Less grumpy, more peaceful, how many people can?

The fast pace of life, heavy work pressure, and many unsatisfied desires … all these make you upset and always want to release negative emotions; When you go out, it's either traffic jam or smog. If you are late, you will be scolded by the leader. When the air is bad, the mask doesn't work, but you can't live without going out to work ... these are all hurdles that you can't get around if you want. There is always an evil fire burning in your chest. What should you do? It is true that with the development of urbanization, people are living in cities more and more, which leads to various social and psychological problems. Negative emotions are inevitable, and our correct approach is to avoid congestion. You need to release these negative emotions properly and give yourself an outlet. But how to release, how to release is learned. If released unscrupulously, it is a rage that people dare not avoid, which may lead to fire; If it is not released, it will cause greater psychological problems, such as depression, or other social obstacles and psychological stress reactions.

first, we should release negative emotions in time and properly, and don't get angry.

It's normal to have negative emotions, because people can't be happy forever. Trouble will accompany us from birth, and wise people will look down on everything, but these saints are a minority after all. As an ordinary person, we should learn to mediate our psychological state. The psychological state of mediation is nothing more than "timely" and "moderate". "Timely" means dealing with and digesting troubles immediately, without staying overnight. For example, if you are told by your boss, you should find your own reasons immediately to avoid making mistakes again. If the boss deliberately finds fault, you ignore him and turn a deaf ear to what he says as a dog barking. If you have an argument with your spouse, as long as you want to move on, settle it immediately. There is no competition between husband and wife. Active reconciliation doesn't mean you lose, but sometimes you win. If you are bullied outside, as long as you don't make mistakes, then we can either bear it or take it out. As long as it's not a big deal, it's okay to endure it, because "endure a calm moment and take a step back." Of course, if something happens, don't be afraid. If we need to vent our anger, we will collect evidence, find a lawyer to defend our rights or call the police.

"Moderate" refers to the moderate release of emotions, because it is too late to prevent excessive release from harming yourself or others. For example, if we drink too much and release our emotions by drinking, we are likely to bear civil liability or even criminal liability. If you don't drink, but damage other people's property, you also need to bear the corresponding liability for compensation.

second, face it calmly, be humiliated, look down on everything, and have a peaceful mind.

"Caigen Tan Leisure" says: No shame, just look at the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court; If you have no intention of staying or staying, it is easy to follow the clouds outside. People's life is inherently uneven, and there must be all kinds of troubles. When there is no money, worry about making money; When you have money, you are also worried about your own money. People's desires are endless and insatiable. So we need to look down on everything, keep a peaceful mind, and be an easy-to-satisfy person, not an insatiable person. Remember, you can't be cold at the top. We envy those rich people and those who are officials. In fact, they also envy us ordinary people.

Third, you should eat rice bit by bit and live day by day.

The old man said that rice should be eaten bit by bit. It means that as long as everyone is alive, they will have three meals a day, sunrise and sunset. Waking up normally every day is happiness, thanks to the gift of God. Happiness is also a day, so is trouble. Why not make yourself happier?

Finally, don't release your negative emotions to your family, because they are innocent, and your family is actually your eternal harbor. The purpose of our hard work outside is to make our families happy. Even if you are unhappy, try to hold it in front of your family. Let's lose our temper with others, don't you think?

Mencius said, "Confucius climbed the East Mountain but was small, and climbed Mount Tai but was smaller than the world. Therefore, it is difficult for people watching the sea to swim in the water, and it is also difficult for people at the gate of saints to speak. If you have the ability to watch water, you must watch it. The sun and moon are bright, and the light will shine. Running water is also a thing, but it is not a mirror; The ambition of a gentleman is also in the Tao, and it cannot reach the chapter. "

Liu Guoying, the first batch of demobilized military officers who chose their own jobs in the military reform in 216, is a third-level psychological counselor and assistant financial planner, the first secretary-general of Langfang Military Innovation Home, the founder of Langfang Military Innovation Lawyer Volunteer Service Team, and now he is the people's supervisor of the People's Procuratorate of Hebei Province, the social supervisor specially invited by Langfang Post, and the intern lawyer of Hebei Tonglun Law Firm.