Contents:
Chapter 1: Psychological surprise: Can counting money relieve pain and stress?
Chapter 2: Psychological Interpretation: Is it good to cry to relieve stress?
Chapter 3: Make psychological stress relief the most romantic thing!
As mankind enters modern society, mental health has become increasingly prominent as a global issue. Let’s take a look at what kind of psychological stress reduction methods can relieve this kind of stress!
Psychological surprise: Can counting money relieve pain and relieve stress?
A study by psychologists from China and the United States proves that money has more than just its monetary value. Staring at or touching money can also reduce people's physical pain and social exclusion.
People often say, "Money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money." A recent study by psychologists from China and the United States proved that money not only has its monetary value, but that staring at or touching money can also reduce people's physical pain and the stress caused by social exclusion. On the contrary, recalling the money spent actually worsens both pains.
Zhou Zhou, associate professor of psychology at Sun Yat-sen University and M.A. and Ph.D. from the University of Arizona, participated in this study.
Recently, "Nature" reported this research online. The research results will also be published in the famous psychology journal "Psychological Science". We specially invited an associate professor to introduce this interesting research to readers in layman’s language.
Our entire study includes six experiments, and there are two main contents to be studied: one is the alleviation of the stress caused by social exclusion by money, and the other is the alleviation of physical pain by money.
We wanted to know whether people increase their pursuit of money when they feel socially excluded or in physical pain.
When people count or touch money, does it lessen the pain of social rejection or physical injury? Will these two pains get worse when you lose money? Experiments give positive answers to all these questions.
Previous research has found that the brain's response to social rejection and physical pain is "pain." In other words, scolding you or hitting you will have the same reaction in the brain, coming from the same area of ??the brain.
Psychologists have developed a game called "Cyberball" specifically to induce social exclusion.
The subject played a ball-throwing game with two other "people." At first, the three threw balls to each other. After a while, the other two were thrown not to the subject, but to themselves.
In fact, the other two are virtual. We asked some subjects to write down their recent spending before the game, and others to record weather conditions. After being rejected by the avatar, subjects who recorded their expenses were even worse off.
We also asked some subjects to divide into two groups, one group counted paper and the other counted money, and then asked them to put their fingers in warm water and then in hot water, and then reported that they were Pain in hot water. The temperature of the hot water can cause pain but not harm. Compared with the lump sum paper, the lump sum money is less painful. The experiment was documented in a BBC science documentary, and their replicated results came to the same conclusion.
There are two ways to help us resist pain: social relationships and money, but money is a less important means of resistance and is the means people turn to after failing to seek social relationships. We found that people with poor social connections are more likely to pursue money.
Generally speaking, money and love belong to the category of social resources, which can make people feel safe, protect themselves, and improve their social status.
In some ways, money can replace the role of love. When there is a lack of care, people will turn to money to replace it, but this does not mean that everything will be fine with money. In fact, just like any substitute has side effects, money as a substitute for love will also bring many side effects.
First of all, the effectiveness of money is not as lasting as love. People are very adaptable to money. The pleasure that money can bring is short-lived. Just like when you first enter a scented room, people will find it very fragrant, but as time passes, your sense of smell will adapt to the smell. I can no longer smell the fragrance.
There is also the law of diminishing margins in economics. When you have a certain amount of money, you will need more money.
Because when you have no money, one dollar can make people very happy, but if you already have a lot of money, maybe 1,000 dollars will not have this effect.
Psychologists surveyed many lottery winners and found that one year later, the happiness of these people was no different from that of ordinary people.
Money is an easy stimulus to get used to. Based on this theory, I guess that the same amount of money may have a greater relief effect, or it can be said that the analgesic effect is greater for the poor.
In our research, we also found that credit cards or some tokens do not have such an effect, which is very interesting.
Secondly, money can also lead to a reduction in the pursuit of interpersonal relationships. After having money, people are less willing to work hard to establish social relationships with others, which creates a vicious cycle.
Through a series of experiments, psychologist Kathleen Vohs of the University of Minnesota found that when people see money or think about money, their pursuit of social relationships will decrease.
Money makes people less willing to help others, less willing to ask for help when encountering difficulties, and even keep a longer distance from others.
Another group of psychologists examined people's pursuit of various goals in 15 cultures and found that the pursuit of money reduces the pursuit of love, which in turn reduces the pursuit of love. The pursuit of money.
Finally, money has some addictive properties. Some psychologists believe that money is like some drugs, which can make people addicted to it, leading to the endless pursuit of money.
Psychological interpretation: Is it good to cry to relieve stress?
Crying is one of the ways human emotions are expressed and has always been considered a way to relieve stress. Cryers cry to relieve stress. Research shows that crying can relieve people's tension and anxiety, so many professional women cry to relieve stress. Some people say that after crying after watching a sad movie, they will sleep soundly and their previous insomnia will disappear. However, does crying really relieve stress? Are there any benefits to crying often?
Party A’s point of view: Crying is a good way to detoxify and reduce stress in modern society.
