1. Express your determination to divorce peacefully.
Starting from your own feelings, don't blame each other, you can say:
During this time, because of the contradiction between us, I thought about divorce. I am depressed and in a bad mood. I didn't sleep well, but I came up: you cheated, you didn't do housework, and you didn't care about me. I want the other person to know that your negative feelings are because your marriage is not ideal, not because he is wrong. The purpose is to avoid emotional excitement, otherwise we can't talk at all. Remember, peace is the beginning of everything possible!
2. Grasp the weakness of the other person's personality
If the other person is nice, you have to be soft, because you or your family may have hurt his face. To understand this is an opportunity, you can say: We'd better try to settle it peacefully at the last minute. If it really goes to court, it will be ugly. I don't think we can protect our reputation at all If the other person loves money, you can say: if negotiation fails, you can only sue. Divorce proceedings may last for two years and cost a lot of lawyer's fees. In our situation, instead of spending tens of thousands each, we might as well keep the money in our own hands. Why not?
3. Guarantee the visiting rights of the other party
Divorce for the sake of children, to a large extent, is afraid that you will not see the children. Therefore, ensuring the other party's visiting rights in black and white is the key point for you to get custody. You can say: you are the father of the child, and if you have a hard time, the child will blame me and I will have a hard time. You can't be friends after divorce, but at least you can cooperate with the children. After all, children can't live without anyone, let alone in the future.
Don't speak ill of each other in front of children.
This is particularly evident in the elderly. If you feel that the other person is sorry for your family, tell the child that your father is a bad person. There is no need to leave you. You should assure the other party that you can educate the child well and dispel his worries. For example, he is worried that he is sorry for his children, doesn't care enough and doesn't have enough company. You must put in a good word in front of the children and stop the old man from speaking ill of each other in front of the children.