do difficult things. Greed will kill him and kill him. This gentleman cherishes it! If you are sincere and filial, you will see thieves; If you offend righteousness, you will lose everything and help the country. A gentleman won't blame you.
Life can't be ignored. You can't drag out an ignoble existence. You take the evil and dangerous road, get involved in disastrous things, and die in pursuit of satisfying your desires. A gentleman should cherish life and shouldn't do these things. Being killed because of loyalty and filial piety, being convicted because of benevolence and righteousness, and saving the family and the country are all things that a gentleman has no hesitation.
Although Family Instructions of Yan Family is a collection of essays in ancient China, it has a history of 1500 years. Today, most of its classic ideas still apply. While lamenting the profoundness of China's culture, we are also warned that we should read more traditional classics and return to the ancient times on the basis of self-cultivation and family order, so as to have a further development path.