Wisdom is not the patent of smart babies. How to cultivate it?

As parents, who doesn't want their children to be very smart and far superior to their peers? But more parents think that children are born smart, and natural intelligence determines whether children are smart or not. Is that really the case? IQ is born to children. Scientific research shows that most people have little difference in IQ. IQ is not something a child can know. For example, a child with a high IQ, but a flawed personality, rarely cooperates with outsiders, then he is really not smart. Therefore, the key to determine whether a child is smart or not is not intelligence, but the child's cognitive enlightenment education. Perception, concentration, athletic ability, language ability, observation ability, emotional management ability, self-control and so on. Children are really smart only if they have cognitive ability. Different from IQ, children's cognitive ability is acquired, so the importance of family education is paid more and more attention.

This is a view that most people are familiar with, but few people study it seriously. In the process of children's education, bees follow, listen to other people's art classes, reward children, listen well to programming classes, and watch programming classes quickly. Finally, I found that the child had accomplished nothing, spent a lot of money and learned a lot. To teach students in accordance with their aptitude, we must first understand our children. Personality, interests, fields, etc. To do this, it is essential for parents to accompany them daily, and it is also essential to bring their children into contact with the outside world. Children have to experience it by themselves, have their own understanding of other things, and operate it by themselves, so that they will be interested and know whether they are doing well.

Children have their own wisdom. The most important thing to educate children is to guide them to their own wisdom, which is the so-called humanitarian education. Domestic education tends to be indoctrination education. Parents and teachers instill correct knowledge and concepts into their children, so that they can remember them, make education boring and make children feel disgusted. So how do we guide our children in our daily life? Here are two suggestions: ask children more questions. Encourage children to ask questions. For example, when children encounter problems, we should not tell them the answers directly, but encourage them to think by asking questions and let them solve the problems themselves. The general question is: "What do you see? What is their relationship? What are you thinking about? So how do you want to do this? Do you have any other ideas? Click and wait. Another example is that children come home from school every day. We should not be disobedient, ask children what they have learned and ask teachers what questions. The influence of probation affects children's thinking, finds problems, puts forward problems, and does not solve problems.

For children, especially young children, they don't know enough about body control and things, so children often help with kindness, such as accidentally breaking a bowl. I helped clean the floor, but it made the land even dirtier! Similar things abound. At this time, many parents will scold their children and let them play alone, but this will hurt their self-confidence and make them afraid to show themselves. It is difficult to see their talents, let alone targeted education. So in daily life, parents must give their children more opportunities to show themselves. Even if children don't do well, we should ensure their efforts and encourage them to do better. Only in this way can children build self-confidence, express themselves and explore their talents, and the future will be smoother.