Finally, the husband obtained the ownership of the vase. As soon as he walked out of Melbourne District Court, he stopped his ex-wife and smashed the vase in full view!
Three years of anxiety, countless sleepless nights and huge legal fees, just to hear such a crunchy sound? At the end of marriage, some paranoid exes may become dumber than donkeys.
The narrow-minded ex-husband was angry: "Why am I the one who divorced and why am I the one who was abandoned?" ? He spent a lot of money to break this antique vase in front of his ex-wife to make her sad. The woman said that at that moment, her last warmth for her ex-husband disappeared. Everyone will be fine in the future, so we don't have to meet each other.
Maybe there are many similar things. I have a friend who is a lawyer. He would rather represent a murderer than accept divorce cases related to family law.
In his words: "The worst murderer also has a human side. Moreover, all kinds of divorce cases and evils have come out, which makes me doubt life every day. It's no exaggeration for a pervert to break a vase. The most irritating thing is those domestic violence men who lack humanity, and they are often so angry that I can't sleep! "
In their law firm in Melbourne's central business district, the family law department is the most profitable department, and the dividends of partners are enviable. But he is still "we waved goodbye" without any nostalgia.
Now he specializes in criminal cases, not divorce cases. This means that he will start as a junior lawyer, and his income will drop sharply, but he thinks it is worth it-at least he can have a good sleep.
He told me that many domestic violence men are not necessarily as juryman and fierce as everyone thinks, just like Kansai Town in Water Margin. On the contrary, many domestic violence men are handsome and can be called good looks; Eloquent and charming.
Many times when I first came into contact with a domestic violence man, he was puzzled: Are you kidding? Is this charming man really as miserable as described in his wife's complaint? Does this man have two faces, the rational and generous side to outsiders, and the most unbearable side to stay at home?
Unfortunately, this is the case. Domestic violence men like to hide themselves, and their true colors are often exposed in their wives' complaints:
They turned a deaf ear to their wives' request to share the housework. Wives demand equal communication, which they think is confrontation. It's daydreaming for a wife to ask for economic enjoyment!
In their eyes, wives don't need to think independently, but do housework silently according to orders. Well done, nothing more than a bland compliment from their mouths: "My wife is really capable!" "
It sounds like Lu Xun's The True Story of Ah Q: "Ah Q can really do it!" He is like a self-reliant king in this small family kingdom, enjoying the supreme right to speak; And only enjoy rights, no obligations.
Rabbits bite when they are in a hurry. Ah Q also wants to have a comfortable scenery for a few days, and his wives who have been silently dedicating themselves have also erupted. Of course, domestic violence men can't tolerate this kind of awakening and resistance-just like dogs can't bear to lose their bones and their past hegemony.
In order to regain control of their wives, they resorted to violence; Domestic violence is not only waving old fists, but also cold violence such as verbal insult, personality degradation and economic control.
A docile wife is a handy tool in the eyes of a violent man at home, just like a domestic slave carefully domesticated by a farmer in Gone with the Wind. How do domestic slaves demand equality and dignity?
This extremely selfish idea is the core thinking of domestic abusers and goes deep into the bone marrow. Thought determines action, and character determines life. Domestic violence is by no means a whim, because fists obey the brain; Therefore, there are only zero and countless domestic violence, and there is no middle value.
If the awakened wife insists on leaving, the violence will escalate directly. Their way of thinking is simple and rude. If they don't get something, they will destroy it. Whether it's a vase or an ex-wife determined to escape. There are no typos here. Ex-wife and vase are "it" in the eyes of violent men at home.
According to the latest statistics of Australian Domestic Violence Center, more than1000 women are killed by their families every day in the world, and more than one third of the perpetrators are their partners. Some are now, and some are old. Is this world ridiculous? It turns out that the most dangerous place for a woman is not the wild or dark alley, but her own home, which was originally used to shelter from the wind and rain!
Su Min, a 56-year-old woman in China, escaped domestic violence in "Let's go", and she was very angry about it. Many media kept reporting on her camping life, and everyone felt that she finally lived the life she wanted and was really happy for her. However, the latest news is that Su Min, who ran away from home, recently returned to her family and continued to be a good wife and mother willingly.
After reading this follow-up report, many people felt angry and disappointed. So did I. Su Min probably didn't know that she had put herself in danger day after day. If she can read the above, maybe she will understand the hopeless case of domestic violence and stop using the rest of her life as an ineffective antidote.
Lu Xun predicted this reversal in the article after Nora left. He said, "Nora, who ran away from home, either degenerated or returned." There is a simple reason. At that time, it was difficult for women to have the opportunity and ability of economic independence. In order to survive, they either degenerate and sell themselves for bread, or return to that family like a magic cave.
Su Min doesn't really have to worry about economic problems after leaving home. She once represented a maverick attitude towards life and was a symbol of modern women's independence. With this person, Su Min can at least get enough business endorsements for her to make a living.
What brought Su Min back? Only Su Min knows.
Maybe she still has illusions about her ex-husband, maybe she thinks that taking care of her family is her destiny in life, or maybe she goes out for a walk and finds that the outside world is just that. No matter how to "disturb" her family and how to suppress it, it is her familiar comfort zone after all. She returned home and continued to do laundry, cooking and housework hard; The stingy husband still clung to his salary of 4000 yuan and refused to share a dime with Su Min.
Su Min's business, after all, is her family's business, and others don't like it anymore, and they have no right to blame it. Compared with many women who are still struggling in bad marriages, Su Min is fearless. Su Min's departure once gave many struggling women a little hope. However, Su Min's return made these women glad that they had not followed Su Min's footsteps.
The sun will rise tomorrow, bringing a new day to everyone, impartial.
Tomorrow Su Min may run away and stay at home. This is an unsolved mystery, just like Schrodinger's cat.
People in a healthy world will enter the hospital operating room one day, and loving couples may go to court. Life is full of uncertainty, and what should happen will happen eventually. After a period of adjustment, ranging from one or two years to three or five years, most ordinary people can slowly resolve the pain caused by the end of intimate relationships and start a new life.
I just hope Su Min can always keep a clear head and the ability to choose. If this family can still accommodate her once free soul, she can naturally stay there; If she just repeats the same mistakes and returns to the victim mode that she is used to, I sincerely hope that she has the courage to run away for herself again.
Too many kind women, "the mistake is to love you too much, and the mistake is not to cherish yourself." There are still a few days left in the rest of my life. I hope Su Like Min, an absolutely kind woman in Qian Qian, Qian Qian, "cherish herself" and let your kindness shine.