Pay attention to consanguinity and kinship
It is the historical and cultural tradition of the Chinese nation to attach importance to consanguinity and kinship. The most stable factor in interpersonal relationship is blood relationship, so our people believe in the traditional concept that "blood is thicker than water".
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China people attach great importance to sex and have a strong national consciousness. In social life, they emphasize the principle of collectivism, and individuals obey the collective. People pay more attention to the evaluation of others and society, but often ignore their own feelings. In interpersonal communication, etiquette often reflects this tendency.
Modest and prudent, reserved and introverted
China people are generally generous and peaceful, reserved and restrained, and have strong endurance. They are often modest, cautious and restrained when they get along with others. For example, in the past, when accepting sincere compliments from others, China people often used "not doing well" to show modesty, while westerners often used "thank you" to show acceptance of compliments. However, today's college students will also use "thank you" to accept each other's praise. With the increase of reform and opening up and international exchanges, we should learn from the advantages of western etiquette on the basis of carrying forward the characteristics of national etiquette and constantly enrich and improve our own etiquette content.
Pay attention to politeness
In their communication, China people are more human and emotional, emphasizing reciprocity. The "ceremony" here mainly refers to the ceremony. "Rites come and go, and if they don't come, they are indecent; It is indecent to come and not go. " In other words, in communication, it is impolite to accept gifts from others without returning them. By exchanging gifts, we can strengthen contact and express our feelings. Generally speaking, China people often give gifts in various names and forms, while westerners are much simpler in the choice and form of gifts.
Characteristics of western etiquette
Western etiquette came into being and developed with western civilization. The word "etiquette" in English is derived from "etiquette" in French. In France, the original meaning of "etiquette" is the passport used in court, which records the matters that should be observed when entering the court. Later, other public places also formulated corresponding rules of conduct. These rules are complex and simple, forming a system, which is gradually recognized by everyone and becomes a passport for interpersonal relationships in social communication. The development of western etiquette is deeply influenced by western culture. Especially after the western bourgeoisie stepped onto the historical stage, the productive forces developed greatly and the superstructure changed accordingly. Etiquette in this period has also developed greatly. Feudal etiquette, as the exclusive product of a few nobles, was gradually replaced by etiquette as the norm of social civilization.
Due to different national conditions, cultures and habits, western etiquette has the following characteristics.
Emphasize individuality and advocate individuality freedom.
Western etiquette emphasizes people-oriented and personal supremacy everywhere, and individuals have absolute freedom within the scope permitted by law. In social communication, it emphasizes the individual as the unit and the individual as the object, and holds that the dignity of the individual is sacred and inviolable. When dealing with people and things, we regard individuals as the main body of social communication, and we are used to taking our own position as the center of behavior. We seldom say or do things against our will because of the influence of others and the environment. We believe that everyone has his own position and things, and no one wants to force others or be forced by others. In social life, we advocate personal strength and pursue personal interests. They think it is very impolite to offend each other's private rights, so westerners respect others' privacy rights and ask others to respect their own privacy rights. Therefore, in foreign-related exchanges, "don't ask the woman's age, don't ask the man's money" has become the practice of communication.
Respect women, ladies first.
In all social occasions, in order to show respect for women, women are particularly emphasized and the principle of giving priority to women is observed. In communication activities, women are always given various privileges to care for, help and protect women. It is very impolite to disrespect women in social life.
Simple and practical
Western etiquette emphasizes simplicity and practicality, and thinks that in communication activities, we should not only pay attention to politeness and show respect for each other, but also be concise, convenient and realistic, without red tape. In communication, we do not advocate excessive politeness, do not welcome excessive self-modesty and self-mockery, and especially oppose falsehood, inferiority and self-deprecation. In addition, western etiquette also reflects the spirit of expressing feelings, being brave in innovation and paying attention to efficiency in communication to a certain extent, which is very realistic.
Equality, freedom and openness
Western etiquette emphasizes "freedom, equality, fraternity" and "everyone is born free and equal", and advocates equality in communication, including equality between men and women, respect for the elderly and love for the young. We should respect and cultivate children's independent spirit, instead of coddling and indulging them and encouraging their dependence. Treat underage children as adults, respect their opinions, try to use the tone of consultation in everything, truthfully point out that children have mistakes, and generally do not reprimand or beat and scold.
In communication, westerners are generally active in thinking, have a wide range of interests, are humorous, open and natural, dare to express their views, are competitive and have an extroverted tendency.
Although western etiquette has not completely changed the unequal nature of etiquette in the old society, there are many aspects of its civilization that are worth learning and learning from.