Let's get together with such an irresponsible person. Otherwise, you will continue to get hurt! You can't stay married alone. If you can't reach an agreement, you can divorce through litigation.
Your happiness is in your own hands, the result of your own choice, not given by others. Be responsible for your own happiness! Bravely say no to the unbearable state in life! What hurts most is not the tragic experience, but the acquiescence to those experiences.
Whenever you base your emotional life on another person's weakness, it means that you have completely given your emotional freedom to that person, which means that you authorize the other person to continue to make a mess of your life in this way. You let your past kidnap your future as a hostage.
Actually, we are not victims. We are always free to choose other people's behavior and choose our own coping style. Our society always puts too much emphasis on the psychology of victims and the way of thinking of condemning others. In fact, we all have a natural ability to be the masters of our own lives.