Why do children like to steal?

Why do children like to steal? They are 4 years old this year, and they are already children in the middle class of kindergarten. Recently, their mother found that when they came back from kindergarten, they often had more small toys in their pockets. When I came back from the supermarket, I actually got back more than 20 price tags; When I go to my relatives' house, I always bring some gadgets back ... Duan Duan's mother said, "Because things are small, I don't care." Grandfather dotes on him very much. I always thought grandpa bought it for my children. " But something happened a few days ago that made Duan Duan's mother feel something was wrong. "That day, I took it to my colleague's house to play. He likes the little dinosaur eggs of his colleagues' children. The two children are also a little embarrassed because they are competing to play. I didn't care at the time. Later, when I went to bed the next night, I found him lying in bed, fiddling with something and holding his favorite little dinosaur egg in his hand. I asked him how he did it. He said the children gave it to him. I didn't believe it, so I called my colleague. " Duan Duan's mother said that her colleague's answer surprised her. "My colleague said that she looked for a long time yesterday and thought that the child was lost." This scene made Duan Duan's mother feel ashamed and worried. Duan Duan's mother said, "The more I think about it, the more scared I am. You can't be a thief when you are so young. I don't understand why he wants to take other people's things when the conditions at home are so good and everything is lacking. " To this end, Duan Duan's mother educates Duan Duan in various ways. The most common are severe reprimand and corporal punishment. Every time she cried for mercy, she never dared again. She can come out of kindergarten the next day, and maybe there will be a few more small stickers with the names of other children in her pocket. Duan Duan's mother said, "Why do children like stealing? I really don't know what to do. " Director Sun said: "There is a saying in China that you are three years old and seven years old. That is to say, your childhood behavior habits will be directly brought to adulthood. According to this reasoning, a 4-year-old child will steal from beginning to end and become a thief when he grows up. But think about it. Who can say that he had never stolen anything from others before he was seven years old? Parents want their children to be perfect, but it is inevitable that there will be some minor problems during the child's growth, and parents still need correct guidance. " The concepts of "yours" and "mine" are vague. Developmental psychologists believe that children steal partly because of "self-centeredness", that is, in this period, children will think that the world is centered on him, and there are concepts of "mine" and "my own" in their minds, but they are vague about "yours" and "his". "What is yours is mine, and what is mine is mine", as long as it is what he likes, it must be owned by him and considered as his own. Every child will go through this stage, which is a transitional phenomenon in the growth trajectory. After this period, the act of "stealing" will gradually disappear. Therefore, parents should never call their children "thieves" or "thieves" at will, which may cause great harm to his young mind and even affect his personality perfection as an adult. Help children establish "ownership" Although "egocentric period" is the growth track, as parents, we can't turn a blind eye to their children's "insatiable greed". We should use our brains to help children establish the concept of "ownership" as soon as possible, that is, let them know how to respect the ownership of others. Parents can "set an example" and ask their children to pack their belongings in time. Parents can borrow toys or pens from their children and tell them how long it will take. They can only take it with the child's consent and say "thank you" when they return it. For example, at home, identify with your baby what is his, such as clothes and Barbie dolls. The mobile phone is mom's and the laptop is dad's. Tell the baby that everyone in the family has personal belongings, and these things can't be moved without their permission. Of course, the baby's things are the same. Mom and dad can't give toys to others without the baby's permission. Make up stories and reason for children. If children take other people's things, we can tell them what is right and wrong through hand puppet games and stories, such as telling them the story of "I don't know when I find the money". Let the child learn to empathize, let him realize how anxious he is to lose something, and encourage him to return it in time. In daily life, if you see children sharing toys or food with others, you should praise and encourage them in time and strengthen their sharing behavior, so as to quickly establish the concept of ownership and learn the behavior habit of respecting the ownership of others.