In fact, many facts in real life tell us that the key to stopping domestic violence often lies in the "first time". If we encounter domestic violence for the first time, we just respond like a dragonfly, leaving it alone, and nine times out of ten there will be more serious second and third times.
Whenever we encounter domestic violence, we will respond with the greatest resistance and madness, especially for the first time. Be sure to let the other party wake up completely from this first "carelessness" and "recklessness", accept severe punishment, conduct profound introspection, and let yourself really suffer for a few days and learn more. It is best to "talk about the tiger's color change" and dare not throw hard after raising your hand next time. The law of the jungle is an unchangeable survival law in the animal kingdom, which also applies to marriage and family. Timid people are afraid of boldness, bold people are afraid of death, and men have the strength of violence, so women should also have the ability to fight back.
2. Timely communication+careful management
"When we face cold violence, we should patiently find out the real needs of each other's hearts, face up to the crux of each other's personality and communication barriers, and find that each other has psychological problems and needs timely psychotherapy." Experts say that timely communication is the best way to solve contradictions.
Emotional experts believe that the starting point of the cold war is often hurt but unable to express. When there is a cold war tendency of not talking, husband and wife should be vigilant, remain calm, analyze the reasons that may stimulate cold violence, feel that the other party is hurt, and resolve the cold war deadlock as soon as possible. If the two sides don't want to talk, they can send text messages, write emails and so on. Or gradually communicate from less sensitive topics such as current affairs. Let the other party see their own ideas, put their concerns into practice, and gradually eliminate negative emotions and negative cognition. If reconciliation is really hopeless, it is better to get rid of old ideas such as "Don't wash your dirty linen in public" and "compromise for perfection", make a brave decision and find your own happiness again.
3. Principles of gender equality and justice
Gender equality refers to the equality of people of different sexes in rights, responsibilities and opportunities; Gender justice refers to giving fair treatment to different needs of different sexes, including different treatment to achieve gender equality (such as adhering to the principle of victim-centered). ? Adhere to gender equality and justice and challenge "objectivity" and "neutrality?" Principle. Are there different interest groups and powers? /in a society with uneven distribution of rights, it is impossible to be absolutely "objective" and "neutral" (such as fighting each other? 50 ways to deal with domestic violence cases), and should distinguish right from wrong. Adhere to the principles of gender equality and justice, and break the traditional gender concepts such as binary distinction between public and private spheres, male superiority and female inferiority, and male superiority and female inferiority. The latter is the structural reason for the occurrence and persistence of domestic violence.
4, can not give up self-help.
If you are seriously injured, don't give up your kindness to save yourself, sue him in court and apply to the relevant departments for injury identification, which will be the most favorable evidence to judge the extent of his injury to you.