For older single women, this time is often the hardest time. I was arranged for blind date at home again and again, but I was ridiculed by men intentionally or unintentionally.
Even people around me often make eyes at older single women: women in their thirties will never get married unless they get married.
Perhaps in today's life, people generally have prejudice against older women, which also puts the group of women left behind under great pressure of marriage.
Macey is such a leftover woman. She is 37 years old. As an elite woman in the workplace, no matter how beautiful she is outside, she will be overwhelmed by all kinds of ridicule when she comes home.
For this reason, Macey embarked on the road of blind date from last year, but what made her particularly aggrieved was that none of the blind date men introduced to her by the introducer were of high quality.
Macey's own conditions are really good. She works in the coastal area with a monthly salary of more than 20 thousand yuan. She is beautiful and slender, with the demeanor of a strong woman in the workplace.
Although she failed to fall in love twice, every time she began to fall in love, she devoted herself wholeheartedly, thinking that she could get married. She paid a lot for her ex-boyfriend, but in the end she was disappointed by her boyfriend.
Although the ex-boyfriend was sorry for Macey, both ex-boyfriends gave Macey some financial compensation, which seemed to be several hundred in total, but what Macey wanted was not money. She just wants a sincere love, but she can't get it.
Although Macey is old now, she still has feminine charm. On the contrary, she always dresses herself exquisitely and exudes feminine charm in the workplace.
There are many men around who pursue Macey, but she refuses them one by one. She said that the men who are chasing her are all in poor condition and too playboy. She never wanted to suffer from lovelorn love before.
In this way, Macey has been away, and she has not been married until now.
This year, Macey was forced into marriage by his family more seriously than before. Since last month, her family has been urging her to go back for a blind date. Macey is committed to life, but finally he can't postpone the blind date arranged at home.
Therefore, Macey went back to his hometown at the end of last month and dated eight times in a row, but all failed.
Such a high intensity blind date. Macey is really disgusted, especially those blind date men, who have no conditions and want to talk to her about marriage. It's really interesting.
Macey said that at the end of the eighth blind date, she was really angry with the blind date men and thought they were really great.
Macey once asked the introducer why he wanted to introduce her to such a poor blind date. The words of the introducer almost made Macey faint.
The introducer said, "it's good for a woman your age to have a man." If you don't have more capital, it is a defective product. "
Macey was very angry on the spot. She is just a little old, but she is beautiful and has good conditions. Why can't she choose again?
Besides, the man who is dating her works in a small county town, working for just over 10 thousand a month, and can't afford a house. This condition is simply one grade lower than her.
But this man is still very proud in front of Macey. The man asked bluntly, "Can you be born when you are old?" ? Have you ever had an emotional experience before? I can't accept women who have lived together. "
Macey wanted to get angry at that time. Doesn't this man know what respect for women is? Did he ask so bluntly? However, after all, she is a highly educated woman, and it is not easy to disclose it directly.
Macey said politely, "If you don't think it's appropriate, you don't have to talk about it. A quality woman like me may not be worthy of you. "
The man is not stupid, and may also recognize the unhappiness in Macey's words, so he casually asked, "Really? Then I want to ask a high-quality woman like you what are the conditions for choosing a spouse? "
Macey thought this man was really bored, so he simply said to him, "The conditions for choosing a spouse are not high. Just find a man who can hurt me with a monthly salary of about 50,000. "
Hearing this, the blind date man realized that he could not meet her standards, and in turn mocked her: "You are an old man, and you are still so harsh?" No man really wants to have a leftover woman like you. I don't think you are right for me. Forget it. "
Macey was very angry. Obviously he looked down on him, but he turned me down first. This is ridiculous.
Therefore, Macey more think more angry. He said, why do you look down on leftover women? I am so beautiful and of such high quality, are you qualified to marry me?
The man got up and said, "It's not appropriate. I don't want leftover women no matter how good they are. "
Macey was so angry that he almost smashed his cell phone. This man really has no respect for women. Is it bad to have leftover women? You despise me, and I despise you.
In this way, the eighth blind date also failed. Macey said that she really thought these blind date men were too bad. Are they blind? She is so beautiful and has such good conditions. Why do you despise her?
Later, Macey said that there was another blind date years ago. This time, she must know the man's personality before deciding whether to meet. She really can't afford to be hurt.
02
Last weekend, Macey sighed in a circle of friends: It really doesn't make sense that I am such a high-quality leftover woman and those leftover men with poor conditions dislike me. Who are they to look down on leftover women?
Many women's comments below tell Macey to ignore these leftover men. They don't have their own conditions and look down on leftover women. They should be single.
Are the leftover women really bad now? In fact, many leftover women have exquisite lives, can work and live independently, and have the capital to survive. Why are they looking for leftover men?
However, I also reminded Macey that there are actually many men who are also very nice. If you meet the right person, you might as well have a relationship, which may be a good marriage.
However, Macey experienced two love affairs and eight blind dates. She really refused marriage to some extent and dared not trust a man easily again.
Perhaps the example of Macey is also the situation faced by many elderly women. Because of being hurt again and again, falling in love or dating, many people already have prejudice, and it is really difficult to get married easily.
However, Macey still has expectations for marriage. She said that although she wanted to marry a man with a monthly salary of 50,000, if that man really loved, respected and loved her, she could give up this request.
After all, her condition is not bad, she will not be a burden of marriage at all, and she can work hard with men to create a happy life.
I think, after these blows, Macey may have become mature. She is really not the kind of material woman that some men say, and she will not succeed, let alone be wanted.
On the contrary, Macey has been trying to improve himself. She doesn't lose to young girls in face value, but she has more responsibilities and abilities of women in life and work. Shouldn't this be respected and recognized?
When many men mention leftover women, they think there are many problems with them and criticize them for being unwanted. This is really biased.
Admittedly, there are some things among the leftover women, and many young women have had enough fun and want to find someone to take over, but most of the leftover women really belong to good women with good conduct.
I think men should not blame the leftover women too much, but tolerate them. Perhaps this is also a bright road for their marriage.
If we blindly deny the leftover women, it will only make the group of leftover men single more and more huge, which may eventually lead to more and more men being single.
Macey has a good saying, you look down on the leftover women, and the leftover women still look down on you?
Therefore, to remind men, it is best to be more tolerant of leftover women. After all, it is also a fact that the leftover women are getting better and better. Isn't it better for men and women to improve together?
Marriage should have mutual understanding, tolerance and respect. Even a blind date. If we all have hearts together, who says that the future marriage will be unhappy?
03
Roland said: "when there is true love between two people, external irrelevant factors such as age, economic conditions, appearance, height and so on will not be taken into account."
It's true. Men and women who can really be together really don't care about each other's external conditions.
After all, marriage should be based on feelings and sincerity. Without these two things, marriage is really not necessarily happy.
Men don't think leftover women are bad, don't think leftover women are bad, and don't even think leftover women have a past. Who hasn't passed yet? Most importantly, what are women like now and in the future? If they really deserve to get married, why should they be rejected first?
Similarly, women should not think that men are poor without economic foundation, but should pay more attention to the man's character and sense of responsibility when choosing a spouse. They can communicate sincerely and live happily in the future.
Therefore, when men and women are looking for a partner, they must talk with their hearts, instead of using external materials to treat marriage as a transaction, which is wrong.
From ancient times to the present, marriage is not measured by material things, but by two people's sincere efforts to grow together, fulfill each other and jointly manage their own happiness.
I hope that single men and women who are still on the road to choosing a spouse should uphold the correct concept of emotion and marriage, pursue their suitable partner and not let themselves fall behind.
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