I grew up in Taishan Street in Dalian as a teenager, and my father's stick education made me suffer a lot. Although the stick education I received from my parents was actually influenced by violence, I don't have the genes to fight with others. My childhood, belonging to the third world, was childish. One day, our brother was bullied by an older child, but I developed a sense of resistance and implemented it, thus protecting myself.
1965 graduated from primary school in the summer vacation and is waiting for junior high school. There was nothing to do during the holiday, so I read novels at home. At that time, reading novels was my only hobby. While reading a book, my brother came into the room to find me: "Big brother, second brother was beaten."
I took my younger brother to backstreet, and a tall man (surnamed Jiao or Han, who lives in a painting at the boundary between East and West Streets) was bullying my two younger brothers. He is about fifteen or sixteen, more than a head taller than me. Our four brothers are 65,438+03 years old, 65,438+065,438+0 years old, 8 years old and 5 years old respectively, belonging to a group of children who have no resistance.
In order to protect my brother, I rushed to argue with the big man. I asked him, "Why did you hit someone?"
The big man cocked his head and squinted at me with a contemptuous expression. He said, "I called. What can you do? " With that, he punched me on the right cheek, and I felt my face warm. We are weak but bullied, and I can't stand the helplessness and humiliation inside. We are not rivals to each other. If we retreat, the four brothers will continue to be beaten. The arrogance of the other side burned me into the last straw, and I suddenly had the courage to resist. "fight!" I bowed my head and suddenly arched to the other side's abdomen. The other side was unsuspecting and I arched to the ground. I immediately rode on him, grabbed his private parts and pinched him without resistance. After the incident, this bully, who is much older than me, will avoid me every time he sees me.
In fact, when the weak face bullying, if they can't escape, they can only bravely resist and die. However, there is no right or wrong for children to fight, and this kind of fighting behavior cannot be encouraged. My parents were very strict, and I was beaten by my father that night. Since then, I have never fought with other children. Until I went to the countryside, I was a good boy who obeyed and didn't make trouble.
From 65438 to 0968, I went to Kuandian in rural areas and attended many meetings of representatives of educated youth in communes. 1July, 1969, I went out to work and participated in the construction of Chedaoling Bridge as a migrant worker. One day, when I was screening sand, I heard someone calling for help on the other side of the river. I waded across the river with a shovel and found a young man riding on his father, who was very violent. I picked up a shovel and knocked the young man off his father. His father hit me hard when he got up. Because his son is fine, this is useless. It can be seen that we need to pay attention to methods to stop other people's violent behavior. If we oppose injustice, we must distinguish the reasons. We can't hurt people impulsively, otherwise we won't do anything to please.
1972 I took a bus to the station to transport coal in Ji 'an Cement Plant. On the way, I was blocked by a drunk and the driver injured him. Because I was in charge of picking up the car, the driver and I were summoned by the public security organs that night. Because the driver fought back after being beaten, the injured person took the initiative to withdraw the lawsuit after demanding compensation. The public security organs did not hold the driver accountable, but it was also a false alarm. This incident tells me a truth: when you meet an evil person, you can stop his evil deeds, and you can't just fight violence with violence. Beating people is likely to be prosecuted. No matter whether you win or lose a fight, there is no winner.
1one night in June, 973, a worker Tian mouyou refused to manage his work and scolded me. After I hit back, I was knocked down by a punch, but it became unreasonable. The factory leader revoked my position and sent me to the lime workshop as a kiln worker. The lesson of this incident is: be calm when something happens, and never start work. Hurting others is actually hurting yourself.
1 July, 9751Sunday night, Tonghua health school teachers and students performed, and criminals outside the school forcibly rushed into the school. The leader arranged for me and Mr. Ma Renhua to protect the safety of teachers and students. The criminals who rushed into the school destroyed the school gate and attacked us. When teacher Ma and I fought back, two people were injured. Afterwards, the public security organ believed that the injured person acted improperly and the school was not responsible. In that special era, criminals rested in my dormitory for more than ten days. The lesson of this incident is that the best way to deal with illegal attacks is to call the police. If you defend yourself, once you exceed the necessary limit, you are likely to pay the bill yourself.
1978 One day, classmate Guo Zhefu was bullied by a Chinese major student in the reading room of Northeast Normal University, and the two sides clashed, resulting in a Chinese major student being injured. Later, my monitor Lu Pin and I were both punished. The biggest lesson of this incident is that people should not be impulsive under any circumstances, otherwise they may bring harm to themselves.
1983, two neighbors, the Chu brothers, tried to occupy my yard, which was only 1.5 meters wide. When I stopped it, the two brothers hurt me, and I didn't fight back during the whole process. Afterwards, I asked the public security organs to handle it according to law, and the Chu brothers took the initiative to apologize, so I forgave them. Soon, my house was stolen, and the Chu brothers said that it was stolen by his nephew and pleaded guilty to me for compensation. It can be seen that the contradictions between neighbors cannot be intensified. If there is a conflict, we should discuss it first, and don't start work easily. Weakness is not necessarily a loss, but a gentleman's wind can win more respect.
From 1990 to 1994, I was also the security chief in Tonghua Kindergarten. I once handed over some lawless elements who disturbed the school order to the public security organs for handling. It is the duty to protect the safety of teachers and students to enforce the law against offenders. At this time, justice is in hand, and we must do it when we should do it. 1994 On that rainy summer night, Ding Mou, who had dealt with me, organized a dozen thugs to smash my house, and I fought back and scattered them. I was injured in many places, but the little finger of my left hand still didn't work. Afterwards, considering that Ding was young and promising, I gave up my appeal to him. Now that Ding's official career has developed very well, I will let people convey a message: I hope he will sincerely serve the people and that the mistakes of his youth will not be repeated.
Since the early 1990s, I have been working as a lawyer, defending defendants in some violent injury cases. At the same time, I will seriously educate them, make them repent and turn over a new leaf, confess their violent behavior and strive for leniency. The biggest lesson of these people is that impulse is the devil, and if you are entangled in the devil of impulse, you can only suffer.
2021July 3 1 day, a relative and his wife went to their sister's house to mediate conflicts, and as soon as they entered the door, they were attacked by their brother-in-law's stick. The injured person suffered from intracranial hemorrhage and was out of danger after craniotomy. After learning the news, I helped my relatives to treat their diseases financially and told them: believe in the law and ask the public security organs to deal with it according to law. It is an axiom of a legal society that offenders will be punished.
Life is not easy at 70. Looking back on many mistakes when I was young, I turned over a new leaf and enjoyed myself. If you want to change now, it's too late to regret it. I hope everyone in the world will make fewer mistakes when they are young and save them in time, so that life will be safe.