165438+1On October 28th, Zhang entered the community and was stopped by the doorman to collect the parcel. A closer look reveals that there are 23 packages, large and small, all of which are the names of his wife Liu Min. Zhang Hua's heart was suddenly on fire.
"I work so hard to earn money every day, and all you know is to buy it online. What about the salary I gave you over the years? " Back home, Zhang Hua found that during this 10 year, his wife Liu Min actually spent nearly 400,000 yuan on online shopping. The couple haven't got their own house yet and have been living in their parents' house.
Married 10 years, Zhang Hua was emotional in the face of his wife's "crazy" behavior. "The day is over and I'm determined to get a divorce." Finally, under the persuasion of relatives and friends, he forgave his wife Liu Min and agreed not to divorce for the time being. However, Zhang Hua resolutely withdrew his wife's salary card and asked her to pay 1 0,000 yuan per month as the purchase price.
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Married 10 year
So far there is no money to buy a house. Where did the money go?
Zhang Hua and Liu Min are both born in 1980s. The couple have a lovely daughter. 10 Years ago, Zhang Hua, who was born in the countryside, came to work in Xichang and met Liu Min, a girl from Xichang. They fell in love at first sight and soon fell in love.
After six months of love, Liu Min proposed to get married. At that time, Zhang Hua's monthly salary was only 1000 yuan Although his hometown has prepared a wedding room, he still has no car or room in Xichang. To this end, he rejected Liu Min's first proposal.
"I don't want your money. I have no house or car. After getting married, you can slowly save money to buy it. " Liu Min's words moved Zhang Hua very much. Therefore, after obtaining the consent of both parents, the two received a marriage certificate.
Because Zhang Hua has been renting a house while working in Xichang, after getting married, her parents-in-law asked them to go home and live with the elderly, hoping that the young couple could save money and buy a house of their own as soon as possible.
After the marriage, Zhang Hua took the initiative to give the salary card to his wife Liu Min for safekeeping. On 20 10, Zhang Hua and Liu Min welcomed their daughter Beibei, and the family lived happily together.
In a blink of an eye, Zhang Hua and Liu Min have been married for 10 years. During 10, Zhang Hua's monthly income increased from the initial 1000 yuan to 6000 yuan, but he didn't know how much his wife earned every month, let alone how much savings the couple had saved in recent years. In recent years, Zhang Hua is also very frugal, not smoking, not drinking or playing cards. Except for personal expenses of several hundred yuan a month, the rest of the salary is paid to his wife. "I just hope to save more money and buy a house as soon as possible."
Zhang Hua also encouraged his wife Liu Min to look at the house many times, but Liu Min always said, "If you have no money, what room can you look at?"
Ask the truth.
Wife 10 spent nearly 400 thousand online shopping.
This year1from October 20th to 26th, 165438+ Liangshan Prefecture has a seven-day holiday for the Yi people. Zhang Hua's unit rewarded outstanding employees and their families to travel to Phuket, Thailand because of their outstanding work performance, and Zhang Hua and his wife were among them.
After the trip, at the duty-free shop in Bangkok airport, Thailand, Zhang Hua wanted to buy some local dried fruits and send them back to his friends, but his wife told him that his bank card had been maxed out. In my wife's suitcase, I bought more than 20 thousand cosmetics alone. In desperation, Zhang Hua, who is usually frugal, is on the verge of anger. From Thailand to Chengdu, and then from Chengdu to Xichang, the couple have been in a cold war, and no one cares.
"Zhang Hua, you and your wife are finally back, and your package has been filled with the guard room." 165438+1On October 28th, Zhang entered the community and was stopped by the doorman to collect the parcel. A closer look reveals that there are 23 packages, large and small, all of which are the names of his wife Liu Min. Zhang Hua's accumulated resentment in Thailand has not disappeared, and new anger has come up again.
Seeing her husband's unhappy face behind her, Liu Min hurried to get the package, explaining that "it's all for Beibei" and ran twice before moving all the packages home.
