I have a headache every time I go shopping for clothes. As a girl who is conservative but determined not to compromise, it is difficult to buy the right clothes. Many times I spend a whole day shopping the entire mall but still get nothing. , can only return in anger. I am unwilling to try, and my acceptance range is very small. Many times I feel that this dress is not my style. It is too flashy, too exaggerated, too trendy, too tight... Of course, sometimes I finally fall in love with it after shopping for a long time. One piece is too expensive! ! !
There is a beautiful girl in the dormitory next door. She has fair skin, long legs, and a graceful temperament. Let’s call her a goddess. It’s just that the goddess is born with good conditions. The key is that she knows how to dress well. Her outfits are different every day. The key is that they all look suitable for her.
By chance, the goddess wanted to go shopping with her roommate and asked me if I would go. I happily agreed, now I can see how the goddess chooses clothes. I thought it would be more difficult for her to buy clothes than for me, but in fact I was completely wrong. She saw a long sweater in burgundy color with thigh-high side slits, and she said I liked this. But isn’t this dress slit too high? What goes with it next? I had more than one question mark in my mind, and at this point I basically gave this dress a pass. As a result, she tried it on herself and the effect was quite good, so she paid and got it done. It's that simple and efficient.
I was very puzzled, so I asked her, how do you know which one will look good on you? She said try more! Later, her roommate told me that she didn’t know how to dress up before and didn’t know which clothes would suit her better. Therefore, she tried a lot and took many detours. There were many clothes in her wardrobe that were bought and worn only once before being stashed away. Later, after trying more, I will know what I like and what suits me.
Like me, I stick to my familiar style and circle around my original one-third of an acre of land. Only when I am sure that there is no risk after careful consideration, I dare to step out a little bit cautiously without being frivolous. That's weird. If you want to quickly improve your dressing skills, trial and error is the way to go. You will have many experiences of failure, but you will also better understand what is suitable for you.
I have a male friend, a programmer, who is smart and ambitious, and good-looking. He is stupid and easy to manage, but he has a fatal flaw: he is not very good at pleasing girls. I also tried several times to chase girls I liked, but all ended in failure.
Once, the girl he liked might have a crush on him, so she came all the way from Beijing to Hangzhou to find him. It stands to reason that the girl gave him a chance to fulfill her friendship as a landlord, so her favor should have increased and she would be single. However, it turned out that the girl cut off contact with him after returning to Beijing.
Because he had just arrived in Hangzhou and was not familiar with the road, he took many detours on the way to pick up the girl, causing the girl to wait for a long time at the train station. I went to eat at a Hangzhou specialty restaurant with my girl. It turned out that the girl from the north was not used to Hangzhou cuisine and was not happy with the meal. When we went to a scenic spot, there were too many people. When we came back, we couldn't get a taxi, so the girl had to walk a long way. The next day, the girl made an appointment with a friend, but it happened that the friend was not punctual and was late for a long time. After a friend came over, we had dinner together and ended up missing the high-speed train back. This was indeed a bad experience. He came with hope and left with despair. He deserved that he couldn't find a girlfriend.
However, surprisingly, he did not break the jar, but actively tried it. For example, when there is a dinner party at work, he takes the initiative to organize it; when classmates and friends hang out together, he also hurriedly chooses the venue by himself; he tries to learn about Hangzhou's special restaurants and attractions, and entertains many friends; he tries to talk to girls Contact, chat. At first, he still made a lot of mistakes and was laughed at or complained about, but everyone could clearly feel that he was doing better and better.
In the end, I took him in. Yes, you read that right, he is now my boyfriend! In addition to the above advantages, he is now considerate and will choose my favorite restaurant before eating; he has a clear understanding of Hangzhou's traffic, which is like a living map, so I no longer have to worry about taking the wrong road; he will take me to see it on weekends Different scenery.
Although what he does occasionally is not satisfactory, I believe that he is a potential stock and will eventually do well in the future.
Only when you keep trying will you understand what you are doing wrong; only then will you understand what to do. Every trial and error process improves, so why don't you grow?
Graduation is approaching, and finding a job is no longer something you can avoid. Do you want to become a patent attorney? The patent attorney can use my undergraduate science and engineering knowledge, which is more advantageous. In addition, the work of a patent attorney is relatively free, so I can have time to read and code, and even have more time to take care of my family in the future. But, on the other hand, when I search Zhihu, I will see many practicing patent attorneys complaining that this industry is manual labor. Patent applications are written from morning to night, and the salary is not high, and they have to write on weekends!
Should I become a lawyer? Being a lawyer allows you to get in touch with different people and things, which keeps you in a state of learning and progress. The prospects of being a lawyer are very good, and your salary will be high in the future. However, some people told me that for girls, being a lawyer is stressful and requires frequent business trips, which is too hard. In addition, the starting salary of a lawyer is very low and cannot even meet the basic needs of life, so it is easier to become a civil servant.
Should I take the exam as a civil servant who seems to be relaxed and stable, or should I become a patent agent with relatively free time, or should I become a lawyer who uses knowledge to solve practical problems. I have been struggling, and my thoughts are constantly changing. Today I want to do this, and tomorrow I want to do that. It is very annoying and confusing. When I was struggling and confused, a classmate told me, "SaSa, it's just a pony crossing the river." Suddenly, I understood that I should try and make mistakes. So I went to a patent agency as an intern for three months. After getting rid of the daily worries, I became more aware of the working status and actual situation of a patent agent, and also whether it was suitable for me.
Thinking is necessary, but the only way to get out of confusion is not to talk on paper, but to "do it". Only if you try and experience it will you truly understand.
To a certain extent, growth means constantly trying, and then eliminating those that are inappropriate and leaving those that are suitable. If you are afraid of failure and don't dare to try, when will you succeed? In fact, success is a gain through trial and error, and failure is another gain. Why are you still hesitant and hesitant about things that are guaranteed to make money without losing money?