I also kind of like WeChat friends like Mad Men. Actually, I don't have a good relationship with him, but he often praises my friend, which makes me misunderstand.
I thought he was talking about my circle of friends, so he often praised me. But I took the initiative to chat with him, and the other party didn't agree at all, just saying that I was just used to giving others a compliment.
Maybe some people think that praise is a courtesy, but I don't think so. Especially after this incident, I don't think we should praise others easily.
Because some people are very careful when talking in the circle of friends, they don't expect to say your praise, but if he really receives your praise, he thinks it is that he really helped you, not that you deliberately praised him to please him.
So you just browse each other's circle of friends and have a chat, but you often praise them deliberately, which will only make them feel that people like you are full and have nothing to do, and even think that you like to curry favor with others and have some influence, thus gradually alienating you.
Now that we have talked about it, let's discuss it now. What is the psychology of those who always like to praise others in the WeChat circle of friends?
0 1. Work needs, in order to maintain good interpersonal relationships.
When my brother-in-law first came to work in a county judicial bureau, he met a lawyer named Li for work reasons. His brother-in-law added this lawyer's WeChat and said to me:
This lawyer surnamed Li is really strange. Whether in my circle of friends or colleagues' circle of friends, I will see him praising others in almost every circle of friends.
I think this lawyer may meet colleagues and clients because of the need of work and in order to maintain good interpersonal relationship, so that they can think of him and look for him at the first time when they need anything.
However, I don't quite support "being friends" as a way to maintain interpersonal relationships. Because I am an emotional consultant myself, I need to earn money from my clients, but I won't spend my time praising them.
I have been silently updating the content of my emotional articles on the platform, and then I published the WeChat friends circle advertisement, hoping to attract customers with my value and let them take the initiative to come to me.
In fact, I still support my own approach. Of course, we occasionally praise others in the circle of friends, so that a customer will not forget himself. It's not bad to maintain interpersonal relationships like this.
It's just that we still don't give up everything. You really want to maintain the interpersonal relationship around you. Socialization is definitely not the most important thing, and the praise of friends circle is not that important. The most important thing is the value and benefits you can bring to others.
02. Come on, personality, always want to maintain good relations with everyone.
Man is a gregarious animal and also a gregarious animal. As an ordinary person, we are all social people, so it is impossible not to go out for social intercourse. But there is a saying that low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.
The older you get, the more you will understand that there are very few people around you who are really worth interacting with. In fact, adults understand this truth very well, but some people are unwilling to accept this fact, such as flattery.
I have such a pleasant personality friend around me. Influenced by her family background, she always flinches. When the other party makes herself unhappy, she dares not get angry, and even deliberately satisfies others by suppressing her own needs.
In the final analysis, flattering people are lonely at heart. They lack love, so they are always accommodating in front of outsiders, because they don't want to offend anyone, and their essence is cowardice and they dare not offend anyone.
Anyone who gets along with them, good or bad, always wants to keep a good relationship with each other. As long as the other party is willing to be friends with them, they will generally choose to come to the net.
In fact, I seldom praise others, but the content published by the other friends circle is really good. For example, if a sentence suddenly wakes me up and answers my doubts, I will be praised.
Praise is also a social behavior, which can be used appropriately, but our life is precious and time is fleeting, so don't blindly praise others, waste your time and choose or praise the destination.