-Some thoughts on reading Home
After reading the story of this family, it is already late at night. When I close the book, I feel a lot of thoughts in my heart. The feeling of rereading this book is more than when I was in high school. Careful aftertaste of the feelings conveyed by Ba Jin's "Home" has a long aftertaste.
what is home? It has been said since childhood that home is a warm haven, but in this old system written by Ba Jin, home makes Chueh-hui feel like a cage and a bondage. Chueh-hui took part in the parade in the street at that time, and grandpa ordered him not to go out. He was angry and cried, "Oh, home, what is home? Home is a narrow cage. I want to go out, I must go out. " Finally, he did go out. On the boat he left, he saw the green water flowing forward forever, and he said "goodbye" to the past.
Chueh-hui's brave struggle and choice, as well as cousin Qin, second brother Chueh-min and Xu Qianru's faith in life, have greatly inspired me to pursue the life I want. Similarly, the last misfortune brought by the obedience of eldest brother Chueh-hsin and cousin Mei also gave me a great shock and warning. Perhaps this is also the deeper meaning of reading novels. We reflect on ourselves from the characters in the books, and then learn lessons to make our lives more clear.
Be affectionate with children and a wide world
Mingfeng threw herself into the lake, because she didn't want to marry Master Feng as a child, and she stuck to her wishful promise to Chueh-hui. She is a girl, in that stormy deep house compound, more insignificant than a grain of dust. Before she died, she went to Chueh-hui and tried to fight for it at last, but Chueh-hui was busy with the newspaper that night and ignored him. She doesn't blame him either. No matter what Chueh-hui does, she thinks Chueh-hui is good. What about Chueh-hui? Chueh-hui chose the world in the eyes of a girl and the vast world. He felt that there was a vast world ahead of him. Once he went outside, he entered a new environment and made contact with new friends, his horizons widened again. Where the blood of his youth can find a place to vent, and there is a job worthy of his dedication. He knows better that the meaning of life is not so simple, and that girl's eyes are too small compared with the world. So he gave up Ming-feng. He couldn't give up everything just for those eyes. Although he felt a little remorse for Ming-feng's death, he blamed the old society and this old family more, and from then on, he strengthened his yearning for the new world and his determination to break the shackles of the old family with the old system. Although those eyes are his own favorite, after all, he still yearns for a wider world.
although I sympathize with Ming-feng, if it is my choice, I will choose the latter in the vast world of loving children. The meaning of life is not only love, but also more profound understanding of righteousness. The outside world is broader and more exciting, and affair should not be a hindrance and a constraint to progress.
What does my business have to do with others?
Actually, I belong to Xu Qianru in most love, and she is the real warrior. It really takes a lot of courage when you just start to cut your hair. She is the first person to lose her long hair. Losing her long hair means not being a woman under the old system, but being a woman in the new era and pursuing free thoughts. But all the way to school, she was followed by some hooligans, such as "little nun" and "duck's ass" and a lot of dirty words. In the face of gossip, Xu Qianru made a show of indifference and walked on. Originally, she was also a young lady of a large family. Before going out, the old nurse asked her to sit in a sedan chair to avoid being laughed at on the road. She also deliberately tried her courage. She said, "Why should I be afraid of them? I'm alone, too. What do I want to do with others? I'll do what I want ... They can't do anything about me. "
I cried when I saw it here. Her words really infected me. Many of us now live in other people's world, attach too much importance to other people's views and secular vision, and dare not follow the inner world to pursue the spiritual world we like. Or because of face, I am afraid of being laughed at. In fact, as Xu Qianru said, "My business has nothing to do with others." As long as I think about it myself, I will do it bravely. This sentence, as if it had entered my heart, sowed a seed of courage to be myself. I believe that in the future, it will blossom gorgeous flowers and inspire me all the time.
Hope is in yourself, not in others
This is what Qin said at that time. She wanted to work hard for herself to enter the "foreign college" for recruiting girls. She faced the incomprehension of feudal society or the opposition of the old family. But after her mother stopped supporting herself, she was a little sad. When she saw the book that "everything should be thought by me and solved by me", her despair and sadness disappeared. She wrote to her good friend Qianru, and strengthened her dreams in her heart, and also strengthened her hope in life, not others.
In fact, this is also the philosophy of life that I believe in. We will meet many people in this life, both good and bad. Other people's behaviors and remarks should not be the fetters of our progress. All our hopes and efforts are in our own hands, and the decision-making power for the future is in our own hands. Therefore, we should also strive for what we think like Qin, Qianru, Chueh-min and Chueh-hui. Although we are not bound by the old system now, there are many intangible social concepts that hold us back.
Compared with Chueh-hsin's disobedience, what I see is full of despair and sadness. After grandpa's death, the whole family was in mourning, and Jui-chueh was going to give birth. Those old women said that if someone died at home, they couldn't give birth at home, so they had to take Jui-chueh to a remote rural area, and there was a bridge. Jui-chueh was too sad to say anything. On the day of delivery, Chueh-hsin tried to go in, but he was also stopped, saying that it was not good for women to give birth and men to go in. Then he obeyed and didn't fight for it. At that time, when Jui-chueh gave birth to a child and died, he didn't even see her. He struggled to knock on the wooden door outside the door, and the tall and solid door was blocked there. From then on, it was separated from Yin and Yang. Finally, he was upset, only to feel that everything was his fault. It was his initial weakness that caused the tragedy of the three of them. Mei died, Jui-chueh died, and the two women who loved him most and his favorite died because of his weakness and submission, and he began to wake up a little.
Compared with the tragedies of Chueh-hsin and the three of them, Qin and I agreed that "hope lies in ourselves, not in others". You must fight for your own life. Hope is in yourself, not in others.
The old family system has been overthrown, so we are not bound? The world today is more splendid than before. Facing such a vast world, we always have things we like and attitudes towards life we want to pursue. Why not pursue it hard? Why are you influenced by other people's languages? Why do you want a person's obedience and submission? If people can compromise their lives, they will never be truly happy. Hope is in yourself, not in others.