Lonely people often live alone and rarely engage in social activities, but their "loneliness" is a passive choice, because they are afraid of socializing and often feel negative in socializing.
What's more, there is a so-called "extroversion autism". In the crowd, they will always be the people talking and laughing, but deep down, they can't get rid of that uncontrollable loneliness. Why?
True "loneliness" often exists between people who have no emotional and ideological exchanges, although they are related to each other. No matter in the crowd or alone in the room, as long as you lack an "interactive" understanding of the surrounding situation, that is, you can't communicate with the world you are in, you will feel lonely.
Each of us will be lonely sometimes, but not everyone can overcome loneliness.
Some people's loneliness is inherent and stable. In the face of loneliness, they are often helpless and at a loss. And some people's loneliness is external and controllable. These people only feel inexplicably lonely at certain times.
They believe that they can control it, and they can actively do something to solve loneliness.
So, how do you usually adjust yourself to eliminate this loneliness?
Types and harm of loneliness
There are usually two types of loneliness:
1, emotionally isolated from loneliness;
It means that lonely people don't want to associate with the people around them, close themselves up and don't want to see anyone, so they have a sense of resistance to the outside world and get themselves into personal difficulties.
2. Social isolation and loneliness;
It means that a lonely person has no friends, no social network, and can only do whatever he wants, lacking friendship, love and even affection. Try to live a passive life, lacking social skills or social channels.
The reasons for loneliness are very complicated, sometimes because of career setbacks, insufficient communication with friends of the opposite sex, or marital disharmony and no friends around. These are all important factors leading to loneliness.
In addition, some people's loneliness is often related to their personality.
For example, some people's moods are changeable, and they are often ups and downs. If they are not careful, they will easily offend others, or they don't know the correct social skills and maintain interpersonal relationships, thus leaving themselves in a lonely state.
Even some people are good at calculating, like to haggle over every ounce, and think too much about personal gains and losses, thus causing obstacles to interpersonal communication.
These types of loneliness exist objectively in each of us.
Of course, overweight loneliness is very harmful to our physical and mental health.
According to statistics, people who are healthy but mentally lonely have twice as many deaths in ten years as those who are healthy and gregarious.
The mortality caused by mental loneliness is almost as high as that caused by smoking, obesity and hypertension.
Psychologists find that lonely people