In people’s minds, crying is the preserve of women and children, while for men, “men don’t cry easily.” Children are different from women. They cry when they are happy, when they are moved, when they are angry, when they are upset, or even when they are bored. Crying is generally considered a bad thing. In fact, crying appropriately is very beneficial to the body and mind from a psychological point of view.
William Fry, a psychologist at the University of Minnesota, has conducted research on crying for five years. The results showed that in a month, men cried up to 7 times, while women cried more than 30 times. Hazen, an evolutionary biologist at Tel Aviv University in Israel, said crying is a highly evolved behavior in humans. Like language, only humans can truly cry. Studies have found that tears can even send signals of self-protection. It will blur the person's vision and prevent them from making aggressive behaviors towards others; at the same time, it can show one's vulnerability, making the other person less wary and hostile, and will not do harm casually; furthermore, the other person will see a face full of tears. Faces can also arouse sympathy, and then provide support unconsciously.
Party B’s point of view: “Crying” is not the best choice for reducing stress.
First of all, crying is a sign of emotional instability and psychological vulnerability.
It is true that stress can be relieved temporarily, but in the long run, it is difficult to truly solve psychological problems. This is like a patient with obsessive-compulsive disorder who always washes his hands repeatedly, but the process of washing his hands can only temporarily relieve his anxiety. In fact, this way of venting is unhealthy and will aggravate his pain if it continues. Crying, as a means of catharsis, can make people feel empty, boring, depressed, and painful, which is not good for people's mental health. Secondly, locking yourself up and crying to relieve stress is largely due to the lack of friendship and love. Most of these people are single and don’t have many friends to talk to. So I had no choice but to use movies and books to move myself, instead of crying to express my concern for family, friendship, and love to comfort myself. This was also a helpless act under heavy pressure. Finally, always wailing will induce people's narcissism, which will make people feel even more lonely in the long run; and the narcissism caused by crying always makes people feel wronged, that society is unfair to them, that others do not understand them, and that If you don’t trust others, you will feel even more lonely.
In addition, usually people's emotional intensity will decrease by 40% after crying, but you should not cry again after the suppressed emotions are vented and relieved, otherwise it will be harmful to the body. Because people's gastrointestinal function is extremely sensitive to emotions, if you are sad or cry for too long, the movement of the stomach will slow down and the secretion of gastric juice will decrease, which will affect people's appetite and even cause stomach problems.
Psychological interpretation:
Experts say that crying is a way to vent stress, and it can be done occasionally. But crying to relieve stress is not for everyone. Generally speaking, different basic personalities have different abilities to cope with stress. Usually, after crying, a person's emotional intensity will be reduced by 40%, but after the suppressed emotions are vented and relieved, crying can no longer be done, otherwise it will be harmful to the body.
Experts believe that there are many sources of stress, and excessive stress may be related to poor interpersonal relationships. If you have good interpersonal support such as family, friends, colleagues, etc. When faced with stress, you can effectively resolve it. In this kind of good interpersonal relationship, you can also achieve a happy mood, and you will be more optimistic about dealing with stress. There is nothing wrong with crying to relieve stress and it can be a normal way to vent your emotions, but it does not have to be used frequently. It is not the first choice for decompression, there are more and better ways to decompress. If you cry often and don't regulate your emotions well, you will only cry more and more sadly.
Make psychological stress relief the most romantic thing!
With the mentality of "you can do anything as long as you like it", you will find the beauty and lightness of life. Since stress reduction is a romantic idea, how to turn it into action? What we want is execution, as well as decompression.
Stress is invisible, but we need a certain amount of space to relieve it, which is the psychological "liberation zone".
It is said that when Prince Charles of the United Kingdom is depressed, he likes to sit on the toilet with his chin propped up, like a "thinker", and the stress is quickly relieved.
The bathroom is a good place to release stress. It has a sense of security, relaxation and freedom. It is a new "liberated area" for modern people.
And nature is the most beautiful "liberated area". If you go to nature and let the fresh air drive away your worries, your eyes will be green and it will make you feel relaxed and happy.
Time can be changed by your romantic thoughts, from length to color, thereby eliminating the stress of its "passage" on you.
For example, take off your watch, forget the time, and write a letter to your lover in the time it takes to wash a bucket of clothes; or use the time of lighting candles to organize the major events of the week; or prepare fruits for your lover while listening to records. salad.
Exercise can also eliminate stress, increase self-confidence, and improve mood. Of course, running a marathon is not necessary. If necessary, you can gain some benefits by running and jumping indoors.
The source of happiness for U.S. President George W. Bush is his morning jog; there is no secret to former Russian President Vladimir Putin’s stress reduction, that is judo.
Suppressing the inner innocence for a long time to adapt to the adult world will make people exhausted. Then playing with your children, or watching fairy tales, or even learning a few fairy tales will make you feel much more relaxed.
In other words, being appropriately innocent or coquettish in front of your lover can make your breath feel fresh.
For humans, "the last taboo is not drug abuse or sexual dysfunction, but stress."
Conclusion: Therefore, remember to reduce the pressure on yourself, don’t embarrass yourself, and don’t mess up your happiness. There are many beautiful things in the world, but the most beautiful thing is to put zero pressure on yourself and create a good mood. This is wisdom and romance.