Ms. Song and Mr. Wu in Fengxian District of Shanghai were originally a couple. Twenty years ago, because Mr. Wu had a serious domestic violence against Ms. Song, Ms. Song sued for divorce and the court pronounced that their marriage was over.
Soon after, Ms. Song automatically moved back to Mr. Wu's residence, because she considered that her 4-year-old daughter was too young for Mr. Wu to take care of herself. In order to give their children a complete childhood, Ms. Song and Mr. Wu went back to the past.
In the past 20 years, except for not going to the civil affairs bureau to register for marriage, the rest are no different from husband and wife, and they still live a normal husband and wife life. Mr. Wu once again "domestic violence" Ms. Song. Ms. Song was extremely angry and found the local judicial office to sue her ex-husband.
The explanation given by Mr. Wu is that Ms. Song gave him a big green hat. It turns out that Ms. Song is dating another man. At four o'clock in the morning, Mr. Wu, who followed Ms. Song, saw her coming out of this man's house, which was puzzling.
As soon as Ms. Song gets home at five o'clock, she will go to bed. Mr. Wu gave her a direct push, stripped her of her blouse and trousers, punched and slapped for a while, and all her fists and palms fell on Ms. Song.
Mr. Wu believes that Ms. Song's association with other men has humiliated him. In the past 20 years of cohabitation, he always thought that Ms. Song was his wife. Although the court sentenced the two to divorce, they did not formally go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the formalities and took out the marriage certificate of that year as evidence.
Obviously, Mr. Wu is a legal illiterate with developed limbs and simple mind. Now that the court has ruled that the two men are divorced, they are not husband and wife even if they don't go through the divorce formalities and get a divorce certificate. Even if they live together and have intimate actions, we can't deny the established fact that Ms. Song has the right to love freely.
Moreover, the lawyer also concluded that Mr. Wu's behavior, in a strict sense, can no longer be regarded as "domestic violence" behavior, but intentional injury, which belongs to the category of criminal offences.
The dispute between Mr. Wu and Ms. Song goes far beyond this. In the 20 years of living together, they also bought a house of 800 thousand. Now, in addition to emotional disputes, there is also the issue of property division, and it is in court again.
In view of Mr. Wu's "violent" behavior, Ms. Song proposed to give him only one-third of the property, while Mr. Wu wanted to transfer the house to his daughter's name. The two sides can't reach an agreement and can only solve it through legal channels.
In this hot event, I am puzzled by a question, what are the men and women who live together after divorce?
There is a saying in "The Warring States Policy Touching the Dragon and Saying the Empress Dowager": "Parents love their children, so their plans are far-reaching." Parents' love for their children is always so selfless, and a hard-hearted person will become gentle on children's issues.
As the old saying goes, "Being a mother is just right". Ms. Song moved to Mr. Wu's residence for her 4-year-old daughter. Because I am an emotional writer, I often receive letters from unhappy women. When it comes to divorce, their mantra is "What about the children?"
Especially those new mothers, it is even more difficult to choose and struggle, and finally made a compromise.
"I'll divorce when my children go to high school", "I'll divorce when my children are admitted to college" and "I'll divorce when my children get married and have children" ... The bottom line goes back and forth, and as the days go by, the years make people old, and most of my life is wasted like this.
This reason may be hard to say, but it is a cruel reality. Some men and women are divorced, but they still miss their former husband and wife life, especially those young men and women, who each have great physiological needs. After a few drinks, they lost their sense of proportion and slept together.
In addition to physical needs, men and women also have spiritual needs. Although the days of being single are much quieter, the fireworks are also much less. After a busy day, I feel a little lost and lonely when I come home from work, without hot food and a partner to chat with.
If you can't find a suitable partner for a while, find your ex-husband. After all, two people have lived together for many years before, and there are many people who share the same language. Chatting with each other is more tacit, and distance produces beauty. We used to get too close, but now we have a good chat because of the sense of distance.
Zhong He divorced in Nothing More than Thirty and didn't leave home, but lived together after divorcing Chang Sheng in Sweet.
On the one hand, I didn't leave home after the divorce because I didn't want my parents to know the news of the divorce. On the other hand, we also have fantasies. Divorce is an impulsive move, not leaving home, in order to give each other more time to think.
Most of the results of cohabitation after divorce are that men and women finally put aside their differences and get together again. Now the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, but the remarriage rate is also increasing year by year.
If you don't talk to each other after divorce, especially those men and women who have no children to worry about, there will be no possibility of getting back together in the future. Facing the end of marriage, every man and woman are not all excited. When they see the divorce certificate, they will show reluctance.
I live together temporarily because I still have the idea of remarriage in my heart. This kind of behavior not only gives me a chance to regret, but also gives the other person a step down, and the chances of remarriage will be greater in the future.