From the phenomenon, the reason is that Huang returned from his studies to go abroad again after the frustration of the desire to go abroad with his parents; from the essence, the reason is Huang's extreme egotism, it is egotism, leading to his desire to go abroad again, it is egotism leads to him in order to achieve the purpose of unscrupulous.
Huang, a man from Nanning, Guangxi, was arrested in Cambodia on August 17 after killing his parents. Huang, who had previously studied in the UK, was born to a father who was a lawyer at Zhongjun Law Firm and a mother who was a professor at the Faculty of Arts at Guangxi University for Nationalities. The family's annual income was nearly one million dollars.
Such an intellectual and affluent family, how could the same tragedy of extermination occur? From the phenomenon, the reason is that Huang returned from his studies to go abroad again after the frustration of the desire to go abroad with his parents in conflict; from the essence, the reason is Huang's extreme egoism, it is egoism, leading to his desire to go abroad again, it is egoism leads to him in order to achieve the purpose of doing whatever it takes!
Egoism, originating from the selfishness of human beings, refers to the idea of caring only for one's own interests without regard to the interests of others and collective interests. It is characterized by the unscrupulous pursuit of fame, status and enjoyment from an extremely selfish personal end.
At present, the egoism of some of China's younger generation, especially some of the only child, is particularly prominent. A family of one, pampered, egotistical, selfish, do not know how to share, no patience, short-tempered, what is said, want what you want, was refuted or can not meet the cry, angry, in order to meet the selfishness of any means.
The bloody facts warn us that it's not too late to mend, and that we parents and educators at all levels should start now, at home and at school, to nip egoism in the bud and make our children physically and psychologically healthier, our families more harmonious, and our society more stable.
So how do you nip a child's egoism in the bud?
1. Positive education and strengthening guidance. We can use a variety of ways through positive education, so that children y understand the harm of selfishness, so as to change the bad habits of selfishness. We are all people in society, all people are mutually beneficial interests **** the same body; egoist will lose friends, lack of cooperation, can not maximize the benefits; to have all for me, all for one's ideology; cooperation and sharing in order to **** win, selfishness will only lose.
2. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. Children, who are highly imitative and capable of learning, can easily learn what and how we say and do. This requires us, parents and educators, to set a good example. We must make our children hear our words of consideration for others and see our actions of selfless sharing with others. In this way, the influence of the ear, subtle, silently cultivate children's good ideological character and behavioral habits.
3. Take on roles and think differently. We can try to let the children in the family, school and society to play some small role, learn to think differently. In the family, let the children share the household chores, such as mopping the floor, sweeping the floor, cleaning up the house, etc., so that the children can feel the hard work of their parents and the importance of maintaining hygiene and reasonableness, so as to further understand the interdependence of family members, caring for each other, and mutual care of each other's relationship. In school, teachers should let every student have his/her own position as far as possible and participate in classroom management, so that those children who are usually more selfish can learn to think about others and get exercise and improvement. In the society, let the children participate more in things that help others. For example, help the elderly to carry things, pick up newspapers, and deliver some good food to relatives and friends. In this process, the child will experience the warmth of mutual help between people, learn to think differently and care about others.
4. Create conditions to learn to share. We should create conditions that allow children to have more contact with children and partners, and learn to share in the process. For example, encourage your child to invite children or classmates to your home to play, eat and study, and encourage your child to voluntarily and consciously share the fun and delicious food with your friends or classmates. Also encourage your child to participate in various activities at other children's or classmates' homes.
5. Cancel? privileges? that can be reasonably met. Parents should cancel their children's special privileges at home. Special? Status, can not say what is what, inertia, such as killing the child, raised without teaching as a donkey. All things are spoiled children, will promote the child to my only selfish character. When parents have limited ability and can not meet the child's requirements, the child will be furious, when parents have to give in to the time, it will promote the child's willful character. Therefore, in the family, try not to give special treatment to children, and reasonably meet their needs to eliminate their self-centeredness. The child's sense of self-centeredness can be eliminated. The first thing that you need to do is to get rid of all the stuff that you've been doing.