Peeping at selfish desires is a kind of curiosity, which is more common. Both men and women have different degrees of voyeurism, but the focus is different. Men are curious about women and women are curious about what men are curious about women.
In fact, prying into selfish desires is a common psychology. Just like women like flowers, flowers are the reproductive organs of plants, in other words, they are the private parts of plants, which makes people curious. If you want to find out, plants don't know how to cover them up.
What selfish desires do men have for women?
Peek into the body of lust
Men's exploration of women's bodies began very early. Men always have a strong desire to spy on women's body structure and figure curve. Men in the period of adolescent agitation have a stronger desire to peep at hidden parts such as women's breasts, private parts and feet. Of course, moral constraints make their thoughts stop at fantasy, and some even feel ashamed and guilty for their thoughts because of moral principles.
Analysis: the need for self-awareness
It is one-sided to explain this matter with the theory of "men are lascivious", only looking for reasons from physiology and ignoring more important psychological reasons. Men peeking at women are actually more important psychological needs of self-cognition, specifically about the cognitive needs of being a man. They are eager to know what is the difference between their bodies and those of women, to confirm the characteristics of men, to define the standards of men psychologically, and to feel that they are different from women in self-cognition. Only when these are confirmed can they feel safe in self-knowledge.
Spiritual insight into selfish desires
Men have a good impression on women, often starting from thinking about women's feelings. The lyrics of a song are like this: "Don't guess a girl's mind, if you guess, you will fall in love with her." Men's selfish desire for a woman's mind will often make men more aware of women's way of thinking and personality, and at the same time make them different from men's way of thinking, which makes men psychologically distinguish men from women.
Analysis: the need for psychological complementarity or psychological enhancement
Many people blame men's psychological snooping on women on the attraction of the opposite sex, which is not unreasonable. A man's psychological peep at a woman is a process of exploration. Generally speaking, both men and women are masculine and feminine. Men peep at women's psychology in order to explore their own psychological complementary or similar personality, so the combination of men and women is nothing more than two results of complementary personality and psychological enhancement.
Women like to wear short skirts to show their thighs, while women like halter tops, low-cut dresses and navel-revealing dresses. ...
People often associate exposure with immorality, which is actually a very conservative and feudal understanding.
Do women really want to be exposed?
Many women want to show their beautiful figure, slender thighs, sexy belly, and are not familiar with men's selfish desires. Women love beauty and show their graceful figure, which can not only attract men's attention, but also show off and shock other women. However, exposure is not a woman's patent, just as men also like to wear vests to show their strong muscles, which is a demonstration of self-confidence.
Analysis: the need for self-confidence and recognition
Women are very beautiful, so they care about their looks. One is to attract men, and the other is to compare with other women. Women expose sexy parts to make themselves more confident. What attracts men's attention is not the desire for their love, but a need for self-confidence. Can often attract the attention of men, such a woman will certainly be very confident.
Women show their perfect figure, sexy skin, and release their defensive psychology, which makes people feel that she is open, avant-garde and approachable. This is a demand for psychological identity.