Every day she comes home from school alone, goes to the vegetable market to buy food, and then goes to the kitchen to cook alone.
From washing vegetables, cutting vegetables, to cooking, I was unhurried and methodical, and moved my mother to bask in my daughter in a circle of friends.
As the saying goes, the children of poor families are in charge early, but the parents of girls are doctors of Haining Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital, and they are the only girls in the family.
Mom didn't expect this grandson to get a lot of praise and comments, which caused a lot of heated discussion.
Why did it cause such a big response from netizens? First of all, because many children have nothing to do at home,
So how much influence does housework have on children's growth? A foreign single mother raised two sons who became billionaires before the age of 30 and the daughter of a diplomat. She helps her mother earn money to support her family by involving her children in housework.
So what can be done to help children get rid of laziness?
I. Strengthening psychology
Pavlov, a famous physiologist abroad, first put forward the concept of reinforcement. In Pavlov's classical conditioned reflex, reinforcement refers to the appearance of unconditional influence after conditional influence, which is a natural, forced and specific process before behavior. In these conditioned reflexes, reinforcement is a kind of artificial manipulation, which refers to the reward and punishment process that accompanies behavior and helps behavior repeatedly.
Specific practices are as follows:
1. Dad should be a good example.
Bill Gates and his wife once published an open letter together, in which they talked about the role of mom and dad in the family.
Melinda believes that housework should not be a woman's patent, and mothers should have the right to choose what they want to do.
Father's automatic sharing of housework is the best education for children, which can bring the most instinctive sense of security and belonging to children and set a good example for them.
When dad is not at home, children will gradually imitate dad to do housework and automatically share it for their mothers.
Deepen your impression through games.
For children who have never done housework, they may find it difficult to start, and it is normal to have resistance.
Parents can turn housework into a little game at the moment.
For example, when children still don't know how to wash clothes, mothers can break down this housework into simple levels, make children feel interesting from it, patiently demonstrate to them and encourage them to actively participate.
Children's participation in housework is equivalent to their participation in family building, and they are also in a dominant position in the family, and their sense of responsibility and creativity will naturally progress.
3. Establish a correct concept and strengthen psychological influence.
Parents should know that loving labor is our traditional virtue, so we must not spoil our children too much, which will make them very lazy and degenerate. Don't dislike children's poor homework or scold them for being clumsy. Don't plunder children who never understand the meeting process. Children can find their own preferences from labor. Some parents regard housework as a means to reward and punish their children, which may lead to children's deep dislike of resisting housework and cast a shadow on their growth. Parents should establish a correct concept of labor, accompany their children to do it, and let them enjoy the process of doing housework.
4. Guide and motivate children to be more confident.
Parents should believe that their children can do one thing well; Don't start yelling and scolding just because a child made a mistake or accidentally broke something. Before success, everyone has the right to be conceited, and children need praise during their growth. When children clean up the ground garbage independently, they need parents' praise and encouragement. When a child makes a mistake, there will be contradictions in housework. Parents' praise and encouragement will make the child full of enthusiasm and will do anything more actively.
What are the benefits of children getting rid of "laziness"?
1. Conducive to the cultivation of sense of responsibility
The biggest function of children's labor since childhood is to cultivate their sense of responsibility. Children who have a sense of responsibility for their families since childhood may have a sense of responsibility for society when they grow up. It is an important embodiment of the sense of responsibility, that is, to be responsible for the work you have done. If you want children to have such an idea, you must first let them pick up the toys!
2. It is beneficial to the development of cognitive ability.
When doing housework, the baby needs to exercise his hands and brain, and understand the environment at home, which can effectively exercise the child's hand coordination ability, so don't worry about tiring the child, just organize appropriate labor for the baby according to the baby's own growth and prepare special hygiene things for the baby, so let the baby do it.
3. It is beneficial to exercise independence
When children do housework, it is also a good opportunity to exercise their children. When children can finish most housework at their age, they have the ability to take care of themselves. However, to cultivate children's independent ability, the first thing is to let children take care of their own work, such as eating, and let them start to be independent as soon as possible.
4. It is conducive to enhancing execution.
In this era when many people claim to have procrastination, if children can be trained to have good execution from an early age, that is a good way to let their babies really win at the starting line. When doing housework, you can let your baby know that there is no difference between doing one thing now and doing one thing an hour later. If you think like this, you can make the baby move faster. It is also a good choice to establish the concept of punctuality for the baby and make a timetable for him.
Children should be rewarded or praised every time they do something well, so that they will have a sense of accomplishment and be more active in doing the next thing. Although children are young, they also have some self-esteem and vanity. Appropriate to meet their small requirements, don't think that in order to avoid children's pride, we don't care about winning or losing, and keep picking on children's mistakes. Over time, children dare not do anything and don't want to do anything, mainly for fear of making mistakes.