The characteristics of a female man are girls who don’t like to act coquettishly, have an independent personality, pursue themselves, don’t like makeup, don’t like to mess with dressing up, are informal, are brothers with boys, and are unwilling to ask for help at will.
Many girls today are proud to be masculine, which is in line with Karen Horney’s point of view: women want to be men because they hope to have those traits or traits that our culture considers masculine. Privileges such as strength, courage, success, sexual freedom, and the right to choose a partner.
In fact, due to the complexity of the social environment, sometimes it is difficult for us to truly give a definition of "feminine essence" or "male essence". While trying to explore the essence, it is important to promote human beings Perfection of personality. Bravery, health, generosity, independence, gentleness, carefulness, consideration, patriotism, all of these are not exclusive to a certain type of people, but are traits that everyone can possess.
It is undeniable that the popularity of female men has its positive side, which demonstrates the spirit of today's women in pursuing individuality, self-improvement and self-consciousness. They have a unique beauty in terms of their work and external temperament. However, we should also think calmly about the popularity of female men. If it is overheated, it is an abnormal phenomenon.
The popularity of tomboys has a lot to do with the influence of society and family. They are shaped by the power of social competition and survival pressure, the inertial influence of family training since childhood, and the pursuit of the androgynous trend of women in society. It can be said that the popularity of tomboys is at the same time that some men are becoming feminine or even pseudo-feminine. It is abnormal to take these two tendencies to the extreme.
The birth of the term tomboy was originally based on traditional thinking to implement the so-called "equality between men and women." In the eyes of some people, words such as sexy and feminine are out-and-out slanders against women. They believe that women are despised by men because of their gender charm. Therefore, in order to change men's views, they must behave like men. .
Girls who are straightforward, cheerful, informal, independent and capable are directly given nicknames of the opposite sex, and sometimes they are teased as boys. Even some girls who do not have these characteristics are treated in this way. Girls who cut men's hair, wear men's clothes, and love to pretend to be men will be defended by other women and say, "Who said these are just for men."
The whole society should do this Reflect on how to better view equality between men and women, instead of developing equality between men and women into the interchange of men and women or no difference between men and women. We cannot allow society to form a value system in which only men can survive. The charm of women lies in: you should be gentle, but you have Power. Women can be independent, independent, and generous, but they should not be used as a means of protest, and they cannot be considered to be the only "good girls" who are equal to men and women.