Many young people think that they will choose to get married when they have a stable job, a house and a car, but their parents can ignore these. When you reach marriageable age and gradually become older and single, you will be urged to get married by your parents. What should I do in the face of parents urging marriage? Let's learn the skills of coping with parents' urging marriage together!
what about parents urging marriage
why do parents urge marriage? It's just that they can't bear the questioning from seven aunts and eight aunts and neighbors about "why don't your children get married? Is there something wrong with them?" As a result, they passed this pressure on to you, so as children, you should bear the double pressure. So that whether you are willing to blind date, whether the object of blind date is really satisfactory, whether you are willing to get married, and whether you are happy after marriage are all less important. Therefore, if you don't want to get married hastily, you might as well learn how to face your parents' urging marriage first!
Take care of yourself
Nowadays, because of the relationship between parents' age and birth time, many parents don't know how to express their love and care, so when parents and children express their love, most of the time they care about food, clothing, housing and marriage. Parents don't directly express their love for their children, but as parents, they deeply love their children internally. What they do is nothing more than revealing the care and love of an elderly person for their children, but as adult children, they must first learn to take care of themselves, have a healthy body and a good career development and plan. When you can take good care of your body, mind and career, then your parents will see your growth and slowly let go and respect all your choices. A growing child will become a good teacher for parents, and you will create something called harmony. Take care of yourself, and you will create a sky for yourself to fly freely.
convince parents that they have a good financial situation
In the inspirational drama Sex and the City, an American single woman, there is an episode in which four girlfriends discuss why women get married. The female lawyer said: If there are inexhaustible free houses in the market, each of us will remain single! Originally, your parents urged you to get married and have children because you were worried that you would be alone, eating badly, not wearing warm clothes, not having a piece of tile to cover your head, being sick and unattended, and even dying when you are old. But if you can achieve financial freedom, why do you have to find someone to share all the things and services that can be bought with money?
Communicate with your parents seriously
The time and opportunity of communication are very important. It is best to avoid other brothers and sisters and relatives and friends, and communicate when you are alone with your parents and your parents are in a relaxed mood. Depending on the family atmosphere in your, you can decide whether to explain to your parents why you are left behind, but this is not important information. The most important thing you need to tell your parents is that you understand their situation, their feelings, and that they are doing it for your own good. But now that you have grown up, you know what kind of life you want, and of course you know what kind of life partner you really want. Let them know that you have been working hard for your happiness and that you have the ability to live a happy life.
make clear the main indicators of the object you are looking for
be as specific as possible. And the indicators should not be too many, just one or three, and everything is equal to no indicators. Among the specific indicators, we should distinguish which are the main ones and which are the secondary ones, and avoid taking the icing on the cake as an important indicator to measure each other. As a result, we have lost the watermelon.