"I work so hard to earn money every day. All you know is to buy it online. Where have all the wages I gave you gone in recent years? Today, you must make it clear to your parents. " At home, Zhang Hua snatched the mobile phone from Liu Min, and the next scene made him blindsided: after calculation, in the past 10 years, Liu Min spent more than 260,000 yuan on Taobao, 80,000 yuan on Vipshop and 40,000 yuan on shopping websites such as JD.COM, totaling nearly 400,000 yuan.
Marriage crisis
The husband brought a divorced relative to mediate.
"Are you crazy? You actually spent 400,000 online shopping! " In the face of his wife's "crazy" behavior, Zhang Hua said emotionally that this day can't go on and she is determined to divorce.
"400 thousand? Will there be mistakes ... "When my son-in-law complained that her daughter spent so much money online, Liu Min's parents didn't believe me. "Mom and dad, don't forget. This is my fault. Really spent so much money. " When asked by her family, Liu Min said that since she learned to shop online in 2008, she likes to visit shopping websites and buy whatever she likes. She has never calculated how much money she has spent on this.
After listening, Liu Min's parents also began to criticize their daughter's behavior and felt sorry for her son-in-law. Seeing the young couple's emotional crisis, both relatives and friends came to do ideological work for them. Liu Min also said that she would never shop indiscriminately again, and hoped that her husband would forgive her.
Under the strong persuasion of relatives and friends, Zhang Hua finally forgave his wife, Liu Min, but demanded to get the salary card back from Liu Min and manage and control all the expenses of the family by herself. Knowing that Liu Min now earns about 4,000 yuan a month, Zhang Hua asked him to deposit at least 1000 yuan a month as a house purchase fund.
Liu Min's parents said: "More than 400,000 yuan is almost the price of a second-hand house. Because my daughter has no restraint, I don't know when this young couple will buy a house of their own ... "
Online shopping experience
At first, in order to save money, I usually sent it to the unit.
"If a family with good conditions spends an average of 3,000 yuan on online shopping every month, this is nothing, but their family is an ordinary working family." According to the relatives and friends who participated in the mediation, the economic conditions of both parents are not good. "The man's family spent hundreds of thousands to decorate their wedding rooms in the countryside, and it took several years to pay off their debts, and they were unable to buy them a house in the city."
"The original intention of starting online shopping is also to save money." Liu Min recalled that the first online shopping item was a women's bottoming shirt. At that time, after she tried it on in a physical store, the merchant charged 80 yuan. As a result, she bought 40 yuan online. After that, she bought one in a physical store, and she could buy two or even three online, and she kept shopping online, which was out of control.
For nearly 400,000 yuan of online shopping goods, Liu Min said that she basically bought all the clothes of her family online, among which she and her daughter bought the most. My most expensive dress is a fur coat in winter, which costs more than 4000 yuan, but most of it is 100 to 500 clothes. If you don't like it after wearing it several times, throw it away. In addition, in the past two years, all the daily necessities at home have been bought online.
In order not to let Zhang Hua know about her online shopping, Liu Min also specially left the delivery address as the company address. During this period, the delivery address has been changing due to job changes. This time, considering that no one went to work during the annual leave of the Yi people, the delivery address was temporarily changed to the home address. It was this move that triggered this family storm.
▲ Online shopping has now become the first choice for many young people?
Psychologist >>& gt
Beware of "online shopping addiction" and establish a rational consumption concept
The package of "Double Eleven" has not been confiscated, and "Double Twelve" has followed. Nowadays, online shopping has become the first choice for young people. Zhang Yonghua, a professor of psychology at Xichang College, said that if it is "online shopping addiction", it has deviated from the original normal purpose and turned shopping into a personal hobby and a behavior to meet psychological needs, which is very dangerous.
Nowadays, many young people are obsessed with online shopping and lack rational consumption concepts. Therefore, he suggested: First, adjust the mentality in time, distract attention and reduce online shopping time; Secondly, strengthen self-control and don't blindly compare; Third, we can learn how to manage money, so that friends and relatives can supervise themselves financially, thus alleviating the "online shopping addiction".