first, psychologists never know human nature. Psychology is a study of the psychological state of all human behavior activities, which describes psychology. Although it is to explore the problem at the human level, it is not to study human nature. This must be distinguished. The human psychological model is different from the human nature model. There are only two points in human nature, namely, Laozi's "beginning of life is inherently good" and Xunzi's "beginning of life and inherent vice." These two viewpoints of human nature belong to the category of Confucianism in Chinese studies, not psychology.
second: I think you are asking about the concept of human heart. People's psychological activities have certain rules to follow in a large and representative category, which makes it unnecessary for us to explore what kind of state people's psychology is, and we can get similar answers by directly classifying them. For example, chestnut, regarding the classification of information processed by people's left brain and right brain, the conclusion drawn through brain splitting experiments is that people's left brain has logical thinking ability and their right brain has emotional thinking ability. After feature extraction of people with developed left brain and right brain, such as our left-handed and right-handed habits, experimental research shows that people with developed left brain are right-handed and those with developed right brain are left-handed, so we usually know that people who see left-handed people have delicate emotions and better perceptual processing ability than ordinary people. These are the conclusions and arguments drawn from experiments and can be directly used.
third: there are still special cases that need social experience. For example, some people are acquired right-handed, but their right brains are actually developed. At this time, it is difficult for us to explain with the knowledge in books, and we can't say that there are mistakes in books. Then we can only consider what kind of personality traits this person has from its various behavior habits, which requires us to have enough social experience. It is said that reading thousands of books is not as good as reading Wan Li Road, and reading Wan Li Road is not as good as reading countless people. Through theoretical study and acquired practice, it is the reason why psychological masters understand people's hearts.
fourth: don't put psychological myths. Because we all have our own privacy, we all like to hide our secrets in our own psychology. When we listen to psychology, it's so tall. Even if you have friends who study psychology, don't be afraid, because they may not reach the level of psychological masters at all, so even guessing may fool people. In fact, psychology does not teach you to see through people's hearts, but expounds the laws of people's psychological activities.
I hope my answer can help you. Thank you.
Thank you for your invitation. Here is my humble opinion.
first of all, there is a systematic theoretical knowledge as the foundation. Theoretical knowledge is the experience summed up by predecessors through practice. Without a foundation, it is like a blank sheet of paper, which is impossible to talk about.
secondly, a lot of practice. By observing people's clothes, facial expressions, behaviors, language expressions, etc., combined with the theoretical knowledge learned, we can judge their personality characteristics and real thoughts.
For example:
In the American drama Don't Lie to me, there is a plot in which Gillian, an expert in lying
, is in charge of investigating a congressman. When Gillian asks the congressman, "How did you spend last Friday night?" In order to cover up the fact that he frequented the club, the congressman began to fabricate the so-called "alibi". He said, "I went to the gym in Congress to swim, then went home to read the documents. After dinner, I attended a social activity." The congressman's statement was very calm and natural, and it seemed that there was no flaw. However, Gillian asked him to describe it backwards again, that is, to start from the last thing he did. The congressman immediately showed anxiety and panic, and he began to talk incoherently, which was completely inconsistent with the situation described before.
This is because when people make up lies, it is very difficult to describe them in reverse chronological order, because the situation he made up earlier is not a real memory. Although the liar will prepare his answers in advance, he almost never thinks of preparing them in reverse order, so he will appear panicked and expose himself immediately.
This is the application of psychology in practice.
In a word, the master also came from ordinary people, and the systematic theory and a lot of practice, over time, integrated.
I am not a psychology major, and the following is just my humble opinion.
It seems to be known from TV that psychologists are endowed with a mysterious ability to understand people's hearts, which is often used in criminal investigation and crime. For example, The Dark Man, Beauty for Stuffing and Mind-reading Detective
The basic routine is that psychologists guess each other's psychological activities and emotions at this moment through their actions, tone and even micro-expressions, and then find out the real murderer and solve the case perfectly.
however, in real life. The so-called psychological master is a professional state of psychological counselor or psychologist. They don't have the ability to see through each other's minds at a glance, and they don't have the legendary story of solving crimes easily through some guessed criminal profiles.
