Asking for help from a lawyer, father-son problem, family, weight loss, abandonment crime? Abuse?

Your father's behavior should be said to have not violated the law. His organs are somewhat improper and his words are somewhat extreme, but he still loves you. As for his saying that other children are good, maybe he is too demanding of you. As for the crime of abandonment and abuse mentioned in your topic, it is not worth mentioning.

I think you can let grandma talk to dad, and you should communicate with him more, and go home and buy him some gifts. Now you don't understand that a father's love for his children is deeply hidden in his heart and generally will not be realized. At this time, if your performance makes him dissatisfied, he will be very sad and angry, and his attitude towards you will be very bad. Let's communicate more and increase our understanding.