Supplementary answer: In your case, there is no crime of damaging public or private property/intentionally damaging transportation, and there is no crime of contacting the other husband. Forget it. Find someone who can communicate with your ex and help you talk to each other. Things are not as complicated as you think.
1, your behavior is not a criminal offence and you will not be detained;
2. If she doesn't go to the police station to close the case, you can't get your deposit back, but you can negotiate with the police station to let the police station come forward and let the other party close the case;
3. You can make an appraisal, whether you can go to the other party's maintenance-related expenses;
In this case, you must negotiate with the other party. If you really can't, let the police station come forward to coordinate with you, or let some of your older friends come forward.