They are just ordinary people who work as hard as we do. All kinds of scales are commonly used in their work, and the most important thing to be improved is language communication and the ability to express their desires.
All their judgments come from the objective scale result data and the real expression of the other party. The theory that psychologists see through people's hearts is a misunderstanding brought by exaggerated visual art and a deification of psychology.
First of all, understanding human nature is not the patent of psychologists. Many experts can understand human nature.
If we only talk about psychologists, generally speaking, understanding human nature will go through the following levels:
1. Applying psychological professional knowledge and technology. For example: subconscious, resistance, dreams, empathy, micro-expression, consultation and so on in psychoanalysis. Insight from the perspective of psychological laws.
2. Psychologists' own strong intuition can give insight into each other's subtle psychological changes.
3. Rich life experience and life experience will help psychological masters understand human nature more deeply, and empathy will also play a role. Human nature has many advantages and disadvantages.
General psychology studies the psychological activities of normal people; Social psychology studies the psychological activities of normal people in social relations; Developmental psychology studies the psychological activities of normal people at each development stage; Abnormal psychology studies the psychological activities of abnormal people. These are rules to follow. Counseling skills and psychological diagnosis are the summaries of several generations of psychologists on the laws of psychological activities, and counseling skills of various orientations are the crystallization of psychologists all over the world for a hundred years. The so-called insight into people's hearts is not that the counselor is powerful, but that every visitor's thinking mode and behavior process will leave traces, and the psychological counselor just follows the traces to see the essence behind his words and deeds.
first, I am not a master;
second, I am not a psychology major;
But recently, I've been studying psychology-related courses by myself, because I find that it's a very interesting process to put what I've learned into practice.
First of all, through learning, I know that psychology studies behavior and the thinking mode behind it, which leads to emotion and reaches the level of relationship. That is: behavior-thinking-emotion-relationship.
Then, you will sum up your experience through a lot of studies and cases, so that you can infer your thinking mode through your personal reaction to an event. According to his thinking mode, it is inferred that his emotional response to this thinking mode is caused by what time he has experienced and what kind of influence it will have on his various relationships.
In fact, most of the time, the counselor will not give you specific advice. His main content is to listen and then guide you to face up to your heart by asking questions.
Masters also need a lot of learning and experience accumulation. There is no right or wrong knowledge in many cases, and differences only result from the different scope of use. It is the reason why "it is better to believe in books than to have no books".
a lot of planning and practical experience are summed up. Observe and think about the logic and essence behind personal behavior and social phenomena.
Learn the most basic knowledge of sociology and psychology, accurately
judge the behaviors of society and individuals, so as to have a deeper understanding of the essence behind them
Make corresponding actions according to people's preferences and tendencies, such as observing people's reactions, making judgments, and matching the knowledge.
To put it simply, having psychological knowledge and analyzing people's reactions through a series of behavioral tests. Make a judgment and then give feedback.
Usually, we can understand people's subconscious in the following ways:
First, we have gained a lot of consulting experience. People's subconscious mind is also traceable. Unconscious actions and language all imply some information. The technical predecessor of NLP is to find out the recurring language patterns and develop a set of reproducible consulting techniques through the consulting mode of the master.
second, logical analysis. In consultation, we tend to block the judgmental language spoken by the narrator and pay more attention to what happened. There is often a big difference between facts and judgments. Starting from facts and phenomena, it is more valuable to understand a person by paying attention to what the other person has done rather than what the other person thinks.
thirdly, intuitive feeling is acquired. Communication between people is not limited to language. Humans can communicate without language. Therefore, intuitive feeling is also a way to exchange information. It's just that we need to do some restorative training so that we can judge whether it's what we think or what our body intuitively feels.
thank you for asking questions!
first of all, a child fish knows the joy of a fish? I'm not a master, and I dare not talk nonsense for him!
Secondly, based on my nearly 3 years' clinical experience and 1 years' experience of training Eriksson in hypnosis, sometimes it is not necessarily the "master" who understands people's hearts, but the title of "master" who hypnotizes the suggestible visitors. Perhaps this is also the interesting part of psychology. What do you think?
once again, the so-called: you who don't want to be a master are not good questioners, but you can think that what the master wants to specify is not ordinary people!
I wish you love thinking: I think, therefore I am! Always think and always be new!